I DO READ PROFILES!! Reading gives me a chance to get to know PERSONALITIES.
I look for 2 general qualities:
1) Someone who compliments me. Someone who is strong in places where I'm lacking. I tend to be too structured so I want someone who can help me enjoy life more.
2) Someone I can just be myself around. I feel flawed most of the time and I've gone through great lengths in the past to hide the flaws, but I've learned that's just not sustainable. I want someone who will embrace/love those flaws or not see them as flaws at all.
I am most attracted to black men. My NUMBER ONE turnoff is SMOKING of any kind! (No negotiation.) I'm usually not attracted to men who have kids. That includes men who refuse to say whether they have kids or not. (Sorry) I don't want a rocket scientist, but I do look for intelligence. I have no problem with a typo or two but when I read profiles and notes with little/no PUNCTUATION or too many "creatively" spelled words, I tend to assume you're not too bright.
My goal is to find the man I could marry. If that doesn't work out and I end up with friends instead, I'm happy with that as well. But it has to be one or the other, no "in-betweens". (ex. "friends with benefits", "sex-buddies"...) So if you're just looking for hook-ups or dating but nothing serious, I'm not your girl. I'm dating with a purpose. I'm not usually into anyone who considers themself a thug-type. Materialistic guys are a HUGE turnoff.
Physical attraction IS important to me, as it usually is with most people. If I'm not attracted, I probably just won't respond. (Word to the wise, it's a bad idea to have on hats and/or glasses in ALL of your pictures. Anybody can appear to be attractive hiding behind all that. I want to see what I'm getting.) I won't waste my time replying to everybody who sends me a note. I will not ask for pictures. If you don't have any pictures, you probably won't hear anything back from me. I'm generally not attracted to "big" guys. I see some people on here feel like a webpage isn't a proper way to get to know someone, they're just looking for access. But I tend to be a little hesitant about meeting new people, wondering what I've gotten myself into. I like to get as many cues about PERSONALITY as I possibly can before meeting someone. So if you choose to keep your profile mainly blank, you more than likely won't hear from me. As far as I'm concerned, this is your opportunity to make an impression beyond just looks. If you're too lazy, unmotivated, private, etc to do that, I probably won't dig for info. Usually I try not to waste my time.
My hobbies generally fall on the artistic side. I mostly enjoy R&B and old school music. I'm currently trying to figure out my next move in the career world. I'm not necessarily looking to be rich, just comfortable. I have come a long way in the past 2 years and I would like to continue in that direction. I am very good with finances when I want/need to be. I usually have my priorities straight when it comes to money.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Something that involves getting to know the other person, usually going to eat, going for a walk. I don't mind bowling or movies or being physical at some point down the road, but I would rather get to know you on the first date.