I'm not really looking anymore. When it comes to sharing life together, I have more of my life behind me than in front of me. So there's not really much point anymore. However, I'm keeping this here just in case the one that I've been looking for sees it, so that she can see that I exist. I'd still like to meet the one who's been looking for me and who I've been looking for. So, the following is the kind of profile that I've had in various single's services or dating sites. And my pictures here aren't very recent...I'm still hot as hell though.
There's a lot of things beyond the following that we'd have to get to know about each other before really knowing who we are and if we belong together, but these are what I've always said were the most important upfront before anything else. These are some of the things which I feel are the magic indicators of whether or not there is even any possibility.
You believe in love, want a real relationship, and understand what they really are instead of the cliches. Yes, I define 'relationship' as a closed/monogamous, long term, sharing and intertwining of life and common life direction.
You have always been looking for me, not simply open to something more serious. You are not just ready to settle down and now want someone to share life with only after a certain point in life or because you can no longer afford to goof around, but instead you have always been looking for me.
You have not been just having fun first, and you don't place an opportunity for sex above your chances of finding me. You make it clear upfront what you're looking for with dates, and don't see it as applying pressure, moving too fast, having premature expectations, or being too serious. You don’t risk not finding me because of being closed to finding something until reaching a particular point in life.
You don’t think of having a relationship as ownership, losing your freedom, or being tied down. You don’t feel like strongly wanting someone somehow makes you incomplete as an individual, or without purpose, identity, or happiness.
You don’t easily fall in love and aren’t just in love with the idea of love. You aren’t wanting someone simply to have someone. You are able to be alone, independent, and are complete yourself even though you’re looking for someone to complete you.
You feel that worrying about falling out of love or having to settle doesn't apply. And problems with co-dependency, me-time, or being clingy seem weird to you also.
You do not say things like - I'll believe in love when I see it; I want a relationship but I'm not looking for one; I just want one man to prove to me that they're not all the same; Why do I need a man. Also, your profile doesn't say 'just ask' or 'nobody reads these anyway'.
You do not use your gender unfairly, dishonestly, or manipulatively, and your behavior doesn't encourage gender-imbalance or gender-war mindsets.
Due to the nature of online dating and gender behaviors, and the type of woman I'm looking for anyway, I rarely send first messages. I volunteer the kind of information in my profile that people are supposed to for you to see, and you have to message me first.
Concerning initial dating: You don't operate according to foregone conclusions; The purpose of dating is to get to know who each other is, not to court or impress; You go 'dutch' and pay for your share of dates without it even being discussed.
You...are an artistic/creative type; Are an outdoors/nature lover; Are non-religious; Are environmentally conscious and socially tolerant; Enjoy Halloween; Almost never wear make-up; Would love to occasionally hand-craft and play abstract strategy board games with me; Hip-hop and Country are not your primary musical interests, and you might even know of the word 'ethnomusicology'.
Lastly, I am poor and live a humble lifestyle. If you want someone who's really established, you won't like me.