I have always been a unique soul and am looking for someone who is not afraid to be themselves because it seems like everyone is so "cookie cutter" these days. Everyone works so hard to fit in. I don't get that. Individuality and "different" are not widely accepted like they used to be; especially because we are all mostly from someplace else. We know how to blend in back where we came from, but not here in AZ. It's almost like the real, unique and original people in the valley are not really accepted; especially if they are not into sports, partying, hiking, living at the gym, or partying. Where do those people with a true identity fit in? So, that brings me to another observation; I have noticed that people try too hard on here. Either they very aggressive or very timid. The purpose of this site is to break the proverbial ice, not send out wedding invitations. In order to learn about people, just be yourself. Ask questions about them based on what they spent time writing about themselves. Profiles that say "If you want to know, ask." are not really enough to go on, and to me are just as lame as messages that only say "Hi."
I am beginning to see online dating as a replacement for the cheesy pick-up line riddled, booty-call hunter nightclub scene, which is also now cheesy and difficult for the same reasons it seems. Its like a dog-and-pony-show. Peacocks everywhere... Online dating/ socializing is supposed to be a safe place for people who want to avoid that douchebaggery of a nightclub. I hope it stays that way.
I am different than the norm and pride myself in being me. I am looking for someone who is themselves; someone who knows how to sit at home and be content and/ or be spontaneous. I want a relationship, but I don't want clingy or co-dependent. No stalking please. I want someone in my life who is not "one of the other sheep", who thinks for themselves and doesn't do things just because everyone else in the east valley is. I am not a big club or bar person, I am in the spotlight and an "seen" enough being in and owning a theatre company. I am ALWAYS ending up somewhere after a performance, and I am very social and conversational when I am out. I don't like always going stag though. My "me" time does often include others and I use it all very wisely, but I always make time for those who are a special part of my life.
The ideal "best fit" for me knows moderation, doesn't care what others think, gives their own personal best in everything, can trust (until given a reason not to), is secure emotionally, isn't obsessive, clingy, is socially aware, doesn't prematurely/ unfairly judge others, is a realist yet can dream freely and openly, knows moderation (alcohol, 420, spending and football all count), marches to the beat of their own drum, knows how to agree to disagree, never goes to bed angry, knows what they want and loves children and dogs.
What I love:
- BEING A DAD.
- Bittersweetly watching my kids grow up.
- The smell of rain.
- Being the reason for a smile.
- Living an active lifestyle.
- Being able to fix things.
- Agreeing to disagree.
- The arts.
- Sports (not obsessive though)
- Game nights with friends.
- The bookstore.
- Intelligent conversation/ communication about anything (except religion or politics).
So that's me on a very basic level...
Oh, and although I would like to date someone local in the Phoenix, AZ area, I am open to meeting people in other areas like San Diego, Las Vegas, etc. I figure if we enjoy each other's company, it's not at all time wasted. I would travel to see and spend time with anyone I care for.
I wish all on here the best of health, happiness, and the best of luck in their search for the one. Life is designed to enjoy it, not trudge through it. Participate in life, don't be spectator of it- there is too much to see. Even then, choose to learn from the bad, and do better; even fail better. Have a great day and I hope you find all that you are looking for real soon!