Long profile, I know. There will be a quiz to see if you took the time! Haha
I have been in northern cal since feb 2012 . i moved from so cal , santa monica and am still adjusting. I am looking for a relationship based on mutual attraction respect and shared interests though I am quite willing to embrace differences as well. Politically, I am a bit conservative yet flexible to learn and grow and change. I don't believe politics need to effect our ability to have a successful relationship.
I am not interested in flings . I am not interested in men recently divorced or waiting for the papers to complete. Divorces are hard and most often a period of healing is required. I want someone who is not broken, someone I won't have to fix. That isn't my job.
I am a professional with great family and job. I am kind and compasionate and a good Person. I think of kindness as confetti, a smile, buying a cup of coffee for a random stranger , a card on s coworker desk, lending an ear...If I hurt you, I am quick to apologize and try to make it up with kindness. I try to see most things as differences, not right or wrong. I will always try my best to meet you where you are and I stay as long as you care about me and are willing to work on our differences
I don't make promises I don't keep. So I have learned not to believe the men who promise me the moon and the sun after a few dates. Those are the ones who run away at the smallest disagreement. I will not lose myself in the difficulties of the dating process, in the immaturity, selfishness, confusion and unkind ways of others. I let all that pass right through me, Returning inconsideration with kindness is the hardest. Using others vulnurabilities against them may seem justified when they have hurt me. Kindness however leaves me vulnerable, loving , open with my feelings and able to connect to others even the ones who hurt me genuinely wishing them love and happiness.
I am pretty friendly, down to earth and casual in my interactions. I believe in politeness and the golden rule . Please however, don't mistake my Niceness for weakness! I am not nauive. I know when to walk away.
Random things about me: I like tomatoes, balloons, kissing, thrift stores, bargains, and public display of affection. If you have issues around expressing affection , we will not be a match . I have an unusual name, and a slight accent. I buy used books on Amazon. People say I look much younger than my age. I am probably too hard on myself so I don't do well with people who are overtly critical of me. I think imperfections are endearing and make you, you!
I can be deep and philosophical. But equally goofy and playful. I value education and goal oriented men. If you are a great father, I notice and give you brownie points! I am great with kids :)
I believe we all need a passion and a purpose in life to be happy. My passion is helping others and it sustains me through everything.
Hope you love to travel. I have a passport and have been to multiple countries. Just came back from easter island and Chile!!! Let's go somewhere together. Seattle? NY? Maybe Nepal? Lima? :)
Sweep me off my feet! Take me on an amazing date. It has been so long :( :(
Update: Bathroom selfies? Umm no thanks!
Second update: overgrown facial hair, excessive tattoos , stained shirts, splitting bills and groping on dates. I prefer clean shaven, clean shirts,no tatoos and leaving your octopus hands at home! Help me believe that chivalry is well and alive!
If you are here, I appreciate you reading! I hope you have gotten a good sense for who I am :) and if you like who I am , drop me a line! :) Quiz comes later! Wink'
i think early afternoon drinks would be nice. Meeting to say hello and to see if there is any connection as friends or otherwise. Maybe if the conversation is flowing, we can have dinner :) Nothing worst than having to sit through a date when you don't feel you have anything in common with the person in any shape or form. Ugh!
You : no older than 55, educated, employed, relationship minded, not selfish and know what you want . Tall is a plus :)