I moved to LA about a year ago for a new job and pretty much all I have done in that year is work. Prior to moving to LA, I spent a year and a big bouncing around various parts of California after moving back to the USA after 15 years living in London. I've really only met a couple people here in the last year. Mostly due to a combination of work hours and I was in a live in relationship for a good part of that year. That ended a few months ago. So, I'm freshly single and, if I am honest, I'm feeling bit lonely. All I do is go to work and come back home to sleep. So, meeting new people has been difficult. I'm looking to change that.
I'm 36 years old, bisexual and a BBW. I'm most interested in intelligent men with a bit of geek about them. Nothing turns me on more than mental stimulation. Somebody who is well spoken and gives good conversation is going to have the best chance of turning my head.
A liberal mind will likely mean we will get along best. I have a strong interest in current events and politics and I am just going to be honest and say that if you are ultra conservative then we aren't going to be a good fit. I'm the type of gal that has her DVR set to record The Daily Show and Colbert and owns the box set of the West Wing.
I am heavily involved in the BBW community and have been most of my life. Yup, that means I am fat. In fact, make that short and fat. I am 5 foot 2 and bounce between 225 and 240 pounds as of late. The vast majority of my weight is in my belly and thighs. If you don't like a big belly then I am not going to be your physical type. I need whoever I get involved with the be honestly into fat women. I fully appreciate that people can have diverse tastes - I do too - but I need to feel there is a real attraction to bodies such as mine rather than something that is simply put up with in order to get laid.
I lived in London for a good number of years and have dual US and UK citizenship. While I lived there, I was widowed once (8 year marriage) and divorced once. The divorce is why I decided to try moving back to the States. I miss the United Kingdom a great deal but I'm trying to make a life for myself here.
If you are a British expat living in the LA area and you like fat chicks then we really should talk..lol.
Having lived in Europe for such a long time and that means I have a developed a world view that is hard to shake. I don’t do well with being an navel gazing American. I've never really understood people that don't have a desire to see more than their home town because travel is almost a primal urge for me. I am always ready to jump on a plane or train and explore somewhere new in the world. So, it would be good for a person to have a world view and want to travel.
I love - no I mean LOVE - music. I have a wide range of musical taste and will listen to any good song. However, my ‘home’ when it comes to music are groups like R.E.M., Placebo, Depeche Mode, The Cure, The Clash, Nirvana, Kaiser Chiefs, Blur, etc. That said, I am a Dizzee Rascal and The Streets fan too. If you know who they are then we should talk for sure!
I am extremely sexual driven. No, seriously, I have a drive that would put most men to shame. However, I am picky and I always play safe. Do not think that I am going to be an easy lay. I am looking to develop some sort of report with somebody before it goes in that direction. So, hitting me up with 'DTF' type messages is going to be a waste.
I'm a particularly open minded person and I've tried on a bunch of different lifestyles - open relationships, polyamory, swinging - to see which would fit me best. I'm honestly not sure the answer to which is best for me but I have figured out that if I am in a relationship with somebody, no matter what the other rules may be, I need honesty and emotional loyalty from them. I will certainly give the same in return.
Being newly single, I plan on being independent for a while but I'd like to make but it would be nice to develop a FWB relationship. However, I do want the friend part too. It is so much better that way anyway. If a FWB turned into something more, then it does but it isn't my primary focus.
Physically, I tend to like thinner men but it isn't a hard set rule. Race is not an issue for me but I will be honest and say that most of my partners have been white or black. Where I do have a type, is mentally. I am not going to put a definitive age bracket but I am 36. So, chances are people that are going to meet the essential 'friends' level are going to be in their late 20s or up. Of course, results may vary.
I work in marketing for the adult industry. Anybody I am with will have to be okay with that. I'm purely on the business end of things but I am aware it isn't everybody's comfort zone.