I think the first date is what counts the most. I think it shoud be relaxing and not so nerve racking. Be yourself instead of something you can never amount up to in the end. Always be honest. If you dont have it, dont mention it. Dont be affraid to speak up about a subject that you know will be brought up again. Honest is the best policy with me. I will never give more than I offer, first and foremost. A first date should not be so hard, as long as you are honest about what you want, like, and dislike.
I say a nice evening out, staring with either a movie or a dinner, then followed by a nice walk to chat about things that catch our intrest. Followed by a nice ending with that person. Its up to you if you like that person to make it your business that he/she will never forget that night, or the conversations that you had. Just simple things that really dont mean anything, will be what stands out for you to see what you like in that person, and want to make you learn more about them.
You do not always have to give up the goodies to have a good time ladies.. And the men will appreciate that more. And men, you dont always have to be so up front to give your goodies away neither, because there are ladies out there who prefer the wait as well.