Recently moved back to Nova Scotia from Alberta. I spent ten years in the army before I got hurt. Currently Waiting to go to school through the army.
Myself, I believe a healthy relationship is an equal partnership centered around; honesty, trust, communication, as well each person being able/allowed to express there wants and needs. Jealousy should not be a factor. I'm a firm believer that communication can solve any problem and prevent any disaster or heart-ache. I'm the type of person who would rather be in trouble over telling the truth, instead of having someone resent me for lying. Being friends first and foremost is the building blocks to build a solid foundation which can built upon over time.Myself I'm whole heartedly looking for a potential mate that when I'm in my 90's, that will still be able hold a valid conversation with, as well as knowing that the other person truly cares for me as much as I to them.
The way I see it, your only born with two thing; your word,and your family. Breaking either can strain and possibly ruin any relationship. I try to see the good in people, even when it's not deserved. I am a firm believer that people should be given the benefit of the doubt. Human nature will always surprise even the most cynical.
Every friendship and every relationship are unique. What I look for in an ideal partner is someone who is mature and who would eventually want to commit to a term long relationship. I am a big believer in monogamy IN a relationship. I will always be a one woman man IN a relationship, and would expect the same respect in return. I don't validate any excuses for adultery. If someone is unhappy, I think it only right as I have said before to communicate your wants and needs. Anything can be solved by communication, understanding, honesty and listening. I try to look past any given pretense to see the actual underlining factor. Some things are the way they are for a reason, there's no need to judge unless you know that reason. Even then who am I to judge? There are already billions of people with a heart heavy with hate, I don't want to be one of them.I guess I view a relationship as "us against the world". The best friend. Someone I could tell things I couldn't tell the guys. Someone I can share my hopes and fears with and not have to be worried about being ostracized. Someone I can be myself with, and not have to worry about being judged. Life is what you make of it, you can only strive to be your best and try to find that special someone that even with a smile, the darkest day shines a little brighter. =)
To talk about myself a little bit. I would consider my self happy go lucky, I don't stress over much. I would like to think I am considerate of other peoples feelings, and can be a good shoulder to cry on. I'm very open minded, no redneck here. I enjoy hanging out with friends, sometimes to go to the local pool hall. I can find fun in most any kind situation. I like to watch movies, play video games pirating movies and hanging out with my puppy Jax. My little English Bull dog, he is pretty neat and fun to be with. But he is a puppy and always seem to find trouble. I used to play alot of floor hockey, volley ball, baseball while I was in the army as part of our morning routine, always fun. I always used to enjoy running to, but since I got hurt in the army, it's a little difficult to play hard impact sports. So I work out to make up for the loss of cardio. Not meaning to say I would try my hand at any type of sport, I might be hurt a little bit, but I'm not handicapped. If you're wondering why I don't drive; I got in a serious accident in the army and am slightly put off on driving atm. =)
By the way.
Just putting it out there since you have read this far, this really has come up. Just because you have a vagina, does not mean your God's gift to man. I am NOT God's gift to women in any sense of the word. I, like anyone else, have faults. I honestly do not try to raise myself above others, but if your a skeeze, your a skeeze. That reference is not based on looks by the way. I believe in second chances, if you're one of those people who burn through them without consideration, you're more than a looser than your friends lead you to believe. When you cheat, get even or even hurt yourself, it does nothing but destroy the most important thing you have spent you life creating; you're self worth. So as you read all my requirements, I'd reflect on who your are before you decide to infect others with this malicious disease that seems to consume most pretty girls; A false entitlement that leads them to believe they are omnipotent. Guess what? You're not, you're not the Goddess you think. So, stop with the duck face, the false entitlement, It impresses no one but the men that see a method for you madness, because it proves that you are that dumb that anyone can get in your pants. Go ahead, get drunk, get mad at your boyfriend/husband and join PoF. I'm sure that will set the "looser" straight. But really who is loosing? So much depravity, so little abortions, No wonder your creepy fifth child from another mamma's Daddy filled your quota for the next 18 years. Keeper closed if you want to prevent "Banjo Kids". As one of my favorite quotes that I can never seem to place rings the truest in this insaine topic"...Flies spread desease, so keep yours closed" But who am I? Worked my whole life, lead as much as an ethical lifestyle.....I also came to a conclusion because I never wanted to be a horrible father. If I Won't make her a wife...I will not make her a mother. Take that for what it is. At 34, my track record speaks for itself.
Don't be firing off 18 messages if I didn't respond in a timely fashion, don't take it personally, I don't. Just roll with the punches, it will make you a better person. =) Have a nice day.
P.S. Think before you fire off some rhetorical question or snarky remark. I guarantee I can be quick, precise and just as snarky or even worse. If you ask if I meant what I wrote, that is a dumb question. If I spent all this time thinking and applying it to "paper", chances are I meant it.
If your some desperate man looking for man on man love, I'm not interested. It is desperate of you to have a profile set up as a woman because you can't find someone to love you. Maybe it's a sign that you need some alone time for self-reflection. I am not your outlet. There are Transgender Women on here, they display and communicate proper respect as a ladies should. Take after them, stop acting desperate, it's un becoming for a man or woman.
Photos don't always show everything. Some people feel self-conscious post old pictures or none at all. I'll be frank. If you don't give me the time of day on here..Don't be trying to chat me up in real life if at that moment I do fit your fancy...no matter how incredibly beautiful you are or how amazing you your mind is...I have a vivid memory...I will remember...It has happened believe it or not...More than once...Small world isn't it...And if you do not know why I'm not giving you the time of day at that time...Ask me...As a gentleman...I will remind you in a polite manner... Getting your face bent out of shape over it only reaffirms my belief that your lack of response on PoF was a god's sent...If you think your words will hurt me, you have the wrong idea..I spent ten years as a professional soldier in the Infantry...Heard and seen it all...
So ya, if my insane ranting hasn't thrown off and your a emotionally stable human (Female) being not bent on world conquest, drop me a line. I may or may not respond. That's the current trend on Pof? Either way use your common sense; don't be a 200lbs shut in at 4 foot 2 with a mustache. Age doesn't really matter, but attraction IS a factor. Someday I would like to have kids of my own. Children don't bother me, but your children aren't mine,they're yours, they have a father, I'm not him. So you having children is not a factor, but if you have four from more than one father under the age of 30, it might be time to stop and think about what your doing in life. "Your vagina is not a clown car." I'll fill in other insanity as it comes across my desk.
P.P.S. And to those people so see fit to copy and paste Plenty of Fish advice as there personal content; not only is it lazy but it shows lack of character. You get what you put into it, and sometimes you get nothing at all.
Oh, don't message me complaining,for all intents and purposes, I am a stranger. Everyone has a hard done by story, don't live by it, get past it.