I don't do well with fake people...at all. I am who I say I am and don't need a facade to hide behind. I am the same guy on the first date that I am after we have been together for 5 years.
OK so what I am looking for...someone who still gets giddy when they get excited about going someplace awesome or about to do something new. Someone who still likes to lay on the grass on a warm day and make shapes of the clouds. Someone who still has hope of a wonderful future with someone who loves them for who they are, not someone that needs to change their personality to accommodate for someone else. Someone who is still a dreamer. A partner in crime. Someone spontaneous who doesn't need every second of the day planned out and knows that unforeseen things thats part of what makes life awesome. I am a face person. The focal point of what I find attractive is primarily above the neck. I have dated women of all shapes and sizes. I mean I like being active and taking care of myself and love being with similar traits. But I am far more concerned in how we feel when we look in each others eyes than the inches in your waistline. When a connection exists, it exists.
One last thing is that I am in my second year in my PhD program. So my free time has been sliced down quite a bit. But I can always make time for a good person. :)
The first date should be something light and variable. I think a true spark can only be identified in person. That moment where we have that nervous first contact where it's awkward or completely natural. If the latter happens then the first date will be fine, and the second date will be incredible.