They say honesty is the best policy. So, I will try to be as honest as possible without sounding too crazy...
First, a little information about me. I am from the US but have spent the last 8 years in Europe and Asia, studying and now working as a scientist and teacher. And maybe it is just me, but I have found that living overseas for an extended period tends to warp your mind in certain ways. But I have still managed to retain the basic values I was raised with: honesty and decency towards other people.
Like most people, I have ups and downs. But for the most part, I am optimistic, easy-going, and humorous. I enjoy a good night out, but I also know when it is time to sit down and be serious. When I have some free time, I enjoy watching movies at home, chilling in a coffee shop, and having some good conversation with a couple of friends. And personally, I am the type of person that prefers having a couple of close friends as opposed to a having lot of acquaintances.
I have spent a great deal of time travelling, but now, I'm looking for curious and adventurous individuals to travel with me. But I'm not just talking about geographical destinations. I am talking about mental, physical, and emotional destinations as well. You only live once, and before I die, I want to explore everything on the menu.
So who is this person? Well, let me begin by saying what I do not want. I do not want a princess who lives in a Disney fairytale. I am not Prince Charming. I am a real man living in the real world, and I want a real girl who also lives in the real world. Someone that is intelligent and realistic, but open-minded and adventurous. Someone with her own beliefs, her own interests, and her own career.
I also believe there are two components to a relationship: mental and physical. And I am looking for both. A woman who is my best friend and best lover. A woman that fulfills me intellectually and physically. Which brings me to the crazy part... For me, sex is like food. And just like everybody, I have my favorite food. But I cannot eat my favorite food everyday, otherwise it begins to get boring. From time to time, I need to add some new ingredients, some new spice, and perhaps even a side dish. But at the end of the day, I will always return to my favorite food, because that is what I love most.
So what exactly does that mean? It means I am looking for a girl that also enjoys adding some spice into the relationship. Preferably, a girl who is bicurious and interested in experimenting. Sound crazy? Well, I agree. It is a little crazy. But, I have been on this planet long enough to realize one thing... Couples who have been together for many years are rarely happy together. And why is that? Well, I think it is safe to say that it is not because of a breakdown in the mental connection. That is something that is hard to destroy and is the basis of all friendships. People become friends because they have common interests, beliefs, and levels of intelligence. And typically, these things do not change over time, which is why real friendships normally last a very long time.
So, I would guess that the primary reason relationships fail is due to sexual frustration, for both the man and the woman. After many years of being with the same partner, people's curiosities start to emerge. It is natural. We are all human and we all have physical desires which change over time. And eventually, when the frustration becomes too strong, people will explore these curiosities through cheating. Yes... women do it also.
So, why allow that to happen? Why not be more open with your need and desires, and explore them together. I honestly believe that couples which can do that will have a better chance at succeeding in a happy and long-term relationship. Now, I know that most people will disagree with that. But, I am not interested in most people. I am interested in the ones that understand what I am saying. So, if that is you, then I would love to hear from you and get to know you. If that is not you, then I wish you good luck in finding what you are looking for. :)