marxeu
Age: 34
Friends
ManBoyChild: Seeking love, with a twist
About
Occasional smoker with Thin body type
City
Beijing, Beijing
Details
32 year old Man, 5' 10" (178cm), Non-Religious
Ethnicity
Caucasian Capricorn with Brown hair
Intent
ManBoyChild Actively seeking a relationship
Education
PhD / Post Doctoral
Personality
Adventurer
Profession
Scientist







I am Seeking a Woman For Dating
Needs Test Not Completed Chemistry View his chemistry results
Do you drink? Socially Do you want children? Undecided
Marital Status Single Do you do drugs? No
Pets No Pets Eye Color Hazel
Do you have a car? No Do you have children? No
Longest Relationship Over 3 years How ambitious are you? Ambitious



About Me
am an educator. I educate people on life, love, and relationships. I teach both men and women, because neither sex understands each other and they don't even understand themselves. I teach them to give up on the fairy tale and accept the reality. The quicker you accept the reality, the quicker you will find long term happiness. So, what is the reality? Well, keep reading and you will find out...

Have you ever felt so much anxiety that it made your teeth hurt? I have. Its the feeling you get when you know the person you love is in bed with somebody else and enjoying it. But mixed with the anxiety is also the feeling of stimulation and arousal. Its a strange rush of emotions. And what makes it even more interesting is that I encouraged it. I wanted it. I wanted to learn how to overcome feelings of jealousy/insecurity and learn how to trust/forgive.

I guess you could say my life is a bit of a social experiment. An experiment designed to test society's ideas on love and relationships. It came to me a few years ago when I began to analyze my past relationships and the relationships of those around me. Friends, family, and coworkers...

When I did this, I noticed that nearly every long-term relationship follows the same trend. They begin with romance and passion, but after some time, the romance and passion fade away and it is replaced with boredom and misery. Sad, I know. But its true. Deep inside, I think most people know this, but they choose to ignore it. They strive to achieve the happiness they see in young relationships but they disregard the sadness they see in long term relationships. We choose to turn a blind eye to it. Everybody seems to think that they will be the lucky one who beats the system and finds eternal happiness with their soul mate.

Unfortunately, you cannot beat the system. There is no such thing as a soul mate. But, lets not get pessimistic just yet, because I am an optimist. The key is to ask questions and come up with solutions. For starters, why do all relationships ultimately lose the romance and passion? Well, that question has already been answered. Because people get bored of each other. Plain and simple. The relationship becomes a routine. And when you get used to the routine, there are no more surprises and things get monotonous. Monogamy and monotonous go hand in hand.

So, what do people want from a relationship? People say they want love and companionship. Sounds nice, but its not actually true. What people really crave is passion. You can find love anywhere. You can find love from friends, family, and even dogs. Yes, dogs are a good provider of love. But people aren't happy with just love. What they really want is passion. Its the most potent, addictive, and dangerous drug there is. It feels good to have passion for somebody. And it feels even better to know that somebody has passion for you. It builds self-esteem and confidence.

The problem in life is that passion is not eternal. It fades with time. And when that passion is gone, the happiness goes with it. Sure, the love may still exist, but without the passion, people slowly lose their self-esteem and confidence. They feel bored, lonely, and trapped. If you don't believe it, just wait and find out for yourself. Luckily, however, couples have developed an effective method to regain the lost passion. They fight. They fight over meaningless and ridiculous things. Why? Because fighting creates passion. But it is negative passion which achieves nothing except creating more misery.

After making this realization about love and passion, I began to question the fundamental concept of what a relationship is. What do people expect from each other? It occurred to me that most couples will compromise about anything. Anything except loyalty. Loyalty is non-negotiable. It is the foundation to every relationship. "Give me loyalty and I will give you love, companionship, and security."

So if loyalty is the only rule, then why does every relationship result in boredom and misery? Its because both men and women fail to realize that they will lose passion for each other. Passion fades with time. Its an incurable disease. And once that passion has faded away, they still demand the loyalty. But, people need the passion. They crave the passion. The passion is what made them happy in the first place.

So, why do people demand loyalty? We demand loyalty because we were taught to demand loyalty. From childhood, we were taught that loyalty is love and sex is sacred. Sure, even****oaches have sex, but for us humans, its sacred. The idea of somebody we love not being loyal is painful. We cannot control our jealousy, our insecurity, and our fear. We fear that if somebody is unfaithful, they will stop loving us, and they may leave us. So to avoid these feelings of jealousy, insecurity, and fear, we demand loyalty.

Another reason we demand loyalty is because we are selfish. We like the idea of having somebody who gets passion from us. It feels good to think that there is a person who will only desire you for the rest of their life. And the thought of that person finding passion from somebody else is unacceptable. So, we spend all of our time trying to find somebody who will stay loyal forever. But if you think about it, the word itself is a little degrading. Loyal. Dogs are loyal. But at the end of the day, that is what we want. We all want a loyal puppy dog. Right?

So, we are selfish and we want to protect our feelings. Understandable. We all want a loyal puppy dog. And the way we achieve this is by agreeing to be somebody else's loyal puppy dog. We take away each other's freedom in order to alleviate each other's feelings of jealousy and insecurity. Whats ironic is that it doesn't work. The feelings of jealousy and insecurity are always present. We constantly worry that the person may lose interest and lose passion for us. Why do we worry about this? Because they will! It is inevitable. So what is the solution? Simple. Start a fight and bring back the passion. Accuse them of something. Make them feel guilty. Whatever it takes to get their passion back. This is every couple you have ever met. Your parents. Your aunts and uncles. Your friends. Your coworkers.

At this point, I asked myself a philosophical question: "If all relationships lose the passion, and the only rule is loyalty, then perhaps the rule is wrong". So, this is my life and this is the experiment. I am going against all logic and common sense. I decided to eliminate the only rule: loyalty. What do I hope to achieve? Long-term happiness. A relationship with somebody who has similar ideas, interests, and habits. Somebody that I enjoy spending time with. Somebody that I am compatible with. And when things get a little boring, we are able to find happiness and passion outside of the relationship. A relationship where we don't take away freedom, we gi