Are you starting to feel like POF is a complete waste of time and energy, that the person you are looking for doesn't exist on here? (Yeah, it has crossed my mind more than once) Let's have a little fun together while you read this. Let's look at relationships from a new perspective, one that invites us to look beyond the typical dating site search terms.
I think we all would love to meet that perfect someone who can fulfil all our needs and desires in life. The perfect age, body type, job, children or no children, the same likes and dislikes, that enjoys the same types of entertainment and music, that wants the same form of a relationship, be it a dating, long term or marraige.
What if that is the wrong way to go about it? In the end we all would be perfectly happy being with someone we could love and be loved by. All that external "Stuff" doesn't really matter then.
What if we could find that in each communication we have with each other, be it a message here, a text or phone call and in especially person when together.
Yes, I am llooking for that special someone that can be in my life in a long term committed relationship and I am learning that to focus on only that one person means I am missing out on so many other chances to have and find love in the moment, be it just with online communications, be it with someone that may only be in my life for a shorter period of time, with friends and lovers or with someone who I am going through the process of creating a deeper relationship with.
When I get frustrated with POF I have to remember, this too is part of the process of deciding who I am looking for and finding out what works and what doesn't in relationships and to hopefully meet some nice people along the way to finding someone who I can share quality time with, maybe its you?
OK, perhaps this is not your typical profile, but then I am not your typical guy. If you want to know more, feel free to reach out.
I like to keep it casual at first. Let's meet for coffee and see how well we connect. First meetings should be stress free, no pressures, no expectations and and showing up when planned is helpful :) Don't set a time to meet if you are going to cancel it (especially if you don't call).