Sometimes you meet someone, and it's so clear, on some level, the two of you belong together. As lovers, or friends, or family, or something entirely different. You just "work", you understand one another in love, or as partners in crime. You meet these people here and there throughout your life, out of nowhere, under strangest circumstances, and they help you feel alive, and find your deepest needs met. I don't know if I believe in fate, or blind luck, I'm just thankful these people show up." It's what I'm looking for. My love/partner in crime...passionate, intense, connected in a way that's hard to explain.
Location - if there's chemistry, I really don't care where you are. While local is preferable, if there's a real connect distance is a non issue for me. Two are simply a plane ride away.
Finding the one only stands chance in hell when both are willing to risk "honesty". Need to be up-front from the first mailing or what's point? I'm hungry to go long-term should "the" partner-in-crime/savvy-lover/absolute-best-friend present herself and we grow old together. ~Too many mediocre things in life, Love shouldn't be one.
Don't be vain, practice hard (mean-spirited) sarcasm, or believe the globe circles you. I'm down to earth, please be that as well. You communicate well, what's in head and heart gets said - it's how I am. Open heart rather than guarded. You're the sort who makes her relationship, love, her life's priority (my love is the most important facet of my life, you'd be the romantic and of same mind).
Getting one another intellectually, emotionally and sexually. Neglecting ANY facet of what makes a strong relationship is simply foolish and blows something up down the road. Flavours, Have some kink in your veins (I do) sharing anything makes two stronger.
I'm a moderate liberal, pro-choice. I don't see colour, rather how one individual treats me. I live for down-time. Spontaneous weekend vacation: maybe...getting out of town on my motorcycle for weekend - riding until we lose daylight and a cozy bed&breakfast takes us into Saturday...or staying home with great food, film, and each other.
I've a dry sense of humour, I crack-up easily. I'm dyed-in-wool-romantic. Seems to me we don't "find" a ready-packaged "soul-mate", instead we find that one we connect with and teach the other how we can best be loved: what makes us feel safe, wanted/needed, well loved and truly understood. Make sense?
I'm a gym-rat and staying fit pays well. Not attracted to over-weight. Ideally you stay fit and healthy.
You're bright, huge-giving heart, and love to a fault when smitten. Your one who gets "lost" in love and are relationship/family driven. I've always had a note of dominant in my character, I won't do well with one who is aggressively wired, or self-oriented. She who keeps track of who said, 'I love you last'. Asking ALL your questions is smart. If still bruised from a past relationship, first find closure, start fresh when your esteem has healed.
While walking, were I to push you suddenly against a light-pole, a crowd watching on a busy intersection, we lock eyes, I find your mouth with mine...the woman I'm looking for would slide her arms up my shoulders, lock hands behind my neck, and respond with her all to my kiss, staying with it,, until we're ready to get going. Unable to lose eye contact. Both more interested in the "jazzed" moment - than who might be watching. I don't care what others think, as long as we two are enjoying one another hungrily.
If I wake at 3 AM, weird dreams/song lyric, she who wants to listen while I vent my soul. I do the same well in return, I swear...it's that dyed-in-wool-romantic - I need to hear you talk of your dreams. I'm an excellent listener. Wrapped in one another - watching the moon dwarf the stars that dare to approach as the darkness gives way to the pearl and pink of dawn, a great time to cuddle-close and sleep again. I need the one who truly "GET'S ME" (I will "get you", inside & out as well. I think that's the "glue" of loving, and what keeps two together until one is no more.).
This is long...but you can turn away, or feel the need to write with some conviction...smile. Thanks for not crapping-out on my pontificating. If what I said moved you, resonates, write & tell me who you really are. Ask questions, anything.
Either way here's to long days, and sweet nights,