Someone important said " people go about online dating all wrong, you are only looking for ONE. Be specific about what you want".
So, if this seems long winded.... Don't read it :)....
Disclaimer: The last thing I want to be is rude, we all have our preferences when trying to meet people online. I find the best phone conversations are the ones that follow the best email conversations. I understand this is frustrating but I need to know we can communicate easily with each other before you start texting me good morning messages ( as nice as that is) With respect, Please be willing to have an actual conversation via email. If you send me three word answers to my questions, and refuse to ask me anything about myself I have to assume we won't have anything to talk about on the phone either. Sorry, it's my comfort zone, and I'm the girl, so.....
I'm pretty honest, it's not for everyone. I am also, sweet and kind and giving and respectful.
I cuss, when I'm mad or trying to make a point. Lol ...but I think it just makes me passionate.
I am sincere, and real, but still feminine and like to be treated like a girl sometimes.
Don't expect me to do what you tell me to all the time, but I will listen to you, and HEAR you.
I am extremely self sufficient and independent and it might take some time before I warm up.
I like witty banter, when I'm comfortable, and can be pretty sarcastic, but sometimes I worry about offending people so I hold back. Don't get me wrong, I know how to behave and can fit into any situation easily, from beer with the boys to meeting mom.
I truly need an intimate connection, but I like manly more rugged men, so it's proved a tough balance to find.
I tend to like people with strong personalities who can say what they mean, I have friends and hobbies of my own and I don't always expect you to be available, But I do hope you will WANT to carve out time to spend together. I have a young son (9) half time, he's the best, but he isn't my whole world, and I will want to make sure its right for me before I get him involved, so I do have time to meet people but usually won't respond to a last min invite, my life just doesn't work that way.
I'm more interested in who you are and how we connect than what you do, or how much you make, but it's important you are self sufficient.
It would be great if you have kids and If you do, spend alot of time with them. (Being a mom has been such an important part of who I have become, it would be nice to have that in common)
Hopefully you like happy hour, parks, festivals concerts on the lawn, walking through the farmers market, getting outside and animals. You are a natural leader who isn't pushy, knows how to be silently confident, without being arrogant. You laugh easily and are interested in knowing about me, and if you fit into my life as well as trying to find out if I fit into yours. You thrive on a deep conversation about... Whatever. You know how to take care of yourself, pay your bills and take your word seriously. Maybe you are a little nerdy, and maybe goofy, but totally cool because you are so comfortable in your own skin. Hopefully you are looking for the same in a woman, and recognize a good one when you see one ;). Your kinda sexy too and not afraid to live your life and be who you are.
I'm really open to this process, and chemistry is the most important factor.
Also, the body type drop down list frustrates me because its subjective. I think I'm average, I'm curvy, so if average for you is a size 0, and shaped like a boy, then I'm not average for you. Men are visual and I get that, but my pictures are recent, so if you plan on asking me to send you more from my phone, I won't :)
The rest of my likes are listed above, hopefully we have a few in common... And a few we don't, so we can share.
There is much more, but this gives you enough information to know how I see myself, and what I am looking for.... Maybe I'm a good match for you. Reach out if you think so! I will respond either way, because I have manners :)