I could write a book, (sadly) about my dating exploits on this site. I have learned to be wary of someone who puts up head shot pictures only, and to later learn the description of themselves wasn't honest. Women are not alone in this of course, but the point here is if we keep our profiles honest, the system has a better chance of working.
Attraction is definitely part of it all, and while we had a great conversation, it wasn't going to happen for us. I have had awesome dates that turned into a second, even third dates and eventually a relationship and some where we both agreed there was just no connection. I have also learned one brief coffee shop meeting isn't going to set anyone's heart on fire, but it's always worth a try.
I try carefully to choose women that I might be a good fit with, and to be honest it's hard to find women that will accept dating a smoker, but I appreciate their needs too, so I only send messages out to women that will accept that habit. Some are smokers, some are not, but I am definitely considerate when doing so. I also understand that there are other issues out there like alcoholism, drug addiction, narcissism, etc that are a lot less visible initially but can have life altering ramifications. While I don't even like my habit, I think is far less devastating to relationship.
There is no question I have been lucky in my past relationships but I think I have a pretty good personal karma account so life is pretty good for me. I am a humble, supportive, friendly & athletic guy and try to see the bright side, or the funny side of everything. Like you, I have love give, so lets stop fooling around and meet, I only have 30-40 years left and don't want to waist another day without you.