To start.... I travel from San Jose to Southern Oregon quite a bit to visit my kids. I've been driving alone there and back for over 4 years and would love to meet a few friends from cities in between. I can make the time to drive up early so I can enjoy some much needed "me time" with fun friends as well as breaking up the drive. Sacramento, Chico, Redding, Yreka, Vacaville are just some of the towns I usually end up staying the night after dinner n a couple drinks. Always look forward to some good times.
Now, just cause I chose the intent "Hangout" with "casual dating" doesn't mean that I'm not interested in something more. If we click and we both are liking the situation then by all means we will talk about getting serious.
POF users need to understand that this site is really just for entertainment. Finding your best friend, soul mate, Prince Charming.... Good luck with that. 95% of the women that email me are no where near my type. I was married with kids, house, career for 13 yrs. I don't need to have a woman in my life. I would like one! All my lessons learned has made me understand what I am capable of giving. I know what I like, what I want and what makes me happy. I also know that I can and want to give all I have to see her happy. I don't need to be on a dating site to get laid. My intention when emailing someone is to try and go back n forth chatting to see if we should go forward or not. I have been on here for over 3 yrs and haven't met anyone I got excited over. Although, I'll be honest... I am not really the guy that's going to chase you, nail you down on a date, or even try to set something up with you. I'm content with my day to day life and I'm really happy. Don't misunderstand me.... I do want someone in my life. I love spending time with a woman. In fact I would love to end each evening together. I just have a hard time letting my guard down just to see the relationship end in an ugly way. I care about my friends and take friendships seriously. I'm open, honest and want the best for everyone. You will always know my feelings and I will always ask you yours. If things aren't going in the right direction or if any other reason happens to make you feel like you want to move on then by all means.... Just say something. I will always leave that open door option on the table. We are at the age where most of us have been married or in a on relationship and don't really need to waste each others time and energy if it's not there. If we are spending time together for months then we obviously are friends. I'm not the guy that doesn't get the hint, the guy that wont let go or the guy that wants to know what happened. Who wants to be with someone that clearly doesn't want them? Just be grown up enough to speak your feelings in person. Not through a text or email or through your sister. No hard feelings just don't lead anyone on by not being clear. I say this because someone close to me that I thought I knew well ended up being someone I didn't know at all. No one needs to go through that. This is why the whole hanging out and becoming friends first matters so much to me, but I'm also not into hanging out with a bunch of different women till the right one comes along. I am extremely picky!! Looks are important to me and it's real easy to be fooled on dating sites form false descriptions, pictures that look nothing like you, leading people to believe you look like something your not and then surprising them when you meet....
I quit trying cause of the lack of replies and mainly because the few girls that I spent time talking to enough to want to meet all showed up at my house looking nothing like there pictures. If you put down your body type is athletic you better not show up needing help out of your car cause you can't lift your legs out! True story. or show up waddling when you walk. Athletic? What... Hot dog eating contests? WTF!!! and with the balls to show up like it's not a big deal. Sorry but that's F'd up!! So just be honest. ... and don't expect a reply without a picture. I'm so done with hearing..... "Trust me. I'm pretty. No ones ever complained". No shit!? Has anyone ever told someone there not attractive, too big, too hairy??
It's a trip how someone can go through life meeting countless people that have pretty much become a part of your life. Whether it be friends or an Ego boost friends or whatever... Living while working in a big city, knowing people where ever you go, seeing them smile at first sight of you, and there eyes light up at first sight or when they hear your name. Online you're just a picture and a stereotype. If you're attracted to someone then maybe an email will get sent or a "meet me" instead of a "hello" arrives in your inbox....You run across a chick that you're interested in enough to follow through with what she asks for... Not just a hey babe! or hey gorgeous, but something with effort. So I Spend some good time on an email detailing everything I'm about, what I want and what I could offer, then notice the chick deleted the email without reading it. Nice. Either way it takes two. Whether it's to try and hook up, Hang out or chat a little then fade away. It's just too easy to ignore and keep moving until one comes along that has those looks, that smile, the same values, likes.... Hell, She's just flippen HOT! and the emails go and end up with no reply.
Bottom line.... Lets cut the crap and do what good friends do. Get together and share some great stories, a delicious meal and possibly some drinks?!. No expectations other than making that first call.
....and Ladies if you're going to take pictures of yourself in a mirror at least pick up all the sh*t laying everywhere. I don't care how sexy you think you are with your bathroom or bedroom looking like the inside of a Ghetto Walmart the night before Xmas in the background.