To start.... I travel from San Jose to Southern Oregon quite a bit to visit my kids. I've been driving alone there and back for over 4 years and would love to meet a few friends from cities in between. I can make the time to drive up early so I can enjoy some much needed "me time" with fun friends as well as breaking up the drive. Sacramento, Chico, Redding, Yreka, Vacaville are jusr some of the towns I usually end up staying the night after dinner n a couple drinks. Always look forward to some good times. Now, just cause I chose "to Hangout" and "casual dating" doesn't mean that if I meet someone and we both are liking the situation then by all means we will talk about getting serious. POF users need to understand that this site is really just for entertainment. Finding your best friend, soulmate, Prince Charming.... Good luck with that. 95% of the women that email me are no where near my type. I was married with kids, house, career for 13 yrs. I don't need to have a woman in my life. I would like one, but all my lessons learned has made me one hell of a catch. I know what I like, what I want and what makes me happy. I also know that I can and want to give all I have to see her happy. I don't need to be on a dating site to get laid. My intention when emailing someone is to try and go back n forth chatting to see uf we should go forward or not.
I have been on here for over 3 yrs and haven't met anyone I got excited over.
I quit trying cause of the lack of replies and mainly because the only three girls that I spent time talking to enough to want to meer all showed up at my house looking nothing like there pictures. If you put down your body type is athletic you better not show up needing help out of your car cause you can't lift your legs out! True story. or show up waddling when you walk. Three girls lied to me and went as fat as not caring what I would think! Athletic? What... Hot dog eating contests? So just be honest. ... and don't exoect a reply without a picture. So done with hearing... "Trust me. I'm pretty. No ones ever complained."
No shit!? Has anyone ever told someone there not attractive, too big, too hairy??
Now... I hate how you have to use one of pof's descriptions on our intent. Then they put us in that search category. Of course I want to date. I would love to meet someone. I don't think anyone wants to date someone they haven't met. Right? I mean casual "dating" or "Hanging out" a couple times to see if it will develop.
Casual dating but not anything serious? Sounds like a Booty call... Right? Then we get judged for it...... Whatever.
It's a trip how someone can go through life meeting countless people that have pretty much become a part of your life. Whether it be friends or an Ego boost friends or whatever... Living while working in a big city, knowing people where ever you go, seeing them smile at first sight of you, and there eyes light up at first sight or when they hear your name. Online you're just a picture and a stereotype. If you're attracted to someone then maybe an email will get sent or a "meet me" instead of a "hello" arrives in your inbox....You run across a chick that you're interested in enough to follow through with what she asks for... Not just a hey babe! or hey gorgeous, but something with effort. So I Spend some good time on an email detailing everything I'm about, what I want and what I could offer, then notice the chick deleted the email without reading it. Nice. Either way it takes two. Whether it's to try and hook up, Hang out or chat a little then fade away. It's just too easy to ignore and keep moving until one comes along that has those looks, that smile, the same values, likes.... Hell, She's just flippen HOT! and the emails go and end up with no reply.
Bottom line.... Lets cut the crap and do what good friends do. Get together and share some great stories, a delicious meal and possibly some drinks?!. No expectations other than making that first call.
....and Ladies if you're going to take pictures of yourself in a mirror at least pick up all the sh*tlaying everywhere. I don't care how sexy you think you are with your bathroom or bedroom looking like the inside of a Ghetto Walmart the night before Xmas in the background.