Born and raised in San Jose; I am divorced with no children at home. I have 4 grandchildren (thanks to my eldest stepson). Until last May I took care of them while their mother attended SJSU, as well as helped her with her studies. They are the future, and worth any sacrifice. Normally I work as an Admin/Exec Sec, but currently not employed. I love music and tend to involve music in most everything I do. I have a degree in Eng, with a minor in Child Psych and a degree in Comp. Prog, with a minor in Acct. I am a strong family advocate. I am proud to say that more than a few children are home where they belong because of my efforts. I have done massage since I was 4, and love to pamper those I care about. I took care of my grandmother for 3 1/2 yrs, (she raised me, it was my turn) and I was blessed with such a better understanding of her, and her life because of it. I helped with my disabled mother, up until her passing Sept 2009, now I feel I can actually focus on my life and finding that someone special to share it with. I enjoy cooking and I love trying new things, in food as in life. I do not understand the concept of bored. I find beauty and things of interest where ever I happen to be. I love to learn and experience new things, whether they be food, adventures, or life experiences in general, life is too short not to learn and grow and enjoy. I believe one of my greatest assets is my ability to see adversity in my life as a learning experience to help another. I am extremely affectionate and love to pamper those I care about. The more my efforts are appreciated and/or reciprocated, the more they increase. It is my nature. Holding hands, arm in arm, physical contact is a must for me. Passion is reserved for behind closed doors, but affection is never ending.
I have never given up on the fairytale, but I have learned a lot from the frogs along the way. I am looking for someone who is honest. I love to play games - backgammon, tennis, etc. NEVER games of the heart. I am looking for someone who is romantic, affectionate, intelligent, caring, gentle, compassionate and generous. Someone who sees the glass half full, and loves life, all the better. To all nice guys, I DO APPRECIATE YOU. You're a dying bread .... To every guy that's said, "Sex CAN wait"... To every guy that's said, "You're beautiful."... To every guy that was never too busy to drive across town to see her... To every guy who has given her flowers just because... To every guy that took time to do what she wanted to do, and took the time to know what that was.. To every guy that holds hands.. To every guy that hugs her for no reason at all... To every guy who would give their jacket up for her... To every guy that calls to make sure she got home safe... To every guy that would sit and wait for her for hours just to see her for ten minutes..To every guy that would give his seat up... To every guy that just wants to cuddle... To every guy that reassured her that she was beautiful no matter what... To every guy that tried to show how much he cared through every word and every breath... To every guy that believed in her dreams... To every guy that walked her to her car... To every guy who prays that she is happy even if you are not with her... Not many girls appreciate nice guys anymore... you are are a rare and dying breed. I search for you.