This was a conversation I had with someone from this site; these are her words offering me insight on what goes on in a womans' head when it comes to profiles and pics like mine.
If this is how I come across, it explains the lack of msgs I receive from anyone. Thoughts........
"Girls look at profile pic like yours and think "holy sh*t he's hot". This is immediately counteracted by the following self talk...
He's got a huge ego
He's probably a douche
He just wants to get laid
He won't like me cause I'm not stick thin
He'll point out all of my flaws and I'll feel shitty..
He'll laugh with his friends about me
He'll pressure me to become like him and I don't want to.
Why girls date guys who are less attractive is as follows, though I've learned that ugly guys are ***holes too....
He'll feel lucky to have me and treat me well
He won't cheat on me
I've accepted his flaws so he'll accept mine
He'll like me as I am
He won't try to change me
I don't have to feel guilty for not being perfect.
These are not my personal thoughts or beliefs though I have encountered some or all of this at one time or another with friends, Co workers, family, and girl talk in bar bathrooms...
Not sayin it's right..and I understand that there's good and bad in all walks of life in every economic class and in all people regardless of size or shape. But that's my insight for ya..."
My Experiences with women on this site and another prominent dating site:
Women online in general don't seem to want what they say they want from a guy. They tend to ignore the guys with their life together and give drug dealers and criminals the chance. After all, a guy who owns his place, has a decent career, is financially stable, takes after himself physically, is very laid back, easy going, knows what he wants from a relationship and is actually looking for a long term relationship......doesn't seem to get any attention paid to him and isn't generally viewed as bf material as he is ignored or is put in the "friend zone."
Women who msg me first (rare) disappear after I reply.
Women who see "txt" or "let's meet" disappear.
Women disappear after a day or 2 of msg'ing.