This was a conversation I had with someone from this site; these are her words offering me insight on what goes on in a womans' head when it comes to profiles and pics like mine.
If this is how I come across, it explains the lack of msgs I receive from anyone. Thoughts........
"Girls look at profile pic like yours and think "holy sh*t he's hot". This is immediately counteracted by the following self talk...
He's got a huge ego
He's probably a douche
He just wants to get laid
He won't like me cause I'm not stick thin
He'll point out all of my flaws and I'll feel shitty..
He'll laugh with his friends about me
He'll pressure me to become like him and I don't want to."
"Why girls date guys who are less attractive is as follows, though I've learned that ugly guys are ***holes too....
He'll feel lucky to have me and treat me well
He won't cheat on me
I've accepted his flaws so he'll accept mine
He'll like me as I am
He won't try to change me
I don't have to feel guilty for not being perfect."
"These are not my personal thoughts or beliefs though I have encountered some or all of this at one time or another with friends, Co workers, family, and girl talk in bar bathrooms..."
Okay, its frustrating as hell that i constantly get judged for being a player and that I just wanna get laid because I like older women. Because of this judgemental bias most women have, no one talks to me or considers me as dating material. Therefore, how can I even be a player or get laid constantly when almost all women choose to not talk to me because of these assumptions?! I cant even get anyone to talk to me hardly!! I have no one in my life in anyway and its frustrating!!!
Im looking for someone very easy going, good fashion sense, has her life well structured, has a youthful fun personality, isn't snobby or selfish for good comapny, to talk/txt with, share some hugs together and to keep eachother company during our downtime. Im looking for my best friend and confidant!! Ideally, you're the combination of Olivia Wilde's character in "The Change Up" (take note about her date offer to Ryan Reynolds' character ladies!!) and Seth Rogens' wife in "Neighbors."
I'm very wicked easy going and laid back, have a great but dirty sense of humor, own my place, have a cd i made in April '12 as im a guitarist and musician, have $ put away, love good conversations and like to learn about various topics!!!