I was active on this site for a while, wondering about trying it again. One problem is the idea of some soulmate waiting to find you. It's unlikely, and I say that while still being a card carrying romantic, of sorts. I'd go to meet someone from the site, and immediately both of us would be going through a checklist, is this the ONE? Tall enough, thin enough, presentable to my friends, money, and so on. Ahhh. I freeze up usually, a block of wood, because I put too much weight on first meeting. Not certain I'd still be like that or not. But it takes time to know someone. And if you turned out to be JUST a good person to go to the beach with, or hike around, talk it up, then that would be great.
For me an ideal encounter would be a situation where we both were honest,with no preconcevied box or role to stuff the other in. And then take if from there. Does it cross a line to admit I am lonely and to say probably so are you? For awhile now I've become more aware of just how much loneliness is out there. To be able to express who you are, and to be open to actually see who the other person is I think is the only real true answer & cure to all this. I'm open and patient.
I commented to a friend how the same faces always pop up on my search. He wondered if most the people on this site, like 75%, have committed suicide from loneliness, but that their profile will remain up, orbiting in the Search files until doomsday. Is that funny or just sad?
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Meet, chat it up and see who the other person is. This could happen in any number of places. I love the beach, or there are some great hiking spots all over this island.