First of all, I have had the experience of being blessed with a true loving relationship and I have found that not having that leaves a gaping hole in my life. I am looking for the right lady to fill that hole. There has to be both a physical and an emotional attraction and I understand that the true miracle is when the right two people find this in each other. So far, I just have not found the woman who really attracts my attention and feels the same attraction to me. Sadly, every possibility has thus far been one sided or incompatibilities arise but I do keep hoping to find that one right lady to be my partner in enjoying this life.
Now for who and what I am:
I'm a 62 year old politically progressive activist who has been widowed and alone for eight years and really would love to find a like minded lady to share life with. I love to fish and want to get into wildlife photography. I like to do DIY projects and I am fairly competent in most building skills with the glaring exception of having absolutely no aptitude for finishing sheetrock.
I gravitate toward action movies and crime drama television shows but I absolutely loved Steel Magnolias so go figure. When it comes to music, the generation gap really shows because I am addicted to C&W oldies and rock oldies. I can enjoy most other music genre's for varying periods of time with the shortest tolerance going to rap and punk rock.
I am retired but not by choice. I became disabled just over 13 years ago due to a major heart attack but I have managed to keep from doing any more damage with a good diet and as much exercise as I can get in. I don't look unhealthy and most of the time I do not act that way either. There are obviously some limitations in my life but I generally manage to lead an active and enjoyable life without foot races, water and snow skiing, and mountain climbing.
I am quietly religious but not in any sort of proselytizing way. Some severe life experiences have taught me that there has to be more than just what we can experience in this life. I consider myself a Methodist and am a member of my home town congregation but my personal beliefs do not really fit a dogmatic label.
I do have what some might call one piece of major baggage but it could be looked at as a plus because it will keep me from jumping into something prematurely. I have a commitment to care for my 82 y/o mother who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. I have promised both her and myself that she will not be dumped in a nursing home as long as it is humanly possible for me to care for her. I have a brother and a sister to help but both of them have to work full time - plus but they do provide me with occasional breaks ranging from an evening to a few days that allow me to date and get to know someone.
When it comes to romance there are few things in life that are not more pleasurable when enjoyed arm in arm with someone dear to you. To me, a smiling, happy woman is the absolute pinnacle of beauty in this world equaled only by a happy child and there is nothing more distressing to me than either in emotional or physical pain. I can proudly say that I have never abused a woman and I am also quite proud that my late wife's sister has expressed her willingness to give me a recommendation to any lady I wish to refer to her.
The ideal first date for me is to meet in a quiet corner of a restaurant or coffee shop where there are few if any distractions to take my attention off of learning about the lady I am meeting for the first time. I would hope that the lady would agree to turn off her cell phone or at least turn off the ringer and not answer anything unless it was a true emergency.
The timing should be scheduled so that neither of us will feel rushed if the conversation is going well
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Age between 50 and 65.
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