hello, good reader. i wish for you (and for me) the strength and endurance and desire to get through this. if you do, i respect you. whatever you think of me, i respect you and wish you well.
before you take the time to read all of this stuff, if you do, i want to add something (this is being done after the following parts have been completed). i may give the impression in this opportunity to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth about me that i am doing it to my own detriment. i may give the impression that, given my ultimate life goal of a poly arrangement, i suck at one on one. not so. i love being with one central person in my life and seek it diligently. and i am good at it, i think. i can be committed without taking a vow of monogamy. (even tho, i have gone for very long periods PRACTICING it.) and my reason for that is that i see it all as something like eating. i LOVE an indian dish called lamb rogen josh. it is SOOOO good! and when i am eating it, i feel like i could eat it and only it forever and ever, amen. but a part of me knows that, in time, i will want to try the shrimp dish, or the beef, or the vegetarian curry - but i will NEVER not love the lamb rogen-josh 100 percent. it is not that i reduce you to an object, like something on the menu, and perhaps it's a bad analogy, but i think you get my meaning. i would no more expect you to order the same thing time after time than i would want you to expect it of me. now, for some people, this concept is like speaking marsian, but to me - and to someone out there (you?) - it makes sense. so now you can pick up where i started......
first, thanks for reading. i am a man of many loves; family, art, books, music, poetry (my daughter's most of all),film, tri-sex, openness, conversation, adventures, polyamoury, and love itself. i seek a companion that is open, REALLY open, to out of the box sharing with others. intellectually, and deeply, i believe in the concept of poly relationships, tho i have never been given the opportunity to put that belief into practice. i would like to - and no, it doesn't matter how the sexes divide in the mix, as long as we all love and respect each other. i also believe that all beings are potentially, if not actually, bi-sexual, (actually, i think of it as just sexual - we invent the boxes and put the labels on them) because, essentially, i believe that sex is sex. a great and magical gift to be shared and enjoyed in all its shapes and forms. not that love has to be at the center of all sexual encounters, but sex without stimulating conversation and laughter is not as fulfilling as it could and should be, so THAT kind of intercourse is WAY up there on my list.
do i believe in "faithfulness"? yes, definitely, but i believe faithfulness has little to do with sex, and everything to do with being ever vigilent regarding the happiness and welfare of one's partner or partners. i do not believe in possessiveness or jealousy or ownership of other human beings. by the way, everything i believe to be true for me, i believe to be true for anyone else.
music? go to youtube for leonard cohen's "hallelujah" and anybody's version of "lilac wine", and throw in a little of "1812 Overture", and maybe some of pachalbel's "canon in D". that is the backbone of my music passion, although it can be fairly diverse. i am open to your tastes in music (or anything else).
movies? most anything that plays at downtown west, and the indies and documentaries on netflix.
art? all of it, but mostly found object art. art that comes to us in surprising packages.
books? oh, so many.
foods? nothing too fancy, but food you can actually taste. (like the food at sitar, or senor taco)
love? only this; i believe in the ability (nay, the naturalness) of loving more than one person TOTALLY while loving another or others TOTALLY. no one questions that reality when it comes to children.
there is nothing "normal" about me, and i like me that way. perhaps you will as well. i KNOW you are out there, looking for someone just like me. i look forward to knowing YOU.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
who can conjur the unconjurable? it is all going to be whatever it is going to be. BUT. if i had my druthers, i would hope for a meeting of the minds that would include an attraction on some level or levels beyond the mental connection. i am not a traditionalist about much of anything, and i am definitely not cheap, but at the same time, i don't have a lot of "going out" money, so the whole thing of wining and dining is not the way i visualize it. (there will be plenty of taking each other out to dinner if we hit it off). more like a meet in a coffee shop or a book store with sofas, or an art event, or a museum, or a park, or, well, you get the idea. it will come to us when we need it to, because, if we are destined to meet, we will not be able to choose the wrong place in which to do so.