My self-summary: I am a good guy, maybe the nicest person you will ever meet, but I'm not a punk or a door mat. I am a giver. I do a lot for others. Just because. Crazy, right? Whether it's just holding a door for someone or helping a friend move, I make it a point to do at least one thing for someone else every day. I was born and raised in and all over L.A. I love music, mostly rock music in all of its many forms, some old hip hop and other genres. I have a gigantic DVD collection. I love movies. I even watch most commentaries. I am on a pub trivia team as the music and movie specialist. I love accents. I am a champion cuddler. I am always warm, temperature wise anyway. I am an amazing bartender. I'm a pretty good cook. I have 3 dogs, all adopted from kill shelters. I do all I can now to spoil them rotten. I use to be a power lifter. I love logic. I am very honest. I am very patient and supportive. I always smell good. Well, almost always. I'm athletic (I can move for a big cat). I am a really good tipper. I live 1 block from a dive bar and 5 blocks from the beach (walking distance from Alex's Bar too, Fangtasia). I live stress and drama free, on purpose. I am the oldest of 4 raised by a single mom. I am a proud gentleman. Most of my friends are older. I love to travel. I have driven to Cabo San Lucas, and yes, it was amazing! I have a "crazy magnet" that I cannot fix. This means I get to meet a lot of new people, whether I like it or not. I am very well mannered. I am an insomniac. Seriously. I make meth heads look narcoleptic. Also, I am insanely shy and have crippling stage fright and can't figure out how to fix those either. I will own a bar someday.
Dear single moms, you are all wonderful, lovely people, but I am very weary. Sorry. I tried a time or two and it just gets crazy. Usually baby daddy bullshit, which you usually don't control, but I don't think I want a part of. Thanks, but I'm good. Good luck. I have fun stories if anyone wants to hear, though.
P.s.: Don't wait 6 weeks in to getting to know someone to bring up your kid. That's just shitty, more to your kid than me. Peace be with you.
I just started coaching a wrestling team again. Although I forgot how time consuming and sometimes stressful it is, I did find out how much I missed it and love it. I was away for about 7 years. Being back feels good. I apologize in advance if I don't respond in a timely manner.
What I’m doing with my life: I work a full time job managing a small squad of field techs doing environmental work. I get to make my own schedule which is awesome. I work a lot of 3 day, 40 hour weeks. I have dogs who I walk, play and train every day. I go to a lot of concerts, too many probably (one at least every 2 weeks, but sometimes 2 a night). I also frequent comedy shows and movie theaters. I dabble in photography for concerts and sporting events.
I’m really good at: Listening, helping, being thoughtful, sports, sports analysis (except baseball), finding new restaurants, finding new music, self-deprecation, making up drinks, making up drink names (I make a drink called "Gods Vagina" that will blow your mind all over your face, and an alcoholic chocolate shake that has yet to be named), making people laugh, making people comfortable, naming things random names, getting sunburn (I may be the best in the world at this. I am immune to sunscreen and I work outside everyday), quick learner, doubling a Target budget in a single trip, having conversations about almost anything, getting my ass whipped by auto correct on my cell phone, hearing a song once and knowing the lyrics forever - no matter how bad, trivia (most kinds, mostly useless facts), cussing like a champ, swimming, grilling a perfect medium steak, driving, giving massages, receiving a massage, making a delicious breakfast, hosting mimosa brunches, watching Arrested Development seasons over and over again, keeping Groupon in business, spelling & punctuation, inside jokes, finding the best happy hours and over all being a nonstop good idea machine.
Enough with the ball washing, I am not perfect. Here are some things I'm not so good at:
I'm late, a lot. It is a curse. Even when I travel with other people who are always early, I make them late just by being present. I try so hard not to be, but it is so. I stopped trying to fight it a long time ago. I am stubborn. I can be a bit judge-y about music, grammar and other trivial things. I'm working on it. I can hold a mean ass grudge. I say "I hate" a lot of things. Now, for everything I hate, I can name 10 things I love. This sometimes comes across as closed minded, shallow or ignorant. I think I'm just old enough to know what I like and I can tell you exactly why I dislike things. I can't help that I am a passionate, passionate man. I also don't want to waste others time or mine. I am terrible at remembering names, but very good with nicknames. You'd be surprised at how cool people are about not remembering their name after you hit them with a "Ello Guv'nuh". I start too many sentences/phrases/stanzas with "I". My hair is the worst. It's straight on the bottom and wave-y at the ends, just a pain in the ass. I wear hats a lot. I shave my head once in a while, but sometimes I work in less than desirable neighborhoods and a shaved head gets me in trouble. I am not very "fashion conscious" in general. I don't dress bad, it's just a lot of polo shirts, jeans, t shirts, vans and I'll even bust out some sandals, with velcro. OOOOOOH. Just kidding, no velcro. Just good old fashioned flip flops. I keep it very simple, all the time. I. Don't. Dance. or karaoke (see crippling stage fright, above). Apparently I'm not very good at dating. I never had to do it before and I'm finding it more and more awkward and annoying at times. Especially internet dating. It's all kind of odd. I'm a year and a half out of a 7 year relationship and had a couple one year plus girlfriends before that. Never really dated. I'm trying though.
I know there's more. I'll update as I think of them.
Ah, yes, my old friend procrastination. Hello again.
The first things people usually notice about me:
I have blue eyes and apparently I give pretty good beard. I get occasional compliments on both. I am also usually smiling and giving free high fives. Best deal in town.
I was once told by a drunk chola, at a random dive bar, that my eyes reminded her of the water in Cancun (see crazy magnet, above).
5' 11? (1.80m).
Atheism and laughing ab
Depends on the person. I'm pretty creative and thoughtful though.
You should message me if
You like nice guys who will make you laugh, a lot. I am very mellow and extremely easy to get along with. Very agreeable. I like to be as casual as possible, as often as possible. I think casual/comfortable is sexy. Sometime going out of your way to be sexy makes you look crazy ladies. That is just this man's opinion.
I have recently come to the realization that many of my friends and siblings are good people, but bad friends. Some have moved on to family life with the wife and kids, which is fine. Others are just oblivious to anything and everything around them, which gets to be tough to deal with. The rest just don’t have interests similar to mine. I have a lot of cool sh*t to do, but often no one to go with. I’m afraid to go alone because I might like it too much. Also, I don’t want to be “that guy”.
I'm not a big fan of any religion, so if baby jebus is something you can't live without we probably wouldn't be a good match. Same goes for die hard country, reggae and EDM fans. If you have ever used the terms "nuff said" or "work hard to play harder" in serious fashion I don't want to deal with that either. That's how Snooki talks. I don't need/want a Snooki. Sassy is NOT b***y. Please know the difference. The two are easily confused these days.
I like smart, sassy, witty, active and driven women. I find opinions sexy. Please be able to hold a conversation. Nothing is sexier than a quick wit and a beautiful smile.
Thanks for reading. Good luck. Have fun.
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