I don't care for traditional mating rituals and I'm not your usual horny guy just trying to get laid. However, I'm here for that rare gem, non-traditional, out of the box free thinker who actually lives it, not just says she is and great sexual chemistry IS JUST AS important. We're all where we need to be. If you're still living in fantasy, dreaming of a prince or into the traditions you were conditioned into as a young girl, or are still stuck in that princess mode, that's great: please bypass me. Thanks and good luck.
I can also be quite a dummy, but I've noticed this: The whole premise of traditional dating (online or offline) is pretty effed up by definition. I'm sure you ladies have a ton of episodes and stories about the creeps and the useless pervs that approach you from everywhere. From the guys perspective on POF, we end up dealing with a whole lot of youngish hotties still in demand, or milfs either just playing for some male attention or plotting to make the same old mistakes with monogamy. Online is where it gets funnier, with the ladies bashing guys for sending pics posing shirtless in the bathroom, only to do the same exact thing, along with their own preferred ego silliness: posting their best selfies while sitting in cars, or with their pets and their children (indicating to a guy that he will never be an emotional priority). Let's not forget those who are a little out of shape and will only post a dozen or more selfies of their face. This comprises 99% of the femme crowd here. Most girls (and yes, that may include you), will not typically approach a guy even if they find him attractive or interesting, with something of substance to offer them, nor are they really interested in "good" guys or even know how to recognize one. Instead, they prefer to sit pretty waiting for hot (or rich) guys to approach them (my personal favorite: "say something interesting: I don't respond to just HI") so they can have that perception of power of choice fulfilled, avoiding the rejection they'd be happy to dispense to the ugly (or poor) guy they'd never mate with. Apparently, they go ahead and pick a guy by his appearance, and/or all the academy award winning BS mojo he writes on his profile regardless of his adequacy as a mate that corresponds to what they're "looking for". In other words, they invariably seem to get ambushed by their own primal instincts, lack of good judgment and discernment when picking their mates, only to criticize and bash the eventual a-hole that succeeds in fooling them into the game anyway. So much for that something "long lasting" and "meaningful", isn't it? Is this you? If it is, go ahead and write me hate mail. But if it isn't, you're laughing, aren't you? Lol. On a lighter note, I bite, but I'm friendly and can take well-founded criticism any time. :-)
PS: if you're older, that's really great. But no offense, I do expect that the mental connection will lead us to have great sex for many, many years to come, and therefore I need the physical attraction to be where it needs to be. A fit, sexy body is a requirement for the next 15 years, at least. Otherwise, we can just be platonic friends too. :-)
PPS: Thanks for reading it all the way, and I know this will turn off a lot of ladies on this site: I'm a secure, non-jealous, non-possessive, honest, sincere, happy and confident polyamorist. I'm only open to poly relationships (not based in exclusivity). I already have an open minded partner who supports me and my desires. So, there it is. I'm saving you the discomfort and feelings of inadequacy. But if you've made it this far and you're still not appalled by my style and way of thinking, I can't wait to hear from you. Cheers.