Life is a continual process of getting to know yourself. You can learn about the things in life you like and dislike. I enjoy finding restaurants I have never tried before, and often like cooking at home. I enjoy reading fiction and nonfiction, to try to figure out what's going on in the world, and to compare the reality to an idealized fictional version.
When you feel a connection with someone, you learn a little more about yourself. You learn why you are attracted, and whether the person can be right for you in a relationship. You learn what your own desires are, and how you can tap into those desires in choosing to be with someone.
I'm looking for someone I can feel special when I am with, and who can feel special when she is with me. Someone I can share my life with, all the pleasures and the challenges. Someone who can feel totally comfortable around me, and we can grow together.
Note: If you've looked at my profile, and liked what you've seen, but I haven't contacted you, some possible reasons are: 1) You have limited who you allow to contact you to people not including me (e.g. outside your age range--that allows you to contact me first, but does not allow me to contact you); 2) You say you don't want children; 3) You place a heavy emphasis on religion in your life (I am Jewish, but mostly non-practicing); 4) You have a large canine or require that anyone you date love canines; 5) You live a long way away from me; 6) You have set it so that I cannot see that you have looked at my profile, and I haven't happened to be paying attention when you were online.