Hi there. Having recently ended a long relationship, I'm slowly easing my way back into the dating scene. I have been taking a little breather, regrouping, and enjoying just being me for a little while... That said, I think friendship should be the foundation of any relationship and one can never have too many friends.
I'm an independent woman with a busy and active life that I enjoy a great deal. I have been told I look much younger than my age (good genes and great skin cream! :) I stay very fit (still a size 2!) by running 3 times a week and doing 10k races in fun places with friends. I'm slowly working my way up to a Half Marathon, though my knees tend to differ! I used to mountain bike a lot, but after a few nasty falls, particularly the one on my face which was LOVELY, (but thankfully no permanent scars:), I still ride, but have slowed down a bit. I ski pretty well and snowboard (poorly!) too!
I am financially secure, own my home, and am very proud of my career development, especially since my divorce 10 years ago. I am even prouder of the awesome young adults my kids have grown up to be. This, by far, has been my greatest gift and accomplishment as a human being! My daughter is 21 and goes to College in Sacramento, and my son is 17, graduates in a few months, and is applying to Colleges too. So now, though my kids will always be my No. 1 priority, this soon-to-be empty-nester is looking forward to having a little more freedom to do... well, whatever I the heck I want!
I wish I could say that I still believe in finding my soul mate, but I just don't think most people are that lucky. I think successful relationships need to grow together but sometimes they end up going in different directions. I am not an insecure women that needs a man in her sights 24/7, and I also will not settle for a partnership that is a constant struggle just because I'm afraid of being alone. But I do understand that relationships require commitment and attention to keep it strong, though sometimes you just have to agree that it shouldn't be THAT hard and it's time to call it. That said, the idea of finding someone that I could grow old with (happily that is:) does appeal to me a great deal. In the end, I think we are all looking for someone that we can really connect with on every level - someone that we look forward to coming home to, and can have great conversations and learn from each other’s perspectives; someone we have awesome chemistry with and can laugh and be ourselves with, and who enjoys the same types of activities. By the way, a man with a quick wit is extremely sexy to me…“mental foreplay”, as someone put it, and I whole-heartedly agree!
By this age, we should both be responsible, mature grown-ups (most of the time:). I love a young-at-heart spirit, but no more Peter Pans for me please...i.e. if you like to party like a rock star and don't know your limits, I'm not your girl (or your mother)! What I've learned most from my past relationships is that, while I expect to be treated like an equal, I am a looking for a man that knows how to "be a man"....strong, confident, has an opinion, can make a decision, and knows how to take "charge" in a respectful and protective way.
I gravitate toward active people that like to stay fit and have fun at the same time…bonus points if you are a runner or like to mt bike! I love family time spent with the kids, whether it's my own or my partners, but I also like adult time too! I think weekend getaways to keep things fun and focused on each other are a must! I don't mind watching an occasional ball game, but if you are a televised sports addict, we probably won’t have much in common. I’d rather be out doing my own fun activity than watching someone else. That said, having space and outside interests are fine, as long as there is trust and a healthy balance of quality time together and similar priorities. I think this balance will come naturally with the right person...
So, if any of this resonates with you, drop me a line!
P.S. Please live in reasonably close proximity (like the same state!) and have at least one picture...oh, and just a suggestion: SMILE, guys! :) Few women want to meet someone who's picture looks like a mug shot...