I'm a fun, (often goofy) independent woman with a busy and active life that I enjoy a great deal. I have been told I look much younger than my age (good genes and great skin cream! :) I stay very fit (still a size 2!) by running 3 times a week and doing 10k trail races in fun places with friends. I'm slowly working my way up to a Half Marathon, though my knees don't always cooperate. I used to mountain bike a lot, but after a few nasty falls, particularly the one on my face which was LOVELY, (but thankfully no permanent scars:), I still ride, but have slowed down a bit. I can ski, and looking to get more into cross-country skiing this year and possibly some snow-shoeing.
I am financially secure, own a home with a nice water view, and am a very proud mother of the two awesome young adults my kids have grown up to be. My daughter is 23 and lives in Sacramento, and my son is 19 and is at UCLA. So now, though my kids will always be my No.1 priority, this empty-nester is looking forward to having a little more freedom to do... well, whatever I the heck I want!
I wish I could say that I still believe in finding my soul mate, but I just don't think most people are that lucky. I think successful relationships need to grow together but sometimes they end up going in different directions. I am not an insecure women that needs a man in her sights 24/7, and I won't settle for a partnership with the wrong person just because I'm afraid of being alone. But I do understand that relationships require commitment and attention (and fun!) to keep it vibrant. The idea of finding someone to grow old with (happily) still appeals to me a great deal. In the end, I think we are all looking for someone that we can really connect with on every level, that we look forward to coming home to, and can have great conversations and learn from each others' perspectives; someone with which I have awesome chemistry (a must!) and can laugh and be ourselves with, and of course, who enjoys the same types of activities. One thing I've learned over the years is that, while I expect to be treated as an equal, I am a looking for a man that still knows how to "be a man", who is strong, confident, has an opinion, can make a decision, and knows how to take "charge" in a respectful and protective way without being condescending. I have worked hard at becoming "aware" and shedding preconditioned thinking of relationships...I live one day at a time and just try to move forward with gratitude for all things. I have no real expectations other than to start any relationship with open communication and honesty.
I gravitate toward active people that like to stay fit and have fun at the same time…so if you are a runner, biker, hiker, skier, etc. we've already got potential! I'm also willing to try new things (except for anything involving falling from high places!:) I don't mind watching a live ball game, but if you are a televised sports addict, we probably won’t have much in common. I’d rather be out doing my own fun activity than watching someone else. I believe weekend getaways to keep things fun and focused on each other are a must! And I would also like to start traveling abroad and would love to have a special travel companion to share the adventures with!
So, if any of this resonates with you, don't be afraid to drop me a line!
P.S. Please don't lie about your age and waste my time. Yes, you may look younger, but I'm looking for a man closer to my age for other reasons than just looks. Please live in reasonably close proximity (like the same state!) and have at least one current picture that represents you well...oh, and just a suggestion: SMILE, guys! :) Few women want to meet someone who's picture looks like a mug shot...(seriously if you don't have at least one picture of you looking happy, I probably won't respond.)
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Surprise me...the best date is with a guy that plans it all and doesn't constantly ask me what I want to do, what kind of food I feel like, etc. I am open to all foods and types of places. It's more about the experience that will make me remember you and want to see you again than anything.
Mountain bike rides followed by beers are a great first date too!