Hmm the fact that I feel the need to say this is quite distressing. Men tend to have a certain idea about black woman.(loud, obnoxious, easy...etc...) I am not sure what type of black women most have met, but I grew up going to the museum, the theatre, a strong family foundation, and the opera. I learned to host parties when I was little. I abhor rap music and most things in the "hip hop culture". (If it is not in my zumba playlist then I have not heard it) And Most importantly I think women such as Nene are an embarrassment. Yes I grew up being called an Oreo and listened to people say my parents were sellouts (because they had degrees and doctorates) and honestly I find nothing wrong with that.I learned to not kiss on the first date,and to invest my time in people one at a time, not a bunch of people. In other words, every stereotype you want to assume I am because of my skin color, please note that I am most likely on the completely opposite end of the spectrum.
Far warning. I work out. ALOT 6 days a week. I went from 280 to 187 so i work my butt of hard to get to where i am now and i am not finished yet. Dont get me wrong, I was very successful modeling while i was larger, so I did not decide to make a lifestyle change because i was lacking in self confidence.
how about some basic facts.
First, I am working on my masters. One day I would like to be in charge of a reimbursement department in a large sports medicine office or hospital. (I have a passion about sports medicine) With the economy the way it has been, I had to make a hard choice to sell my business and close up shop. I decided to go back to school and now I have finished a degree in healthcare systems management and reimbursement. I am very happy with being a medical records and reimbursement specialist. The best part of what i do, is spending hours writing appeal letters so that folks can get the coverage they are due when the insurance company continues to say no. I refuse to give up and work darn hard to help anyone i can.
I read quite a bit. I tend to read 3 or 4 novels a week. I read while working out if i can, during downtime, and while relaxing. I am a product of a medical family (though my brother is an artist) and so I am used to having quite lively conversations, especially over dinner. I already had a degree in music, but I was very limited in what I could do with that degree around south carolina. I spend part of my time in SC and the other half in Ohio.
I have rarely dated anyone but white men. Doesn't mean I will judge anyone by their skin color, but feel I should be honest. While I love languages, I am not a fan of slang. My idea of using slang is saying something is trendy or peachie.
If you have a photo with a handful of money in it, I am not going to respond. If you are dressed in any type of stereotypical manner, I am not going to respond.
My idea of dressing down and having a funky dress day is what most would consider business casual. That is how I am dressed 85% of the time if I am not working out. If i am working out than of course it is workout gear.
I am an excellent hostess. I have hosted a variety of events, dinner parties, or business meetings. I consider myself to be an asset in most situations as I work hard to keep myself informed. I have also participated in organizing these types of events. Let's face it, sometimes business is better conducted over a nice dinner than in a boardroom.
One shouldnt dwell on the past, and I do not. I try to see the bigger picture, and see what is coming ahead instead. I love friends, family, outdoors, being home, sports, zumba and learning something new. There probably isnt much that I do not enjoy. Laundry.. I take that back. LAUNDRY. I will wash it. but i hate putting it up.
I do love to travel i just do not get to do so. I would also love to have more free time, but unless someone can give me a reason not to be so driven, then driven is what I shall be.
I have two kids and they are just great. We spend most of our time, laughing and playing. I do not give them rules, they have "expectations". Okay they are rules in truth, but I believe they are handled better as expectations. As I see it, being a kid is their job. With that job they have some responsiblities and I expect them to do them. With that just like a job, they will earn a bonus, vacation time, and etc for good work. They know what behavior and attitudes are expected of them and they follow those expectations or know that there will be issues later. I take this approach with other children I come across and have been very successful in mentoring and tutoring other children with the same attitude.
I am open minded; love a challenge. A walk on the beach, in the park or just holding hands.If you can cook out, you are not only my hero, but I will adore you forever as there is nothing better then cooking out! (it has to be the ingrained OSU tailgating thing) I can not grill out to save my life.
They have to have the guts to appoarch me and not be intimidated because I carry myself with confidence and with pride. Seriously, do you know how many guys will send a friend over to talk to you first? Really? A Wing man? Seriously? I thought they just did that on tv. I am confident and comfortable with myself. I embody the truth that you do not have to be a size 2 in this day and age to be beautiful, sexy, and carry oneself as a lady out in public on a handsome man's arm. I've dated from doctors, to pro athletes, to foreign investors. My point of mentioning this is that I am not one for guys that brag about what they think will impress. You either have or you dont, you either try or you dont, you either save or you dont. Doesnt make you a bad person if you dont as long as you a driven and have the attitude to change your situation.
Oh yeah I am not gonna just hop in bed with anybody. I mean come on folks its 2000 something and my degree of choice is in the medical field. I am not looking to get hitched in 30 days cause that would just be creepy. :)
I do have to say no to smokers though. It makes me very sick and second hand smoke is nothing to joke about.
Now... I will not waste your time if you do not waste mine. Do not assume that anything I stated here is just for show. It isnt. They are my thoughts and how I feel.
I prefer alpha people. I am a type A personality if you can not tell by what I have written. I prefer type A people that are challenging. If you are a pushover, I will get bored without a challenge.
What are you waiting for?
Someone to click the mouse for you?
And by the way if i seem a blunt, that is because I am.
hmm Okay I could put something really awesome here, I could say some expensive dinner at some five star place downtown (do we even have any in charleston), horse drawn carriage ride, and etc etc etc. But lets be honest, does that really make people comfy? For special events sure, but first date?
Maybe I should demand more, but really a night at Bw3, plenty of game credits on one of their game thingys, plenty of wings, drinks, and some awesome games on tv. I prefer football, basketball, extreme fighting, and hockey. If i must, i will settle for baseball. Its a normal saturday and sunday for me anyway.
Or heck, how about something different like a day at one of the historical places around here. You have plenty of time to chat and talk while walking around.
This will really vary depending on the person. I mean I do enjoy surprises, so feel free to surprise me.