Not looking for a guy with money , although he must be financially secure and not totally broke.The most important thing to me is someone that is FUN and makes me laugh. Someone that is witty. not someone that just knows a few jokes. Someone that is active and likes to do stuff... but he needs to be the originator.Kind of an activity director :). as I tend to bury myself in my work and would work well with someone that pulls me away. Spontaneous is good.
I do not believe that happiness exists ..
We have all been raised through fairytales to believe that there is such a thing as "happiness"." and they all lived happily ever after " .a never ending euphoria that we wake up in the morning with and that surrounds us every day and moment until we fall asleep.. and even blankets us in our dreams. The true key, I believe, to a well lived life is for us to realize that there is no perpetual state of happiness..just as no one is sad, angry, or afraid, or any other emotion all day every day. "happy" comes in fleeting moments, just as every other emotion. Because we have been programmed to believe that happiness exists, we spend our entire lives chasing it ...much like the pot of gold, though at the end of the rainbow, it is never attained..leaving us feeling empty and short changed...always falsely believing that everyone else but ourselves has somehow achieved that unattainable state of "happiness".
Search out contentment, .Contentment in life is attainable, happiness is not.
One of my favorite stories :
Many years ago, the villages in the middle east had what are called "gatekeepers"..They , in fact, stood guard at the entrance of the village to greet visitors and allow them to enter and to alert others if someone appeared that could be a danger to their community.
One day, a man appeared ..I suppose on his camel..but I will let you decide that part. He was greeted by the gatekeeper of the village and explained that he had traveled for many days and nights in search of a new place to call home. After making small talk with the gatekeeper, he became serious , and asked the gatekeeper. " Tell me, friend, what are the people like that live in this village?'
Well, the gatekeeper looked the visitor straight in the eye and replied, " Before I can answer that question, I will need to ask you..what were the people like in the village that you came from ?'
The visitor's eyes lit up. Without hesitation, he responded, " Oh, the villagers were wonderful people..they were kind, compassionate, gracious and beautiful from the inside out.. I could not have wished for better friends and neighbors."
The gatekeeper said, in a knowing voice, " Go forth into our village, you will find that these people are the very same as those from the village from where you came. " And the visitor entered the gate and found that the gatekeepers words were true.
Some days passed and , behold, another tired traveler arrived at the gate of the village. ..The same gatekeeper welcomed him, and the traveler explained that he was in search of a village that he could call home. After some small talk, the gatekeeper invited him into the village. As the traveler began to enter, he turned to the gatekeeper and asked' " By the way, what are the people like that live in this village ?"
Just as the gatekeeper had responded to the traveler the other day, he repeated , " Before I can answer that question..tell me first, what were the people like in the village from where you came ?"
" They were a hateful bunch " the traveler retorted. " They were selfish, greedy, lying thieves, that is what they were. Not to be trusted , as they would stab their neighbors in the back when they could ".
" Alas," said the gatekeeper. " I am sorry to say..but the people in our village are exactly the same ".
Another one of my favorites
One day a fisherman was lying on a beautiful beach, with his fishing pole propped up in the sand and his solitary line cast out into the sparkling blue surf. He was enjoying the warmth of the afternoon sun and the prospect of catching a fish.
About that time, a businessman came walking down the beach trying to relieve some of the stress of his workday. He noticed the fisherman sitting on the beach and decided to find out why this fisherman was fishing instead of working harder to make a living for himself and his family. “You aren’t going to catch many fish that way,” said the businessman. “You should be working rather than lying on the beach!”
The fisherman looked up at the businessman, smiled and replied, “And what will my reward be?”
“Well, you can get bigger nets and catch more fish!” was the businessman’s answer.
“And then what will my reward be?” asked the fisherman, still smiling.
The businessman replied, “You will make money and you’ll be able to buy a boat, which will then result in larger catches of fish!”
“And then what will my reward be?” asked the fisherman again.
The businessman was beginning to get a little irritated with the fisherman’s questions. “You can buy a bigger boat, and hire some people to work for you!” he said.
“And then what will my reward be?” repeated the fisherman.
The businessman was getting angry. “Don’t you understand? You can build up a fleet of fishing boats, sail all over the world, and let all your employees catch fish for you!”
Once again the fisherman asked, “And then what will my reward be?”
The businessman was red with rage and shouted at the fisherman, “Don’t you understand that you can become so rich that you will never have to work for your living again! You can spend all the rest of your days sitting on this beach, looking at the sunset. You won’t have a care in the world!”
The fisherman, still smiling, looked up and said, “And what do you think I’m doing right now?”
Here are a few good one liners..just to make you smile
All those who believe in psychokinesis raise my hand.
Ambition is a poor excuse for not having enough sense to be lazy.
Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder ...
Black holes are where God divided by zero.
Boycott shampoo! Demand the REAL poo!
Corduroy pillows: They're making headlines!
Dancing is a perpendicular expression of a horizontal desire.
Depression is merely anger without enthusiasm
Drink 'til she's cute, but stop before the wedding
Eagles may soar, but weasels don't get sucked into jet engines
Early bird gets the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese
Energizer Bunny arrested, charged with battery.
Everyone has a photographic memory. Some don't have film.
For Sale: Parachute. Only used once, never opened, small stain.