wtfasdf1234: I'm not like them, but I can pretend.
Non-Smoker with Athletic body type
Los angeles, California
34 year old Male, 6' 0" (183cm), Non-religious
Caucasian, Gemini
wtfasdf1234 is looking for a relationship.
Masters Degree
my hobbies prove useful to others

2013 shot from my former penthouse in downtown. :) Before things went off the rails lol

I am Seeking a Woman For Dating
Needs Test View his relationship needs Chemistry Not Completed
Do you drink? No Do you want children? Want children
Marital Status Single Do you do drugs? No
Hair Color Mixed Color Eye Color Hazel
Do you have a car? Yes Do you have children? No
Longest Relationship Over 5 years How ambitious are you? Ambitious
Pets Other  

About Me
"If your profile contains sexual language of any kind your account will be deleted." Ooh PG 13 dating? I don't know about you, but without sexual chemistry I don't see a life being built that doesn't involve lots of promiscuity :P Harem? hah.

Like all men I appreciate the idea of my own living sex toy, but once you've pushed that button as many times as you can there are still hours left in the day. Ultimately I'm looking for a person with which to share life and all its fleeting moments. I love nature and the outdoors, yet work in sterile hard tech industry settings - datacenters, perhaps something I need to intentionally plan balance around. I love hiking and camping and mountain biking, but can't say I've done any of them in years, perhaps even decades, as life in the city seems to to go by while making other plans. My families idea of my ideal life sounds similar to my own - some land on which to farm the resources I need, a stream with which to produce my own electricity, and a community of like minded people all looking to help and improve one anothers lives. I think my slight modification would be that the power from that stream be from a river, and what it powers be a datacenter - because sometimes you want to buy something expensive even if you do live in the woods, and lets face it, technology seems to have mostly helped us. ;) Plus having been poor and "50 cent rich" at different times, I can say that money doesn't make you a better or worse person - but it enables you to do good/bad things that would otherwise not be possible. It's a pity music careers are generally over when they stop singing about hedonism - we've built a generation that's chasing a cake which does not satisfy. I suppose the only consolation is most don't actually get to find out. I've experienced hedonism in my 20s, experienced addiction in my early 30s - anything worth doing is worth overdoing right? And when business took an unexpected hit from a trusted associate I let myself indulge in my sorrows. The cycle became self sustaining and the person I knew to be me would "go to sleep", letting "Tyler Durden" come out to play mid-blackout. This was a period of extreme highs and extreme lows, mixed with the betrayal by those I felt were my friends. Looking back I realized due to the instability of life I had given up on making meaningful relationships and treated everyone I met as a "single serving friend", leading to only those that served a purpose or whom I enabled being a part of my life. This fundamentally opposed my nature and all balance was lost as I lacked all meaningful connection in my life.

I value intelligence, compassion, kindness and generosity. All people can be all things, but in my experience our nature trends one way or the other. Too often we share our hearts with those that mistake them for doormats or seek to exploit generosity mistaken as weakness, leading us to grow cold and silent, or feel disillusioned by the lack of compassion still prevalent in humanity - a place I am returning from each day as I learn to see others as more similar, rather than different from myself. Being born in Africa during a time of massive violence and moving almost every single year in north america until my twenties I developed a tendency to only truly open up my life with those that seem permanent. I don't like large groups of people and get quiet or shy - even at 34... I imagine this is what caused the period of substance abuse to sustain itself for so long - you're super social when you're shitfaced because you don't care! :P

Having pulled my head out of my ass (or at least made an attempt? haha), grown, or rather, rediscovered an appreciation for life and realized how foolish sabotaging myself was, I'm pleased to say I feel the drive to improve the lives of others, and thus my own once more. I've spent the last 7~8 months on my transition back into sober living focusing on the rebuilding of my business and reflecting on life and death, and perhaps more importantly what I want my own to mean. Oh, if you hadn't realize, the meaning of your life is up to you. You exist in a universe that has no right or wrong, only IS or IS NOT / DO or DO NOT. Follow your heart and try to be the change you want to see in the world. Don't think -too- big tho, you're still just a human on a rock hurtling through space, baby steps. I'd like to spend the next chapters of my life sharing experiences with those that also see life as a brief window into the awe of being - in which they share compassion, love and happiness. To make the world a better place and pass it on to those that come after we're gone in the hopes that they too will have an experience as rich and rewarding as our own. And, you know, all those other regular normal everyday things we call life.

POF seems like a bad place for this, but if I stooped so low as to browse it, maybe you did too :P I've been single for long enough to know that it would take someone special to open my heart again. If you find more interesting than TMZ, but don't look down your nose at those who differ, then we're cool. If you're a pretentious elitist we'll probably also get along tho :P haha. Surely I jest?

As if that wasn't depressing enough my family lives overseas and my mother was recently diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer... so... hopefully things chill out soon so I can put the spring back into my step. I'm usually a pretty happy person, life is just being a bit of a****lately.

First Date
If you're not planning on becoming a liability I'm down to eat at a bar or something :P

Nature "centers me", something like Huntington Library and Descanso Gardens would be brilliant in my opinion.

I make my own schedule, so daytime activities while all the other plebs are working sounds good to me.

I would gladly have gone with "NO GED" had the option been present, instead we'll use it as a reflection of "probably in my peer group" ;P