Hi! One of my good friends describes me as that "Big Happy Guy" because I am big and I am gregarious and happy and use words like gregarious whenever possible.
People tell me I am smart and really funny and fun to hang out with and that they love working with me and that I am very strong and have integrity. Maybe they are lying... maybe they are just stroking my ego... or maybe its true! You wont know until you meet me.
I am a computer nerd, but I have very good social skills. I can get along with pretty much everyone and try hard to do so. I am at that age where I know who I am and what I want and what I don't want. I am out here because I don't want to just go out and pick up woman at the bar. I want a real realationship with intimacy and romance and trust with someone I enjoy and who enjoys me. I find myself these days alone too much as my friends have married and have kids and seemed to have dissapeared off the edge of the earth. I really think things are better with 2 people, if they really get along well and are committed to each other.
I stay away from woman with kids because I frankly don't want to compete with them for time and attention or ever be a step-dad or deal with ex's. I am not sure if I want kids but I know that I really don't know and am not just saying that to improve my chances at meeting someone.
I want things to be lite and easy and fun in life without drama. I want to be with someone who does not have a lot of rules for dating, but allows things to happen organically. I like down to earth girls and would rather hang out with someone in Jeans and a sweatshirt, than someone who was dragged behind a horse through the make-up and perfume counter at Macy's.
I don't like ultra feminsim girl-power crap. I like to pay, I like to open doors, because I am an actual Man. Yes, there are some real men out there who kill spiders and lift heavy objects. I want a woman who is beautiful on the inside and truly wants life to be good and enjoyable and does not heap pain and suffering on her own head with a lot of drama, games, unrealistic expectations or feelings of entitlement.. I want a woman who is OK with how she is and is not on a diet every monday or works out 7 days a week for 2 hours a day. I also want an oompa loompa.... and I want it NOW!
First of all, lets get this out in the open. I am a generous, giving man and will probably pick up the check if you just sit and stare at it awhile and don't offer to pay. Its old fashioned for the man to pay and being a child of the old ways, I still feel some sense of obligation to get the check. For a first encounter - This is simply unfair and so you should whip out your wallet and pay for your own cup of coffee or wine or beer at our first meeting. I have been repeatedly stuck with the check and it makes me not like you, because with computer dating, we are using this service to manufacture a face to face meeting. Thats all it is. Like replacing the time I bumped into you at the gorcery store and we both dropped our box if dried prunes and then when we squated to grab them, we grabbed the same box, our hands touched, then our eyes met, and then you blushed and pulled your hand away, then I handed you the box of dried prunes and said, here, I love these things because they keep me so dang regular, to which you grabbed them and said "hey me too" and laughed. Then I picked up the other box and put it in my basked and you stood up and brushed your hair away from your face and I said "I haven't seen you in here before, my name is _________." and you say "Hi ___________, I'm _____________" and then I say "Hey, ____________ I was just about to get a cup of coffee because besides the prunes, they really get me started! Do you want to join me?" And then You would say "I could sure use a cup of Jo to break loose the triple cheese lasagna dinner I had last night" and then we would go get coffee. Computer dating replaces everything up to the getting of the coffee- without that cute moment of attraction. Now I just pick you out of a catalog online, and if my picture and profile do not disgust you, we go get coffee.
First Meet (it’s not a date) - No Emails back and forth (not looking for a pen pal) No Phone calls (phone chemistry is different from real life chemistry).. Just a quick meet and chat at a neutral location for a beer of coffee or other arbitrary beverage and you pay for yours and I pay for mine!
First Date: Something that lets us talk and get to know each other. Some kind of shared bonding experience, like going out to Amish country and raising a barn, then getting caught in the rain so Ezekiel has to give us some clothes to wear that are made of scratchy wool and you end up in a bonnet and a heavy gingham dress and then the car won’t start so we end up in a horse and buggy and then a group of kids from town starts hassling us and I have to throw down because behind this gentle temporary Amish exterior beats the heart of a lion.
Or maybe a quiet dinner somewhere, if it gets to the end of dinner and I decide that I like you, I will typically pick up the check. If you bug the heck out of me, I will grab the check, stick it on the table and say .".. well lets see what I owe for my food"