I'm an enigma, wrapped in a riddle, wrapped in a jacket. But now to dispel all that, to dish out the full dope, the fat skinny, the… ugh, I’m bad at this.
I'm organized, but kind of messy; funny, but serious; caring, but introverted; a little cynical, but not a pessimist; and... and unable to think of any more parallel statements describing any pardoxical duality on my part.
I work full time for the state government. That means I work a regular 40 hours a week, my life is nice and stable (some would say "boring"), I don't plan on moving around for the foreseeable future, and I have all the time in the world for a relationship. But I am falling a bit into the rut lately of waiting for something to happen instead of making it happen.
I’m looking for a woman who has AT LEAST 3 of the 5 following qualities: 1) a great personality; 2) intelligence; 3) nice gams; 4) vast personal wealth; and 5) a head.
I love confident and assertive women, but I also want someone kind, patient, and non-judgmental, because I'm reserved with my thoughts and feelings, and am careful about letting myself be vulnerable. Sense of humor is a must, though for my part I’ll try not to be one of those insecure "funny" guys who can’t go two sentences without throwing in a joke. So, these two ducks walk into a bar…
I guess I should explain something up front. I am not currently religious, but I was raised LDS, and was a regular church goer all my life until recently. I was never very orthodox, always a doubter, and getting to this point has involved many years of evolving viewpoints. I feel basically agnostic at this point in life.
I’m still trying to figure out my process of “coming out” about my religious disbelief to everyone in my life. I still think of myself as a Mormon, at least in an ethnic sense. It’s a big part of my identity, and probably always will be, but I'd like to take with me only the parts that work for me. My preference would be to find someone similarly not religious, and ideally someone with a religious upbringing who can understand religious disaffection (another LDS “apostate” would certainly be lovely, if any of you are out there.) If you’ve never been religious, that's cool too, but be ready for some puzzling stuff from me occasionally. ("What do you mean, you wanna watch The Ten Commandments? What's wrong with you?") I could also dig a religious person, if you’re of a liberal theological bent, and won’t be troubled by my heathen ways.
For a first date, I like taking someone to lunch or dinner, or on a walk, or something else that would give us a chance to talk. And eat. Eating's good.