Personal Note: I’m finally getting things settled and organized, as I moved in December 2014 to a villa in Harvester. Last month, transitioned back to a former position at my employer I held a few years ago. I’m getting readjusted to the hours, and not having to worry about my Mom as much (as I’ve been worried about her when I used to be on the road constantly for work, ever since my stepfather passed away in September 2014). So, I’m back to focusing on getting the rest of my life back in order (my personal life/love life).
About me: I'm a SWM, 39 nearing 40, 6'1", around 225 pounds (I am overweight, and I am trying to work on that, but the hours/travelling the job I used to be on kind of limited things when I'm working anywhere from 55-70 hrs/week). I have usually very short brown hair (or none at all, as I've been on-again/off-again shaving it off), with brown eyes. I'm a non-smoker (and I expect that my partner is too, I've lost a few close relatives to some form of cancer via smoking. Sorry to say, but this is truly non-negotiable with me and one of the slight few deal breakers I have). I also do wear glasses (as you can see in my pictures), as I do need 'em to see well (near sighted and all). Emotionally, I have a big heart, but am sick and tired of not truly being given a chance or being taken advantage of by my sweet, caring, loyal nature. After awhile, all the hurt just builds up and it almost gets to a point where you wonder why you should truly care, if you aren't truly being given a true chance at a relationship.
I do have a full-time job which I just changed positions at my employer of nearly 10 years. I went back to a store position in Inventory/Merchandising, where I set up displays, put out movies/music/games, and kind of fill a “utility infielder” position in the department.
I am a big sports fan, and I do periodically play a few sports when a group of friends gets together or signs up for a league. My favorites are baseball (huge Cardinal fan, and a distant relative of mine actually played for a few years in the majors, before retiring after not making the Cards a few years ago. Also, debating a road trip to either Springfield, MO; Memphis, TN, or Quad Cities in Iowa), hockey (Go BLUES! and would love someone to go with me on a road trip to Chicago to see the Wolves or a home trip here to see the Blues, or even the minor league Missouri Mavericks hockey team in Independence, MO), football (Go Rams!), and golf (I enjoy playing, though I haven't played in awhile).
I am also a big movie nerd and nut, as I did take quite a few film classes in college. I do enjoy most movies, from action to sci-fi, from American to Korean, from epic summer blockbusters to cheesy MST3K-able B-movies. I also do enjoy some romantic comedies and musicals (namely Phantom, Momma Mia oddly enough, the Pirate Movie, and Singin' in the Rain). I love my Netflix (though I only use the streaming service), and when I get around to it, Hulu and Crackle. I'm also really enjoying some (not all) of the comic book movie adaptations. (still need to see Avengers: Age of Ultron, and planning on seeing Ant-Man too!).
Along with movies, there is TV, but I only watch some things. Lately, my big fave is NCIS (I used to be a huge CSI nut, but they can't do anything right since William Peterson/Gil Grissom left. Ted Danson as the lead? Really?!?! Meanwhile the spinoffs are falling like flies) Family Guy, Burn Notice, Necessary Roughness, Robot Chicken, Cleveland Show, How I Met Your Mother, Big Bang Theory are current faves. New show faves include Arrow (which is loosely based on my favorite comic book hero), Agents of SHIELD, the Goldbergs. All-time faves include: the various incarnations of Star Trek, Stargate SG-1/Atlantis, the A-Team, Knight Rider, Spenser For Hire/its spinoff A Man Called Hawk (based off one of my fave book series), along with some of the cartoons I grew up with in the '80s. Watching them helps me reminisce from when I was a kid (also realize, "God, this was good for me back then?" and "I do NOT remember this happening!")
Musically, I did do a year of on-air radio DJ'ing in my college days, so I do have a varied taste in music. I do listen to nearly anything, but there are some things I can't really enjoy (sorry to say, such as bluegrass, reggae, some country, etc...). My current genre faves are: 80s new wave, European power/symphonic metal, nearly most progressive rock/metal, dance/techno (a lot of my faves are between the '94-98 years, and recent "re-do's" of classic songs). Lately, I've been enjoying discovering various prog/symphonic bands with female lead singers (Lacuna Coil, Evanescence, Nightwish [especially now they finally got a solid singer in Floor Jensen of ReVamp and formerly of After Forever], Within Temptation, Delain, After Forever, etc...).
I do tend to read a lot (thanks to inheriting that from my Mom). My favorite author passed away about 2 years ago, so lately I've been collecting/finishing up the three series of his I absolutely enjoy reading (that author is mystery novelist, Robert B. Parker), along with the new books that his publishers have granted new writers for. Not only do I read, but I'm dabbling here/there in writing two different novels (one is a mystery one influenced by Parker and another fave author, Jim Butcher; the other is a sci-fi series that I'd need Paramount/Simon & Schuster's permission for). I tend to stick with mysteries, techno thrillers from a handful of fave authors (the aformentioned Parker, Butcher, along with Clive Cussler, Jack DuBrul, David Morrell, Lee Child), and a few series based off of TV/movies I like (namely the Star Trek: TNG books). Recently though, I delved into Barry Eisler's Rain series, and was blown away with how good they were.
Finally, about me, I am one of the guys who likes to shop and find a bargain. In fact, my friends absolutely love the fact that I am "the deal finder." I just have that touch I guess. Also, I tend to be a nice guy for gals to have around for that clothes opinion (some ex-GFs usually would take me to Kohl's as help to determine what looked good on them).
WHAT I’M LOOKING FOR:
My ideal match is a SWF/DWF (sorry, no separated gals please), who is 25 to 42, a NON-smoker (that's one of those deal breakers, sorry), who has a thin/athletic/fit/average/slightly overweight build), preferably with 0-2 kids, who is searching for someone for a real, genuine long-term relationship with the possibility that it may last forever. Distance-wise, I'd prefer to stay on this side of the Missouri or the Missisippi Rivers, but I will consider some gals in Illinois (northern Metro, like say Alton to Collinsville, per se. Sorry, last relationship, which she was in South Belleville/Smithton, IL nearly got me killed twice driving home late, and nearly passing out from being sleepy behind the whee