Hey, thanks for taking a second to check out the words under the pictures.
In most ways I'm a typical guy: my Mom thinks I'm handsome (thanks, Mom), my friends think I'm funny, love animals, you know the drill.
But, okay, what sets me apart?
Well, I'm employed, amicable, open-minded, unconventional, intelligent (or at least educated,) outgoing and upbeat...and these are just the vowels!
I'm in education and I'm into education; really, totally passionate about it. Get me going about the inequities of our urban public schools, I dare you.
I'm busy...but I prioritize well, so I also date. I'm a teacher during the day, I have a pt job at night, I'm also in grad school. Again. I have mixed feelings about that last part - it turned my life upside down - but I'm doing it anyhow. It does mean that I do have papers and reading to do for school...when I'm not grading papers and assigning reading for work...when I'm not at the evening job...and all that stuff sometimes; which, yes, can suck up some of my free time...but I like being busy.
I used to be like 270lbs. That was fat - all sorts of fat. I'm under 200 now-a-days but still could lose like 20lbs. I'm working on this but, hey, I get it if it's a dealbreaker. Don't be afraid to say so...I'd rather hear that than get nothing back from you at all. That said, I still love to go out and get a bite to eat and have a few beers and watch the game/catch a show/enjoy each others company. It just means I go to the gym more...(although, in the spirit of fairness, I do hate the gym - hate it with such heat and passion that is typically reserved for certain Indian foods, Latin dances, and the surface of a dying star. I go anyhow, though.)
I have a horrible singing voice. Seriously. Like a large barnyard animal. Dying. In great pain.
I suffer from vanity...sorta. Better worded, I suffer from an intense feeling of deserving something good in my life. I suffer from wanting to wake up next to someone who I am proud of; who I am physically, emotionally, AND spiritually attracted to; who I feel could probably do a little bit better than me but, for some reason, seems happy to sleep next to me...but I better not start taking this for granted. Just in case.
...and, frankly, I hope that the woman I am with feels the same way when she looks back. Like all of us, I don't want to be with someone who would rather be with someone else.
I don't like when I hear people say they are looking for their "better" or "other" half - it sounds like they don't feel whole to begin with. A good relationship doesn't complete who you are - it compliments who you are. You were always complete; even if you've forgotten it.
True Story: Sharing a beer or two with a happily married buddy - I pass news from the dating front like it's a job he left but still wants gossip about. I laugh about the last less-than-successful date I had and shrug it off with some passing anecdote. He laughs too and, shaking his head, said "I'm surprised you haven't gotten bitter yet." Honestly? Sure, I've totally gotten bitter...until I meet someone I'm excited to see again. And, suddenly, I'm seven years old and believe in mall santa's and x-men and happily ever after's all over again. It's a good feeling.
If you're curious? Write to me. I'd like to hear from you.
Yes, I have my "No pictures, no mail" settings checked. Attraction is felt immediately. Affection is built over time. Ideally, I'd like both. I hope you do, too!
Speaking of pictures, I was slammed for having a "bunch of selfies" here. Well, it's true, I guess but most of my friends are guys. How often do you see guys snapping pictures of each other with their cellphones? I don't know, I guess I could ask them to...although it may be kinda weird...