Time to shake things up a little! Hey there! I'm a 41 year old Paramedic in the Bay Area looking for someone fun to hang out with, have some adventures, & see if we can make a connection. I'm not overly excited about still being single, all my friends are married with little kids, so meeting a great guy at Chuck E Cheese has been a bit challenging...turns out normal single guys don't hang out there... ;)
So I'm normal, sane, anti-dramatic (I deal with drama all day long at work, have little time for it in my own life!), & have my act together. I'm healthy (physically & mentally), take good care of myself, & overall I'm pretty damn happy with my life. I'm always smiling, always laughing, & quick with an often inappropriate joke. ;) I'm looking for the same in a partner. Someone who is well-employed & financially stable, who doesn't live with his mother (I'm sure she's great, really...), who isn't married & trolling for a side-piece, & who IS interested in a long-term situation that eventually (not next Tuesday) leads to marriage & children. A ready-made family is fine, but I want at least one of my own, & no ex-drama please! I'm also an ARMY veteran, raised by a Marine, & currently working in the civilian equivalent of a war zone...so those who understand the EMS lifestyle (medical, fire, police, soldiers, etc) are a good match for me...it's a special way of life, & not at all like depicted on TV...
Who are you? You're genuinely a good guy. You understand that respect is earned by your actions, & give it freely. Nice to others, you go out of your way to help out because it's the right thing to do, & it just makes you feel good. You keep your promises for the same reason. You've got a good head on your shoulders, a wicked sense of humor, & don't take yourself too seriously, because I can assure you, I won't. ;) You take care of yourself because even though life is short, you might be here a while & want to be able to enjoy the finer things this world has to offer. You recognize an awesome woman when you meet her (that would be me), & do everything possible to let her know she's special, important, & one of the greatest reasons your life is so fantastic. That said, you'd never lie to her, cheat on her, or purposefully give her reason to doubt your feelings & intentions. You understand that a woman of substance & self-respect (also me) will not send you nude photos or engage in inappropriate conversation having never met you (you wouldn't expect a woman to do so in line at the grocery store, would you? Speak to a woman you've yet to meet like you'd want any man to speak to your own daughter or sister), so you won't waste either of our time going there. Speaking of photos, yours reflect the gentleman in you, not the pervert. I could care less about your six pack, it's your brain & self-respect that interests me (if all of your pics are half-nude, I'll keep looking elsewhere). You wear a belt, because you understand that walking around with your pants sagging to your knees just looks ridiculous, & you have pride in your general appearance. You're educated, intelligent, & continue to further yourself because life has so many lessons to teach us. You're good-looking, because yes, chemistry is important, but more importantly, your great attitude shines through, making you all the more handsome. I'm attracted to the clean-cut look, generally taller than me, fit & well put together (although a little scruff is sometimes good). And you're STD-free (this is non-negotiable).
All my pics are of me, in different stages of life, but current within the past couple years. My hair is currently almost waist-length, though I tend to grow it out, cut it off, & donate it to Locks of Love. Otherwise, they all pretty much represent my current look & physique. Your pics should reflect the current you as well. Also, I am 41, looking for a guy within a couple years either way. If you're in your 50's, I'm sure you're great, but not for me (likewise, if you're in your 20's, you're just in a different stage of life & it probably won't work). I want someone still able to not only have kids, but keep up with them, lol. Finally, if you got a "hey there" message from me & it seems like all the girls on POF do the same, I'll let you in on a little secret...POF has a "flirt" option for women...we click it to say we're interested, that's the message you get. So no, we're not all Stepford Women, some are just a little shy or maybe lazy. In my case, if you got a "hey there", it's because I'm likely sitting on a street corner in my ambulance & didn't have time to send a more heartfelt message...so write me back, & let's get this started!