4/21/13 - I have multiple additions to this, some are more entertaining than others. this one is long.... Ideally, I would like to find a partner in life. someone who is a compliment in life. the blending of two lives would only make sense if both parties involved experienced an overall increase in happiness. someone to share the simple joys of daily life, and tackle more challenging and exciting recreational quest. someone who is comfortable spending time together, and also enjoys the time apart to cultivate the parts of our souls that differ. Someone to spend down time with, able to relax around. someone who is capable of true intimacy. someone who secure emotionally, not cold.
I also know that two complete strangers, who've journeyed this far in life, have many important variables that may not be compatible without proper preparation. (families, jobs, friends, pets, locations, etc)
I also believe that time is involved in understanding who a person is. Many people just skip over the crucial early stages of evaluating to what degree a relationship will evolve, and yet remain healthy. The result being a frustrating and dysfunctional arrangement.
I also realize that I am so limited in availability (I now have my daughter 100% of the time, my son 50% at 2 different school districts, run my own business, volunteer at a pet shelter) So I won't steal time from those precious parts of my life, until that time has been designated as a potentially valuable improvement to the nucleus of my family. This isn't meant out of disrespect for any potential members of said group, but more as a testimony to my dedication towards those I am responsible for.
In the end, this code that I love by, relegates me to a single status, that I, by no means am unsatisfied with. I do enjoy the friendships that I cultivate here, although they are short lived. As most either become frustrated with the methodical (slow) pace, or make that move forward with another (my best wishes to them).
11/30/12 - I don't know what to put under intent. Yes a long term relationship would be great, but I am not looking for it. By that I mean, some people decide there needs to be a significant other. Then they try and fill that position. Kind of a Co-dependency issue. I on the other hand, am not afraid of a committed relationship. But I want that to be with my best friend. The realistic order therefore would be friends first. My profile has become rather long, it is the result of 2 years of editing. The 2 year part is a result of not afraid of being single.
Original post - I am a full time single father. I have 2 weekends a month to myself to have a personal life. I moved back to this area (from the beach) to secure custody of my children. (son 13, daughter 9)
My hobbies: I used to enjoy playing ice and deck hockey, basketball, football, camping, guitar, pool.
Now my hobbies are spending time with my 2 kids.
My goals: Raising happy healthy children.
We like to go to the beach and visit family and friends. We like to go to the rivers and hike, build rock dams, whitewater raft, climb rocks, sledding on a snowy day. We cook together, clean together, game, bike, work on homework together. We currently don't do the tv, just Netflix and gaming systems.
For religion, I am spiritual, with morals. I don't oppose anyone elses beliefs. I enjoy hearing about yours, but please don't preach to me.
I think it is important to take care of yourself physically, and work hard in your profession. I also find that I CANNOT enjoy someone who finds their identity in their looks and material possessions.
I try hard not to judge anyone and accept all.
This site seems like the perfect place for a busy person to meet people. I have had quite a few people show interest and have attempted to meet. The problem is I have ZERO time. I am sorry, and nobody has been stood up. I am a single dad who runs his own contracting company. I have 2 weekends a month to myself. I can't remember the last time I didn't work during that time off. I am not a work-aholic, I just don't have enough time to get everything done. Cooking, cleaning, shopping, homework, work, bidding jobs, doing jobs, getting kids on and off buses. I have kids all week long, the weekends I have my kids I take them on some kind of outdoor adventure (this year was lots of rafting, kyaking, beach, hiking, kennywooding, etc.) I really dont even think about the fact that I am alone, no time. So if I have told anyone that I was interested in meeting, then you never heard from me again.....its me, not you. lol.
I will take this opportunity to express some general thoughts about the opposite sex, as I enjoy the profiles that do this.
If your pictures are provocative, and you can't understand why all you attract are man pigs.....you are not self aware enough for my time.
If you try to mislead others on your physical stature, by taking pictures of yourself from above, while you suck in your cheeks, you are only fooling yourself (try hiding your arms, a dead give away). You shouldn't try to get a man who doesn't appreciate you for whats inside, no matter how lonely you are.
Unless you are ACTUALLY in a gang, the gang signs only make you look like a tool. (yes, guys aren't the only tools)
I am trying to think of some more, I am not affected enough by these things, that they are pet peeves.
If all of your pictures include a drink in your hand, and you are over the age of 30.....that has to mean something.
If you are looking for a sugar daddy, and your search is on a free dating site.....MOVE OUT OF THE TRAILER PARK and get a clue. (not that there is anything wrong with that, I embrace my white trashness)
I am stopping for now, I cant think of anything else, maybe I will browse with a more critical eye.