I would say that I'm artsy, romantic, intellectual, thoughtful, and open-minded. Imagine a mix of starving artist, scholar, nerd, and stereotypical English major and you've got it. Some topics that I like are science, languages, history, travel, current events, and the big philosophical quandaries of life in general. I'm also somewhat guarded around new people, independent, and really not so sure about this whole online dating thing anymore. Having said that, I'm on the quiet side and I've moved a fair amount in the past several years, so it's been getting harder and harder to meet people my age that I have things in common with outside of work. I know online dating isn't the only way to meet people, but I thought I should give it a shot and keep an open mind.
For the Myers-Briggs enthusiasts out there, I'm an INFP: I'm introverted; iNtuitive, spacey, and interested in the big ideas; Feeling, meaning I make most of my decisions based on how I'm going to feel about the outcome; and Perceiving, in that I like to leave plans open and casual.
First, the turn-offs:
- If you're religious AND you expect me to be religious, too. If you're religious, that's cool and I can respect that in a partner, but don't try to change or convert me.
- If you're politically conservative. Sorry. We just wouldn't see eye-to-eye on a lot of things.
- If you're sure that you want to have lots of kids. I'm not quite sold on that idea just yet.
- If you're a food snob. I'll eat just about anything, so I wouldn't get along with someone who is constantly reminding me how awful something is for my health (but it tastes so good!). I keep decent track of my health on my own and don't need someone to do that for me.
- If you're too materialistic and interested in appearances. Because ew.
- If you write a bland or generic profile. I know that talking about yourself can be hard for a lot of people, but give me specifics! Don't just say, "I like music, hanging out with friends, and having fun." What kind of music? Do you sing in the shower or the car? What do you do with your friends? What do you do in your downtime?
- Intellect! Even if we are interested in different things, I love being around people who have a basic curiosity about the world.
- If you're artistic, or, if the best you can do is draw a stick figure, then someone who appreciates art. I like to draw, so that would be a cool thing to share with someone.
- If you're understanding, open-minded, kind, and don't rush to judgment.
- Uniqueness. Don't be afraid to be expressive, quirky, unique, flawed, or weird.
- A good sense of humor. I have my serious side, and you should, too, but if you look down on a good fart story, well then, what kind of a miserable life are you living?
These last ones aren't deal breakers, just superficial soft spots of mine:
- Freckles. They're your inner quirkiness and passion on display for all to see. Wear them proudly!
- Bangs... because they're amazing. Adorn your foreheads, ladies!
- A great smile! The kind that goes all the way up to the eyes, so that I know that it's genuine.
If you're interested, send me a message. Happy browsing!
As far as places to eat, I'd prefer something that's not too stuffy, somewhere where we can feel comfortable. Maybe a walk afterward would be nice, or maybe even a little shopping at some shops nearby. I just want the date to be casual and to go at a pace that allows for us to get to know each other and spend a nice afternoon or evening together. Maybe the art museum as well? It's cheap and you can learn a lot about someone from how they react to art.