A lot of people's profiles state that they're looking for someone who "has their life together," someone who is "successful," "ambitious," "outgoing," "funny," etc. At the risk of being misunderstood, that's not quite what I'm looking for. I certainly don't want to date a basket case, but I also don't want to date a human brochure full of happy people drinking margaritas on a beach. The people in my life who I have grown closest to are the people who have shared their struggles as well as their accomplishments with me. If you present yourself as being completely "normal" and "successful" on here, I'll know that you're not telling the whole story. I want to date a whole person, not just their good side or the side that they show to the rest of the world. Granted, if you've gotten a promotion and take interesting trips around the country, congrats! By all means, share those things with me! But also be honest on here and take a chance. Don't try to impress me with how funny and successful you are. Impress me with how pleasantly human, quirky, and incomplete you are.
A little more about me. I would say that I'm artsy, romantic, intellectual, thoughtful, and open-minded. Imagine a mix of starving artist, scholar, nerd, and stereotypical English major and you've got it. I'm also somewhat guarded around new people, independent, and really not so sure of this whole online dating thing anymore. I mean, I'm in my early 30s: I have my own life, routine, and rhythm. I'm not going to just date any old person at this point. There has to be something special going on.
I have actually thought/uttered the phrase, "Look at the bangs on her!" referring to a nice, thick set of straight bangs. Bangs are a definite hook for me. Weird, I know. I also compulsively check women's profile pics for freckles on the cheeks and arms. Another one of my quirky turn ons. And if you have red or reddish-brown hair or a thick shock of curly hair, I will click on your profile before I even realize what's happened.
Having said all that, I prefer laid-back, understanding, nonjudgmental people, who, even if they don't know a lot about the subjects that I'm interested in, are generally smart, quick on the uptake, and have a mind that's eager to learn. And, hey, by all means, I would love to meet someone who can teach me things that I don't know. I gravitate toward people who, whether they are shy or outgoing, can be quirky, warm, genuine, and expressive when they feel comfortable. I like women who can run the gamut from serious life conversations to laughing about embarrassing fart stories. In short, I'm looking for someone with a friendly smile, a bright mind, a quirky, unique disposition, and a kind heart.
As far as places to eat, I'd prefer something that's not too stuffy, somewhere where we can feel comfortable. Maybe a walk afterward would be nice, or maybe even a little shopping at some shops nearby. I just want the date to be casual and to go at a pace that allows for us to get to know each other and spend a nice afternoon or evening together. Maybe the art museum as well? It's cheap and you can learn a lot about someone from how they react to art.