I like to sketch portraits in my spare time and blog on occasion, as well as sing when I get the chance and when I hear the right music. I’ve been told that I’m decent with all of them. It’s important to me to find the right words to describe something, whether that involves how I feel about someone or something, or just finding the right words to tell a story well. I’ve been told that that makes me a good teacher and that it makes me good at getting my perspectives across to other people. I love to learn about new things, the less practical and useful the information, the better. Some topics that I like are science, languages, history, travel, current events, and the big philosophical quandaries of life in general. I can usually think my way into another person’s perspective and worldview given enough time, and I’m generally pretty good at not judging other people as I learn more about them.
I’ve always been careful about who I opened up to. I think of words as things that, once you put them out into the world, for better or worse, are rather hard to unsay. However, if I’m around fun and nonjudgmental people, they act as a catalyst for my personality and I become spontaneous, sarcastic, and talkative in a way that surprises them. As I’ve gone through my 20s and into my 30s, I’ve grown more comfortable with myself and what I’m looking for in a potential partner. I suppose that this has made me pickier, but it has also kept me from wasting my time with incompatible people. I’ve also moved around a bit over the last several years for school and jobs, so it’s been difficult to find a close group of friends my age that I have a lot in common with. A lot of my friends and family are settling down and having kids and I’m still very much living the single life in a seemingly shrinking dating pool. I know online dating isn't the only way to meet people, but I thought I should give it a shot and keep an open mind.
In terms of a partner, I greatly value intellect. Even if we are interested in different things, I love being around people who have a basic curiosity about the world. I also appreciate people who are artistic, or at least someone who can appreciate other people’s art. I also gravitate toward those who keep an open mind about a range of topics and don't rush to judgment and trying to “fix” other people. I also like being around women who strike a balance between wearing their hearts on their sleeves and holding back when necessary. I especially appreciate people who have qualities that are unmistakable as compared with those around them, whether it be chic hair, an unusual wardrobe, a loud, boisterous laugh, or a striking smile. I want to date a complicated individual with their life’s story, not a bland stereotype. Be yourself!
As far as places to eat, I'd prefer something that's not too stuffy, somewhere where we can feel comfortable. Maybe a walk afterward would be nice, or maybe even a little shopping at some shops nearby. I just want the date to be casual and to go at a pace that allows for us to get to know each other and spend a nice afternoon or evening together. Maybe the art museum as well? It's cheap and you can learn a lot about someone from how they react to art.