Bottom line: I just want to find a person whom I find desirable and interesting to find me desirable and interesting as well.
I like to sketch faces, observe the little details in the world around me, indulge an intuitive take on the world, and I have an insatiable curiosity about the world. I enjoy learning how things came to be the way they are, how things work, and why things are the way they are instead of being another way. I also require an outlet for what I learn, usually through sketching, but also sometimes through writing and blogging, and I also love to sing. I’ve been told that I listen attentively and offer good advice, that I treat people with respect, and that I give people the time and space that they need. I prefer to skip right to the big questions in life, such as the possibility of life after death, the best ways to live life, or anything involving history, biology, languages, astronomy, or current events. I don’t do small talk, at least not at first. If you want to disengage me right away, talk about who just bought a house, how someone’s job is going, who just had a kid, or how the local sports teams are doing. Sorry. None of that floats my boat. On the other hand, if you tell me a funny bodily function story, my opinion of you will improve very rapidly. I strive to do well in my job and improve in any way I can, but I’m not in love with my job. It’s what I do to pay the bills and it allows me to do what I'm passionate about in the meantime. As far as having children and starting a family, let’s just say that if you put a baby or toddler in front of me, I’m suddenly claustrophobic. Put a puppy, a kitten, or the offspring of practically any other mammal in front of me and my heart melts at the sight of them, but human babies? Huh-uh. Maybe my perspective on that will change in time, but I don’t want anyone entering into a long-term relationship with me on a false pretense when it comes to having children.
As far as why I’m on here, there’s the usual reason of not wanting to go bar-hopping to start a long-term relationship. I also don’t talk much unless someone approaches me first. I can open up, I can make people laugh, and dare I say I can even captivate people’s attention, but it takes time and the right company. I’ve also been in and out of school for some time, so I got spoiled by having life just supply me with a ready group of classmates to hang out with. Now that I’m out of school, I’m slowly learning to find a new group of people to spend time with based on my interests.
As to whom I'm looking for, that would be someone with similar interests and/or a similar temperament: someone who withholds judgment and shallow criticism; someone who enjoys learning and takes an intellectual interest in the world around them; someone who at least treats others with a modicum of decency and respect; someone who asks after others and really checks in on how they’re doing; and someone who isn’t easily rattled or irritated. I have certain soft spots, just everyone else, but I'm often surprised at each combination of features that I end up finding attractive. I’ve gone for women who tower over me and those who need help reaching things in cabinets, women with willow-wand bodies and women with dangerous curves, and women who won’t shut up to women who need a lot of encouragement to talk, like I do.
As far as places to eat, I'd prefer something that's not too stuffy, somewhere where we can feel comfortable. Maybe a walk afterward would be nice, or maybe even a little shopping at some shops nearby. I just want the date to be casual and to go at a pace that allows for us to get to know each other and spend a nice afternoon or evening together. Maybe the art museum as well? It's cheap and you can learn a lot about someone from how they react to art.