I like lots of different music. I used to listen to a lot of industrial and ebm when I was in college, I love bluegrass and DIY Punk, reggae, and classic country like Johnny Cash, June Carter, conway twitty, etc, but I pretty much listen to everything, metal, and horror punk too. i like to go out and see live music when i can.. usually in bars because its cheaper and more convenient than big concerts..or outside. i used to write and paint and sculpt and be involved in theater and sing in some bands, and its still the kind of person i am, however at this point in my life i am just too tired to be creative. one of these days ill find it again.
I’m 5'2", hazel/ sometimes greenish eyes, red hair, half Irish, half Canadian Inuit. though my hair is black right now just for fun. it was supposed to be brown but turned out black with a redish tint.. curse of the ginger. i cant make it stay any other color. yes i make ginger jokes about myself. i am also not sure whether i have a soul. i am an olive skinned redhead, yes i look like a demented christmas ornament in my natural state. lol i'm a nerd and i dont care what anybody else thinks. I am a woman now and not a teenaged girl, and sh*t happens when you get old. So you can’t expect a perfect body anymore. i've decided that i dont care about it and i'm not gonna waste any more of my life being upset over it, having a kid wrecked me physically emotionally and financially and now i'm over it blah blah snore and of that story. if thin is important to you dont bother talking to me. you can like me how i am now or just dont talk to me. that actully did need to be said, as a bunch of people have wasted a ton of my time and then been like, "oh you're actually fat.." and i'm like "did you think i was kidding when i told you a head of time?"
the most important difference about me is that i dont NEED a man at all... for anything. I Want one sometimes, though i am also fine by myself. nobody but me dictates what i do and how i feel. and if you just cant chill out and not give me ultimatums and threats i cant take it. i like a lot of freedom and calm. i wouldnt cheat or anything like that but i dont always like anyone constantly getting in my business and asking about every quirky thing i do, for example you might come home and i could be cutting a hole in the wall or painting a mural on it or there could be a duck in the bathtub or a lion in the kitchen (true story), just dont ask me about it, i know what i'm doing and ill explain when i'm ready, i just dont see the point of being with somebody if all they do is stress me out while theyre around and i cant do the weird things i like to do. my daughter does not have a father either, so i have no drama. lets keep it that way.
I grew up in Europe, I’ve moved around so much that i'm not "from" anywhere, just where ever i am now, i have no roots although someday i would like to grow them and give them to my daughter. i would like to be family oriented, but i just dont have much of one anymore. so i enjoy spending time with other peoples' families and hope to marry into one. i love old people. and could talk to them for hours, i used to be an Eagles member instead of going to the college bars, i sang karaoke duets with 80 year old vets instead of dancin with 20 something douche bags... I have some piercings (7/8" earlobes, 2G tongue, various ear piercings with a chain running through them, 4G septum i dont always wear and both 10G nostrils, and two rhinestone implants in my neck that i'm about to have removed) and tattoos (only 8), I plan to have more tattoos. i like body modification (duh). I will not change for anyone and I will not try to change you. that doesn't mean i wont change, if i decide to change myself. if im with you its because i liked how you were when we met, so dont act like somebody youre not and let the real you out later. i mean like, still dont fart on me and talk about your sh*t habits and stuff because i will barf, but otherwise be comfortable. dont act like you do laundry n put away the dishes if you dont. if you’re too embarrassed to introduce me to your friends and family, move on. i dont expect you to announce our engagement to the world, i just dont appreciate being hidden under a rock, or introduced as your "buddy", i don't date my friends. i dont do casual sex (or whatever the kids are calling it now). i dont do games. you like me or you dont, and i expect a decision to be with me exclusively or not after a few months of "dating". i know what i think of most people after meeting them once. i am a good judge of character and i dont feel i have time for for anyone who is fickle or wishy-washy or needs lots of attention from everyone and a possy of 12 year old girls to make him feel good about himself. i've also grown tired of going out of my way to overlook certain things.. so if you do something i dont like i'm going to be the first to say it to your face, and if you try to go in public with me wearing shoes that You describe as "cute" i'm going to knock you down and throw them over a telephone wire.
i have a lot of animals but you wouldnt guess it when you walk into my house... i'm not one of those stinky animal hoarder people you can smell from next door.. i have 2 female Staffordshire Terrier Cattle Dog mixes (litter mates). I also have a canary named Frank and a pigeon named Ouija who gets jealous if anyone comes near me, and a huge sakura lion head ornamental goldfish. i also have a green thumb.. mainly for indoor gardening.. (no i dont grow weed, but i could make a fortune if i did) i have plants everywhere and my bedroom looks like a jungle.. i have lots of various wandering jews, generations of spider plants, cacti, desert rose, mangrove tree saplings, water lilies and other marginal water plants (yes grown indoors), various other palms and dracaenas and i'm starting to get into orchids and bonsai. i'm also about to grow some giant bamboo. if that bored you to tears, then you wont be able to stand me, because thats the sum of my hobbies at the moment besides building custom wooden furniture.. i've had to sell most of my extra stuff due to the cost of having a kid on my own- so i dont have a bike or a motorcycle anymore or anything else to do really besides work, and go out somewhere once in a great while.
I can be feisty, hold my own with the boys, I can also be a sweet girl when I feel like it. i like custom cars and trucks, riding motorcycles and shooting guns. nothing feels better at the end of a rotten day than to take a gun, go out and blow holes in something. Sometimes I say mean things, but it's funny so laugh. For boys who like toys... i drive a Jeep on a lift kit, and no, you don't get to drive... ever. :) I am intelligent (132 IQ), culturally worldly, and educated and very life-experienced but sometimes it takes people a while to figure that out since I don’t talk a lot in person and I can be
maybe just meet somewhere public and have coffee or drinks and talk or go for a walk. or i suppose we could plan some sort of activity like canoeing or hiking, if he promises not to chop me up and leave me in the woods... first dates are scary...
and just an FYI if youve read this far, not to sound crass, but when i sign on here i have 50 plus messages from all kinds of people, so if you really do want to talk to me, send me a msg that says something more than just "hi" or "what up?".. ask me a question or give me something more to respond to or i will likely just pass you over due to trying to read everybodys msgs and decide weather or not to take the time and respond... i can not respond to everybody id have to live my life on here if i did. not to sound ungrateful for the attention.. -also ive noticed that pof deletes a ton of my messages before i can read them all, so keep trying if you really want to talk to me. and sometimes ill be writing back and forth with someone and get on to read the latest one and everything is gone, so i dont know whats up with that.