TO CONNECT OR NOT TO CONNECT; THAT IS THE QUESTION
What is character? What is commitment? What is it to pursue with belief and confidence? What is a relationship if not that?
I am looking for a physically beautiful woman to me that also is a beautiful soul and has character and wisdom. We will all fail each other at various times in our life, but a truly loving a person sees past our weaknesses to who we truly are. That might sound a little cliche or bit old fashioned, but I think a lot of that old conventional wisdom has been lost in our society. Now, I am anything but old fashioned (by and large), but I believe in the underlying currents of a committed relationship that allows time to shape how we align ourselves with each other; the "the dance of life". We're not always (possibly) on-step to the beat of the music, but how much does that matter - ultimately? I've heard from others that they want the type of relationship where as they age, they are respectful, loving and that love endures and abides in a sustainable manner. I get that and agree to that, but that takes time and commitment. In essence, this takes time for allowances and forgiveness. That transcends the notions of mere romance novels and movies. I believe our hearts can potentially be in the same place; but, how does that translate into real life? This in itself has almost made me a skeptic of any future loving, lasting relationship to any extent.
Generally as a society, we have become too independent and protective of our lives. How then can you share your heart and life with me if this is the case? I could care less about activity levels and interests and everything else; because, in a relationship that really doesn't matter. In a new relationship, the intent is to align with each other and to allow things we do to shape our interests. Silos are created when we expect alignment to only our side of the relationship. How will you benefit me and my interests, etc.? I do not want anymore of that! I am a very giving and independent person. I'm not asking you to sell your soul to me, but I am not looking to sell my soul to you. That's where collaboration to each other's needs comes in.
This site provides a capability for us to mingle and judge each other to see if there's an attraction and hopefully more. Once past that, what is it about? If all we think is that it's fun just to check each other out, then be honest and say that; knowing that sometimes things can lead from there. However, should things lead from there, please consider what I've already previously mentioned from my perspective.
Personally, I most certainly am not your "average bear" and people typically pick up on that from me very quickly. Mostly, people don't understand me while in plain view, because of their own preconceived notions or interests. I am both 'simply understood' and 'quite complicated', but that also gives me the ability to understand people and very likely you. Yet, at the same time if we are connecting, I will revere and hold your heart near and dear. I cannot endure games though in this arena. I prefer honest, upfront discussion, understanding and ongoing commitment towards each other. I quite likely will reveal a lot about myself as I observe to see how you handle this. It's not about your thoughts or judgments, but rather aimed at your ability to understand, accept, be truthful about yourself and then see how good we are at building new bridges into each other's lives.
Please keep in mind that I am not just saying sh*t to get your interest or attention. I'm way past that. I'm looking for a 'long-term, committed, understanding and a willingness to grow together relationship' for the rest of our remaining lives.
My overall desire is not just with a "so-called" possibly good time or fun, but for a committed, loving relationship filled with a mutual acceptance and understanding; and, peace and joy between us!