Seeking for the right one is an oxymoron at best. As people, we need to concentrate on what really matters in life, don't you think?..... I do! I could say a plethora of things that may or may not interest you about me and you may do the same about yourself - the fact is, do we really like each other and are we compatible?
Are you visual? Does the look mean the most to you? Are you ( or the one you hope to be with) wealthy? Is that somehow meaningful for your own self esteem? I believe attraction must be real and we must be very comfortable with the one that we commit to in order to withstand the plethora of pressures that we are accosted by day in and day out. Granted, we have been dealt various realities in our lives (positive and negative). However, moving forward takes courage and an optimistic belief that good, positive change is not only possible, it is within our grasp if we would only believe and accept that possibility. I admit, my little dissertation will likely turn pretty much or most of you off from me as you presumably don't see things this way... and I get that. This is aimed squarely towards the ones that do in fact get this and do in fact experience this in their life in reality, on a daily basis and / more.
Granted, we truly do need that physical, emotional and intellectual connection. The spiritual side of the connection is even better when shared and we all should admit that this part of our lives is real - even if we do not fully understand or comprehend it as such.
I'm not trying to be a "party-pooper" as such, but I have found that authenticity among relationships has tended to be trite and status-quo. So then, what does it take to make them great? I'm sure (especially if you've read this far) that you have similar or the same thoughts or comments; which is what is the most desirable to discover. Compatibility; Mutual, desired adaptations; Seeking commonalities; Respecting each other; Being attracted to each other; Sharing life's interests and goals together; ultimately, loving each other immensely. What is so bad about that? Thrill seeking only lasts for a day. Real relationships last a lifetime.I've explained what's most important to me. What's really most important to you?