I, like many of you in the dating world lately, have found the experience quite exasperating, frustrating and near hopeless which has left me longing for a bygone era. There is too much texting and not enough real time spent together; spreading ourselves thin playing the field and not focusing our energy on truly seeing one person's worth; too much self-defensive sarcasm and not enough soul-baring truth; too many emoticons and not enough hand-written love notes; too much meaningless sex with anybody instead of making love with somebody special; too many unrealistic expectations of the "perfect" one and not enough humility and realism. I read an article which seams to sum it up well and I think is worth a read:
If, you too, yearn for the simplicity of a bygone era, please read on...if not, then good luck in your searches.
I'm a head-in-the-clouds, down-to-earth, come from the country, live in the city kind of girl. I like a man with an IQ in the triple digits that isn't a smart-ass, who likes to monkey around but isn't a total ape, who's old enough to not have to babysit, yet young enough to not be my surrogate dad. Someone who understands that in any relationship, respect, trust and communication are most important. Friendship is the basis in which I begin all relationships. I like to spend a fair amount of time together but keep my own life as well. I have a 12yr old son, who is my heart walking around in this world. I can only hope to meet someone who can not only be my best friend, but a good role model for my son as well, since he needs to learn respect, honesty and good values from the people in his life. If a man doesn't exemplify the traits I want my son to have as a grown man, then he wouldn't be the right one for us.
I love to have fun and relax. Love singing and goofing around. Like getting out to new places and trying new things. My friends say I have 2 modes: Chill and Go. I'm either relaxing or doing 3 things at the same time (so you can either jump in and help or stay the hell outta my way). I love conversations about any and all things, although I do tend to be a little wordy when it's a topic I'm really interested in. I'm a very physical person: snuggling, pda, holding hands, back rubs, lots of sugars, etc. I'm usually in a good mood and joking around, unless I'm really busy with something, then I get focused and quiet. I have a sarcastic, somewhat dark sense of humor and am pretty direct but I try not to hurt any feelings. I'm a DIY kind of woman...working on my own car, plumbing, fixing appliances, building things and yard work (you can hand me the tools, lol). I'm not a very political person but I do believe in equal rights and am a strong advocate for environmental issues (reduce, reuse, recycle, repurpose) and for adopting shelter animals (who needs a puppy mill designer dog anyway?). I'm a giver/doer not a lazy taker and have tried to rid my life of soul-sucking kinds of people (that never call unless they need something). I always help people in need but can't stand people who take advantage of that side of me.
If you're someone who hates "the gays", thinks women belong in the kitchen, cares far too much about working out, hitting the clubs, hunting for sport, your vehicle or your large cache of firearms, it would be a waste of time for us to meet. My life doesn't include hate for anyone or material preoccupations. I like men who say what they mean, do what they promise to, who aren't ignorant to the the world around them, who love kids (or at least mine...lol), and are somewhat old fashioned in their values. Mostly, that they are mature enough to be past all the bs games that we all played, at some point in our past, and know that relationships take time, work, and commitment. My life is fine without a man, but I would really like to have someone in it that I can truly love... and be loved by.
Best of luck in your search ;-)
A long walk on the beach, candlelit dinner or dancing in the moonlight...gag. These are movie-script, fantasy things that nobody in the real world ever does. I would much rather enjoy something simple and based in reality, like enjoying a restaurant, pub, or hole in the wall place that neither of us have ever been to. No home-court advantages for either of us ;-)~