Hello there! Ok, I'm going to start off by saying, I am single, never married, eight year old son, and I am looking to first meet, then click, then kiss, then fall, then long term, then who knows!
So with that out of the way, where to start.... I'm a movie buff, always throwing obscure quotes out there, workout (though I do take the winter off), hiking (especially in Yosemite), outdoorsy type of stuff, love camping, riding my mountain bike, play guitar (mostly Spanish Classical, but i can pretty much play anything), write my own music, meet strange new people, hang out with friends, going on little mini-vacations, listen to and find new music from obscure bands you'll never hear of, the list goes on, if you really want to know, you could always ask and I'll get into specifics. But really I'm the type of guy that would be just as happy going out with the boys or sitting on the couch watching a movie with my mom. I'm really easy going, extremely patient, and to be honest I like to be a little sarcastic at times, but you know in a playful way that makes you laugh. So someone who is confident and can dish it right back at me is always fun. Actually I'll tell you what, confidence and self respect are probably some of the most important qualities that I find in a woman. Even if you aren't content with the way you look, if you come across as confident and cool, I got to tell you, that is probably just as attractive to me as if you looked like Selma Hayek or Scarlet Johanson. And also, someone who is down to earth and has a big heart is huge plus in my book. You know, someone who drops a dollar in the guys hat playing an out of tune guitar on the corner instead of walking by and pretending not to notice. It doesn't matter what the guy does with it, all that matters is you cared enough to give. Little things like that matter! And it's all those little things that add up to someone worthwhile, it's all those little things that you end up missing the most at the end of the day. But all in all, everyone has their own little quirks and qualities and that's what I look for. Shoot, that's what makes any of us special and different. Quirks and Qualities! What makes you different? What makes you special? What do you bring to the table? And most important, what am I going to miss about you when you are not around? What's going to make me keep checking my cell phone to see if it's working because you're number hasn't popped up yet?
Basically, I'm just looking for someone who I click with. Someone to bounce ideas off of. Be goofy with. Say good morning to . Someone to look forward to talk to at the end of the day. Someone to just call up spur of the moment to catch a flick or go see some random indie band playing at the Glass House! Shoot even someone who has a Dland passport and we can meet up infront of Small World just to watch the fireworks at 9:30 pm! And also someone who is not relying on anyone but themselves for happiness. Someone who is not too clingy and likes their own space. Don't get me wrong (and this is important!), I love someone who always wants to spend their free time together because there is nothing on this Earth like that feeling of excitement and butterflies when you know you are going to see that someone special, but it's still nice just to have that alone time to where you can miss that person when they aren't around and appreciate those little things that make you think about them so much. But ultimately, I want to be in a relationship, and more importantly to fall in love with someone again, and know that that person is also falling just as hard for me. To support someone in their decisions and their life and and have them support mine as well. To be a team once again! And to be honest, I guess that's really what I miss most about being in a relationship. having someone there to raise you up at the end of really rough day with just a smile and a loving hug. A Team!
There's plenty more but I'm already told my profile is too long! So,if you have any questions, ask away! I won't say I'm an open book because that's so cliche, plus, I'm really not. Because as with anyone whose been burned in the past, walls are built and they aren't easily taken down overnight. But if we click and you seem sincere and genuine, then hey, I might just throw you a hammer! SO with that being said I will be honest. And I hope that you can be as well.
-Internet dating creates the perception of abundant supply. No matter how many people we meet, we feel there are still lots out there. The supply erodes the value of any one individual. As a result people pass over great relationship opportunities on the hunt for the ever-more-perfect one. We skim the surface, rather than deep dive in the experience of dating.-
...my love is as sharp as a needle in your eye, you must be such a fool to pass me by... - Morrissey
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Any place where you sit, talk or walk. Talking being the most important of the three! And yes, first meet up is not really so much a date per se but a more 'hey let's do some chit and then some chat and see if we click' type of deal. If we get past that first encounter, then we could talk about a real date.