Dating has honestly been rough for me. I'm really busy with work and raising my little girl, so I don't have much time to meet people. I like to be outdoors camping or walking or going to garage sales or to local events... I also like to stay inside and watch movies (documentaries for sure), read, talk, listen to music, dance, sing out loud and I love to eat good food... I need someone to be honest and trusting and to let me be a bit bossy. I think I'm funny for the most part and love to laugh. I'm honest (sometimes too much) and sarcastic, but a bit stubborn as well (that's where the bossy part comes in). I have a lot of passion for what I believe in and will fight for it if need be. I try really hard not to be judgmental and instead prefer to hear the whole story before making a decision. I don't try to change who others are or what they think, but I will not keep my mouth shut just because my opinion may not be theirs. I think a little debate is good in order to really know what you stand for. I don't think I'm better than others, but I do think people in general should be better role models and less selfish. I have a little girl, 5 years, who I devote most of my free time to. Well, all my free time is more accurate since the only free time I really get without her is when she is sleeping. I spend a lot of time with my family when I am not working, but since I am moving closer to them than I have been in the last 13 years, I may need a break!!!
At this point in my life I have a good idea of what I want out of a relationship and a partner. There are certain things that I know will bother me, even if they are silly to others, so I have just decided to let you know some of them. Lying, smacking while you eat, being greedy with things, having a dirty car/house (not that it needs to be perfect looking all the time, but take pride in your property- and I'm talking about a car that you can't sit in comfortably because of all the crap), lying, talking about ex's and people you slept with way too much (or at all really), smoking, spending money on stupid things (unless you have enough to go around, but family needs come first), having hundreds of facebook/myspace friends and keeping girls on there that you dated once and continue to flirt with (please don't pay more attention to the phone than the person you are with), pretending you can fix things that you can't and did I mention lying?
So when it comes to what I like... able to fix things (car, household things), has his life together for the most part (don't live with your parents, have a decent car (that it runs is really all), get over past baggage, be ready to have and care for a family), spoil me a bit or a lot, but don't go too far that I could push you over, smell good whether it's cologne or deodorant or just natural (that's more of a bonus), keep busy so that I keep busy (let's not just sit on the couch and watch tv all the time)... I have to admit that I am not a huge cuddler and don't do sweet talk too much, though it may have had something to do with not feeling into past relationships, so if that is really important to you right off the bat please move on. If I really like you and feel secure and safe and can trust you, it will come naturally and it will be great because that means I really like you, but don't push it with me if I am not responding-it will turn me off real quick. I am a bit of a tomboy and am independent, so it has been hard for me to let go of control over my life (i own my condo, own my car, take care of my girl myself, have a decent job, take care of my appearance); however, I would really like to be able to loosen up and let someone take care of me. I would prefer not to work as much as I do and would like to be able to focus on taking care of my family. That doesn't mean that I am only interested in someone's money, but I guess I'm a bit old school when it comes to wanting to be taken care of and not having to work 50 hours a week to survive. Still interested?
Oh, and please don't send a message that just says 'hi'. Unless you don't really want a response. It just bugs me.