My friends would describe me as funny with a sarcastic bent, quick-witted, and very smart. Okay fine, that's how I would describe me. My friends would probably offer that I'm well-mannered and know lots of useless trivia. I like my independence, but would like to have someone to go and do things with, movies, dinner, coffee. I am sort of a gym rat, and try to work out 3-4 times a week. I like to run, it is where I find my happy place. I am a happy person, very active in my church, and don't get angry easily. I am also a dog person, and have a couple of very bad beagles. I like historical novels, Christian music, and HGTV. Ugh, sounds like quite the nerd. But wait! I also like suspense novels, Pink, and...FOOTBALL! See, not such a nerd after all.
I'm not an incomplete person looking for someone to make me whole, or someone who is lonely and broken without someone in my life. I don't think it is the job of someone I am dating to complete me, or fulfill me in any way. I think dating is about finding someone to have fun with, someone you enjoy being with, without hanging all your hopes and dreams on that person. We are social creatures, made to be in community with others - but I have learned that I must be whole and happy by myself, and just look for that "happy bonus" that another person can bring.
I love C.S. Lewis, and he said, To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket- safe, dark, motionless, airless--it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.