It shouldn't be this difficult....Communication is the key factor to any relationship; friendship or otherwise....
Easy going person who's seriously looking to have long-term companionship. I enjoy the basics: dining, movies, theatre, concerts, bowling. My passion is traveling and I have a passport. I've been to London, Ireland, Italy and Switzerland. I desire to meet a man that is active, enjoys traveling and wants to live an adventurous life. I enjoy being active and on the go, although an occassional stay at home relax and watch DVD's does occur. I love being on the road and taking long drives, and am not opposed to taking turns getting behind the wheel. I'm also still a kid at heart and love amusement parks and roller coasters.
I'm searching for my best friend. Although I can understand and appreciate an initial casual relationship, I would prefer to meet someone who is interested in having a long term committed relationship and who is open-minded regarding marriage.
3 Reasons Men Pull Away ~ Michael Fiore
It Always Starts with a Spark…
You meet a guy – maybe online, maybe at the gym, maybe you’re introduced by friends.
And at first, it’s magic.
You feel this incredible spark and have butterflies doing backflips in your stomach.
The way he looks at you, the way he smells, the way you feel in his arms … it’s all incredible.
You go out once or twice and it’s heaven. You feel electricity through your bones when you kiss. You stop it from going further. Or you don’t, and it’s like heaven.
And even though you know it’s foolish (even though you know it’s too soon) that little voice in the back of your mind starts making plans for a happy future you want so very, very much.
He stops calling. He stops chasing you. And even if you see him in person that light is gone from his eyes.
And you’re left alone again.
Alone and heartbroken and feeling foolish and angry and wondering…
Why do men come on so strong, get your hopes up, make you FEEL like that… only to PULL away when you’re right at the edge of something passionate and connected and wonderful?
Men pull away from women for 3 reasons…
Reason 1: The “Rubber Band Effect”
Men often pull away because a woman has the emotional “rubber band” pulled too tight on her side. She comes across as over-invested, over-close and over-eager too soon for his limited emotional software to handle.
Remember, guys want to CHASE a woman and need to feel like he EARNED her if he’s ever going to truly commit to you. Even if you feel like you’re taking things “emotionally slow” you might be triggering his flight instinct without even knowing it.
Reason 2: A Man Chooses
Men pull away because he has more interest in another woman, or his work or his hobbies. Sometimes this means a guy is a “Player” who’s just looking for sex (which is why you need to make a guy work for that first sexual encounter) but other times it’s because a woman hasn’t triggered deep enough attraction in a man to make him CHOOSE to be with her.
Reason 3: The “Big Commitment”…
Here’s a huge mistake many women make in their online dating profiles:
Putting up something like “Must be looking for a serious relationship only.”
Great men who are ready and willing to be in something “serious” will run for the hills if he thinks he has to “buy the cow” before he’s even had a chance to get to know it. Again, it’s not that he doesn’t “want” a real relationship or that he’s not “ready” for one, it’s that HE has to make the choice…
I met my Teddy Bear Heaven on POF and fell in love instantly. I knew I belonged with him. The first time he held me in his arms, I was home. But "Red Flags" surround him and my past with "Red Flags" still haunt me. Yet, I can't shake the feeling that we belong together. Do I ignore the "Red Flags" and play it out. I pray for him every night; I pray for me; I pray for us. I ask God for guidance and strength because my heart is in such turmoil. It hurts to think he just doesn't care....