I've never been married, why I'm not quite sure. Just seems like the time got away. Can't believe I'm 56 (yikes, how that happen?). I feel, act, and been told I dress more like the UCD grad student I once was. Personally, I prefer to consider my wardrobe as unpretentious, though over the past few years, I have succumbed to fabrics other than denim and clean up well. If you have an event to attend, I promise I won’t embarrass you.
I have owned a civil and environmental engineering firm for 20 years and am currently winding it (and me) down. I'm educated and intelligent, thoughtful and introspective, versed in many areas and interested in more than myself. I have all my teeth, most of my hair, and have remained relatively scar free, emotionally and physically, through my life’s journey.
I love red wine (it is actually one of my top three reasons for living), expressing my creative side (I am currently renovating short sale disasters into homes habitable for humans), the mountains, beaches, and other non-crowded places. I hate stop signs and their second cousin the speed bump, pretentiousness, and clutter (e. g., if you can no longer see the top of your bathroom counter for the curling irons, blow dryers, make-up, and last week’s coffee cup, we are probably not a match). I have a playful and keen sense of humor which tends towards the dry side. Self-deprecating humor is my preference, as I can generally provide myself with nearly an endless supply of material. Travel just might be my one true passion (maybe reason No. 2 for living - you will have to email me for reason No. 3), as it is the last great legal way of having fun and living beyond the boundaries of every day life. I like to travel light, without an agenda - no excess baggage on trips or in my life. I spend some free time puttering, fixing things. In fact, I am known as the guy who can get things fixed.
Things that I am not or could be considered a deal breaker are too numerous to list. Hence, I’ll stick to the ones I don’t mind a half million strangers to see. The theater and symphony are not my favorites. The only way I would go to an opera or the ballet is at gunpoint. Though I am educated, I am not sophisticated, refined or intellectual (my degrees are in engineering for God's sake, what did you expect?). I can’t dance to save my life but will try if it makes you happy. Don’t even think of asking me to sing.
I have been on POF before. In that time I have come to realize that looking for a soul mate may be too idealistic and no longer be realistic. Being quite real, is it too much to ask for someone who finds life easier and more interesting as two. Someone who has a sense of self and a sense of humor. Maybe throw in intelligence, an even disposition, and time to play and I am good. Someone who believes communication is the holy grail of a relationship. That listening is not enough, but understanding the genuinely intended meaning, irrespective of the filtering effects of one’s own life experiences, is the path to true intimacy.
OK, now for the fine print: I am not commitment phobic! I have had several long term relationships (of 4 years or more) – so I can commit. Now as far as being set in my ways, selfish, and self centered…well maybe. I think you should get know me before drawing a conclusion. People can sometimes surprise.