Hi, my name is Rob and I’m boring. Well, let me clarify. I do like to do stuff (beach, hiking, sports, dive bars, travel, art shows, etc.), but usually WITH someone. In other words, when I’m alone I don’t do much, but when I’m dating someone I’m game for anything….as long as it’s not something that needs me to wake up at 7am on a Saturday or Sunday. I mean c’mon, sleep is precious. Bottom line, I’m mellow. I’m chill (not Netflix and chill). I just like to relax. If you strongly consider yourself to be “spontaneous” then we won’t work out. I’m not a go-go-go, hyper person that needs to be outside and active and doing a zillion things 24/7. So, if that’s the type of guy you’re looking for, I’m not him. BTW, most men are like me, but will lie to attract your interest and then in the near future their true colors will shine through. At least I’m honest up front, unlike most men. I’m not here to waste anyone’s time, especially mine. But don’t worry, I’m not a sloth who spends all day on the couch. I do get out. I do the gym on the regular, I ride my Harley, I play all kinds of sports, go for walks, I read, I compose electronic music, I write, I design, I love movies, art walks, etc. There is a lot I do, I just don’t do it all a lot, know what I mean? But again, when I’m with someone, I am happy to do/go/see/experience pretty much whatever. Let’s just make sure there are some lazy days sprinkled in as well.
If you’re still with me I’m impressed. However, the next thing I say will probably finally get you to leave my page. I really don’t want kids. I’m not saying NEVER, because my mind could possibly maybe change in the future. But as of now I have no interest whatsoever in having kids. I want to find someone who feels the same way. Again, I’m being honest from the start. And yes, if I do find that special person and we get married and we fall madly in love with each other…who knows…but I wouldn’t bet on it.
I want someone who is emotionally and mentally ready for a relationship. If you don’t love yourself or if your life is out of control, you are not ready for a relationship. Also, if you’re still hung up on an ex or still incredibly scared by a past relationship, don’t even bother trying to find someone new. You wouldn’t dive into the ocean unless you were completely ready to swim, would you? Don’t lie to yourself or others. Don’t lead people on when you know you’re still hung up on someone else. Treat others as you’d like to be treated.
If you’re high-maintenance (and you know who you are) we will not get along. I do not date typical materialistic OC women who are so into makeup and clothes and jewelry and the hippest clubs and restaurants. I want someone who doesn’t wear makeup and fancy clothes and hairdo all the time. I want your natural beauty. A true, deep, meaningful relationship is not about all those things.
If you need lots of attention from OTHER people, move on right now. I will give you all the attention in the world, but if you constantly need attention and validation from strangers and are always texting on your phone or on FB and IG just to show the world how “hot” you are, then we will not work at all.
I have NO secrets that would in any way affect a relationship I’m in. I do not lie. So don’t tell me one thing and turn out to do the opposite later on. Don’t act one way at the beginning and transform into something else in the future. What you see with me is what you get and will always get and I expect the same from you.
If you keep close ties and are friends with your exes, please move along. You should not be friends with those you’ve had sex with and have expressed deep feelings for. I don’t want to meet your friend who used to be your ex and had his genitals inside your genitals in the past. That’s just gross and if you NEED to keep those people close to you then you really haven’t moved on. Plus, it’s very disrespectful to whom you’re dating.
I drink and I hope you do as well. It’s fun and it feels good. But I can control my intake and I expect that you can too. I don’t need to go out to bars/clubs all the time and close them down at 2am.
Do you have direction in life? Do you have a job you love? I don’t care what kind of job you have just as long as you love (or at least like) what you do. I realize nobody has a perfect life. It’s all a work in progress. But is your life stable and are you in a good place? Are you happy in general or are you miserable pretending to be happy?
All in all, I want to find someone I can be completely comfortable with. Someone I can be totally open with and have no fear. Trust is key. I will NEVER cheat or lie to you and I expect the same. Also, I am soooo not into drama. I communicate very well and I need you to do the same. I HATE to fight. I am very calm and have a relaxed demeanor. I am mature and intelligent and can have a discussion about something rather than a fight about it. So, if you’re the kind of woman who likes drama and actually thinks that fighting is a form of passion, then please close this page.
If you’ve ever seen the move True Romance then you’ll know what kind of relationship I want. Someone who can’t live without me and vice versa. Not only a strong romance but a strong friendship as well. My favorite line in the movie is, “When I’m with you, then I’m with you and I don’t want anybody else.” If you haven’t seen the movie, give it a shot.
Wow…you read the whole thing. I’m impressed. Well then, I’d love to chat.