Are you looking for a companion who will make you a stronger, better, and more fulfilled person? You might say "no" to that -- you already have those traits. You might be offended that I would suggest that you don't have them, or that you would need another person to achieve them, but that is not what I'm saying. By this point in our lives, most of us have learned to at least stand on our own, if not move forward and grow. However, don't you think that you could move forward and grow faster and more successfully if you had the right person walking by your side, or even pushing you forward? When you find the man for you, won't you want him to do those things -- to support, encourage, and inspire you -- even if that wasn't the reason you were looking for him?
Though I've been able to build a good life for myself, I am looking for a woman to share this life with me. I am looking for someone who can push me to be better and to go even farther in my life. I'm not just looking for someone I can come home to after work and watch Netflix with every night. I feel sad when I see these couples around town that seem to be going through the motions of being in a relationship, when an outside observer like myself can't see any sort of passion or emotional connection between them. It's like they're just staying together to avoid being alone. That is not for me! I'm not just looking for a woman who I can exist with -- I'm looking for a woman who I cannot exist without!
Down the road, you and I will curl up on the couch together and watch Netflix. We'll even do it often. But that will not be a routine. That will be just one of several ways that we will enjoy each others' company -- after we've put in the time planning our goals, dreams, and future travels together, and we have worked toward achieving them.
I'd like to meet somewhere for a drink and talk with each other. Tell me your story -- what is important to you and what makes you unique. I prefer meeting in person over trying to get to know each other through messaging. There is just so much more to a person than the words they say.
Dates that have stages seem to work well. Let's meet for a drink and chat. If there's no connection we can say good-bye but, if there is a connection, let's order another round and play a game of pool! After the game, if there's no connection we can say good-bye but, if there is still a connection, let's go for a walk down by the river.
I like the concept of online dating. It's a great way to learn a little bit about a lot of people, and you can see if someone is a terrible match for you before you actually talk to them or go on a date with them. In that respect, I think it is a great way to save time. However, it seems that a lot of people see it as a great way to waste time. Some ladies want to message back and forth but never want to meet new people in person. I don't know if it makes them feel good to receive messages, or if they think it makes the guy feel good to receive messages, or if there is some other reason. Messaging is cool, but if you never plan to meet then what is the point?