So the online dating community sucks, nevertheless I continue to forge ahead...
I'm looking for someone positive and intellectual. Trustworthy and compromising open and sure of herself. I need you to be independent and yet open to be vulnerable. Sarcasm is certainly acceptable, I expect witty banter and serious talk in the same conversation. Please have a direction in life, you'll find that I'm very supportive of your goals and interests. I don't mind if you like sports and watch reality tv, I'm not into that sort of thing. Narcissistic things like twitter and Facebook pose little to no interest for me. If you want social stimulation, go visit someone in person.
About me, I love what I do for work. I'm a Software Engineer. I find solutions to complex problems. It's immensely gratifying and there's always more to learn. I have hobbies but many of them enable me to be a happy bachelor and maintain my personality or gain more skills for my job. I do have times where I enjoy being alone, but I also need time with friends and ultimately with someone I care about in a romantic fashion. I believe that a couple needs their own time apart (think an evening with friends, not days completely apart) to maintain the kind of personality you were attracted to in the first place.
I'm direct, I know what I want. Both of these facets of my personality intimidate many people. I'm selective about who I talk with on here. I would rather be alone than be with someone who is negative. I used to not care so much about age, younger or older. In fact I've dated older in the past. This has not worked out so well. I'm looking to go the other way and date someone the same age or younger. Specifically 38 or younger, no exceptions. Also preferably not someone who is divorced, definitely not someone who is in the process of separating. I have wasted too much of my time finding exceptions for broken women only to be ultimately disappointed because they continue to make bad decisions. I will not entertain the idea of a polyamorous relationship. Yes it is necessary that I have that exclusion in my profile.
Anything that we're both comfortable doing of course. I prefer something where it can lead to stimulating conversation, usually this happens over some sort of meal.
Maybe we could hit up the Chazen museum and see some of the really awesome stuff.
Or if you're into archery, we could hit the range together and shoot targets.
Or see a band that's in town?
Take dancing lessons together?