* Seriously... If you are shorter than me I will not reply.
** if you are newly single, please make sure you are over it before starting something new. Don't make quick decisions when you are vulnerable and lonely, if you are still having second thoughts about who you were with. Save everyone from the pain. Just make sure you are ready to move on.
*** I am 420 tolerant but if you smoke it often (often = more than a couple times a week maybe?) it will probably not work out. If you can't be sober most of the time, life spins out of control.
First things first. I am overweight, not morbidly obese, but yes fat. Good with light and angles in pictures. I don't want to be fat, I want to lose weight. I haven't been able to get much done with work and kids to take care of.
Next, I don't send the first contact message. It's just not my style. That being said, don't be afraid to send me a message because, if you do, there are two possible outcomes. #1 is that I do not answer because I am not interested, usually because someone is too short (and obviously didn't read that part) or has no pictures etc. #2 is that I do answer because something does interest me. I won't be mean or hurtful, I just may not respond. Please don't think I am being mean or shallow. I lay out pretty clearly that physical attraction is a must. The same should go for you. If you like tiny women and I am not your type, why would I be mad? We all have preferences and deal breakers. So please don't be mean to me if you don't like or understand why there are certain things I am looking for.
I am a busy woman, I work very hard and long hours. I have kids at home. My time is precious. I don't have time to devote to a relationship that needs my attention 24/7. You must be secure and not need to be by my side or in constant contact with me every second of the day. You should want the same. Long Distance (over 100 miles) relationships don't tend to work very well. I am not planning on moving anytime soon. I would prefer to keep it within 100 miles if possible.
I am NOT the outdoorsy type. I don't camp, fish, hike, etc. I do like to go to the river on hot days and I miss the central and Southern California beaches from my youth. That being said, I like a man that can got do manly stuff with his friends or alone and be happy that I don't want to go along. But I will keep the bed warm for your return :)
I am NON-religious. I am agnostic/atheist. I do not date anyone who has a deep rooted faith in religion. I find it ends up being quite hard on a relationship and everyone involved. Again please don't be mean to me because of my lack of religious belief. I don't criticize others for their beliefs, please don't criticize mine.
I am attracted to men my age or older and taller than me. I like big, tall, strong attractive men. You MUST be taller than me (some men say they are 5'10", and then end up being shorter than me. The second we meet I will know that you are shorter.). I'm sorry, it's a matter of attraction. Facial hair is a extra points as well at lighter colored eyes (blue, green, hazel, grey). If you message me and I don't respond it may be because you are shorter/younger than me or you have no photos or are religious. If you wear sunglasses in all your pics I will assume you are cross eyed. If you have no pics of yourself, I'll assume you are either in a relationship or someone I would not be attracted to. I've learned that attraction is crucial in a relationship. I would not expect someone who likes 5'2" thin Asian women to be attracted to me, please don't be upset if I am not attracted to a married 30yo 5'8" Christian racist with 2 teeth and a lazy eye.
I have a strong sex drive and need a partner with the same and with equipment to satisfy. (My equipment is satisfactory). Let's say 6.5"-8" is about perfect. I'm not looking for a monster. Average or a little above is perfect for me. You must have a few more talents too. I am looking for more that the vanilla sex life that so many are accustomed to these days. If we click on the other areas then we can talk about this in further detail.
I will be happy to talk to you and get to know you, but please do not be demanding or try to convince me to meet you sooner than I am ready. If it's meant to be it's worth the wait. If waiting is something you don't want to do, I'm ok with that. I am in no hurry. You must have job and be a hard worker. I will not be anyone's sugar momma again. Too many times. I already have kids I don't need to take care of a full grown man anywhere but the bedroom. ;)
I am a very kind and loving woman. I love affection and to show affection. I like to smile and love to laugh. I enjoy making others smile and laugh and feel good about themselves. Some of my profile comes off as negative. But I really am a sweet nice person. I am looking for a kind, affectionate, generous, hardworking, self-sufficient man. A man who does not anger easily, non violent, non racist, non hated filled, non jealous. Trusting and trust worthy. Dependable, stable, etc. I know most men are these things. I tend to attract the ones that are not. I won't give up looking though. ;)
More to come as I think about it. Thank you for stopping by. Please pull forward.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Coffee to see if there is attraction.