I value honesty and transparency, and would like to have it in return, so I'm just going to lay it out there...
I'm a real person. I have my good qualities, of which some people would say there are many, and I have my ugly moments, which are far too many in my own mind. I am not a perfect person, but I do have a lot to offer, given the opportunity.
The first thing that comes to mind when I want to describe myself is that I'm an active part of the Columbus music scene. I play in multiple well-regarded bands and have produced some recordings that some people have found sonically pleasing. I spend a lot of time practicing, performing, attending shows, and thinking about music. Yes, I am a music snob, but I'll forgive you if you're not. Music is very important to me. However, it is not all that I am.
Of most importance is my daughter. She lives with her mother here in Columbus. I see her often and she spends time at my house often. We have a great relationship and I am very involved in her life. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and the ongoing pinnacle of my creative efforts, and I look forward with excitement to, and never regret, the time I spend with her.
I am a teacher. I teach English to immigrants & refugees in a pretty rough part of Columbus. My heart breaks for these people and the situations they've had to endure in their short lives. I made a career switch some years back in order to go into this specific part of education. From a social justice standpoint, I needed to put my money where my mouth was. Obviously, there is a lot of meaning in this work and I care deeply about the importance of what I do. It is not easy work. In fact, it is very challenging. However, at the end of the day I know that I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing right now. It's good to have peace about that.
What am I looking for in a woman? Well, I can honestly say that I'm not looking for the random hook-up. I'm not on here for sex. I could name off physical traits, but that's all a bit superficial, really. What I'd really like to find is a woman who is what she bills herself to be and is consistent about that in her public, online, and private life. Again, honesty and transparency. Very important to me.
It always seems a little dangerous to name the things past, "Hey, do you want to get dinner?" I'm always worried that it will make people think I want to get all serious right away. I'd rather just have fun and get to know and see what happens. But, since it seems most of us are on here hoping to get past, "Hey, do you want to get dinner?" I'll go ahead and risk it...
I'm looking for something with some staying power. That doesn't mean that I want to get married tomorrow, it just means that I'd like to connect with someone who "gets" me and whom I "get" and have some consistency and a certain level of commitment that comes along with that. Profound depth and companionship on a level that can share the experiences of life is a good thing. That's where I'm at. I'm just not at the life-long commitment point...yet.
Just as I'm trying to be the right person (a fully realized and actualized version of me), I'm looking for the right person, not for a person who will settle for my demands or allow herself to have those leached out of her. Admittedly, I expect a lot out of a woman. That calls for a strong individual. I don't mind a bit of sass in a woman. Actually, I expect it out of the strong types and generally find it attractive as long as it's respectful. I'm looking for someone with a heart. Compassion both toward the world, and toward their significant other. Someone who has the intelligence and wisdom to help me process life. I am not a dumb person, but I am only one perspective on this world. I want a teammate, not a competitor. I want someone who will never stop opening the depths of her mind and soul over time, just as I would to her.
That's all I'm asking for. :)
I did have only the following (old answer) on here. However, I realized that that might seem like a bit much. Really, a first date is probably going to start small. Coffee or drinks. A casual event to meet up at. It's a chance to talk and get to know. If things click, then we can talk about where to go and what to do next, or we can plan for a second date. Pretty casual, really.
A first date could be casual or very planned. It all depends. Dinner at a hip and unique restaurant. An activity. Something fun. Probably not a movie on the first date. After dinner/activity, head out to a low key establishment for a drink and to talk, or check out some live music. If the weather is nice, take a walk. It's all about getting to know the other person while at the same time realizing that it's a date so you're being kind and respectful and generous. You kind of play it as it goes. When you're done with one place you go to the next depending on how well you're connecting with the person.