Boy, plentyoffish is pretty pushy about how I should go about this. Hold my hand, please, plentyoffish! And tell me who's good for me! There's no way I could figure it out on my own! Thank goodness you are free, however, and offer plenty of fish.
Most people perceive me as intelligent. It's not completely accurate, but it's a nice thing to have in my corner. There's a power in it, and I have to remember that people can't help how intelligent they are, any more than they can help anything else. I think I'm pretty witty. I'm very interested in people. Whether I'm watching a sitcom or reading a psychological article, I really can't get enough.
Although I'm a thinker, I'm a happy person at heart. I don't really get depressed. I like popular music, and I like to be entertained. In a way, I'm not all that serious, although in another, I'm super serious. I do want my life to be about something. I'm burdened by expectations that I got from my father. There's a part of me that will always be aloof, that has never been able to escape from my background.
I don't lie. I present my faults very quickly. I think it's exciting to find something out that is true about myself, even if it would generally be perceived as negative. That's one reason why I'm so honest. The other is just that I'm terrified of anyone finding out anything negative about me that I didn't tell them. I couldn't stand to be exposed as a liar. Even when I watch characters lying on TV, it makes me very uncomfortable.
Part of it's being a serious person, but I give off tensions that can make me less than the perfect companion, although I'm really talking about in groups, not one on one. I don't quite address people right. The words will be o.k., but I still sometimes stay a little outside of their aura. Most people probably wouldn't be quick to think of me as a friend, unless they had a special connection with me. As I've gotten older, I do increasingly consider myself a fun person, and value fun people myself.
I can surprise with surges of passion on seemingly unimportant subjects. I wouldn't necessarily say that is a good thing. I have tons of ideas, and enjoy waxing philosophical. In a way, I'm kind of creative, although I wouldn't score as such on creativity tests (I'm exceedingly left-brained). If I read a book, oh my God, I can talk about it forever.
I greatly value communication. I believe everyone should be talked to on her own level.
I'm pretty sure I would be a great father. I'm a great cat owner, at least. I like teaching, and I like having people for whom you'll do anything, which is what parenthood is about.
I'm sort of a sensitive guy. Physically affectionate if that's called for. Love to talk. I'm not sensitive in that I won't hold doors for you, or necessarily feel things so well that I can't verbalize.
I like to surprise. If I believe in you, if you're the one, I want to give you eveything you always wanted and more. I like to please people, so why wouldn't I? I think that desire to make people happy goes deeper than pleasing people and won't run out after a few months, but I understand that doesn't sound so good. But nothing could make me happier than if you thought I was great, other than I guess thinking that I am great. That has to come first, that's a matter of principle, but I think that usually, pleasing you deep down and pleasing me deep down don't conflict, at least if we're similar.
A couple of other negatives. I'm afraid of criticism, particularly in the professional realm, so I don't put myself out there like I should. I'm also a very private person. I have self-confidence, but not so much self-confidence that others will like me. At the very least, it's often a risk I don't want to take. I also often feel like I'm imposing on people, which can stop me from engaging before it should.
I'm really competitive, and I'm really driven, although that isn't always obvious. I'm a good sport, and hopefully enlightened about what matters, but I am competitive.
I'll balance out my profile with some mention of things I like to do with other people, as well as a smidge of background. I'm a pretty serious fan of baseball, football, and horse racing, but I'm at home in the sports world in general. Not necessarily at home when people are saying how much they like their team and how much they hate the other guys', but able to get the hang of any sporting event I go to, and engaged by the competition and drama.
I probably should mention which sports I do myself here, and the answer is none seriously, except running. I do work out, but funny how so many people mention that....The main thing that separates working out from teeth cleaning is it takes a lot more time. More seriously, I swim a lot. I like the sensation of it, even though I'm slow. So swimmimg for me is a step up from teeth cleaning, if a step below athletic pursuit.
My other social or quasi social likes include movies, theatre, games, county fairs, and zoos. I spend a lot of time doing the non-social and the indoors: reading, studying horse racing charts, watching political shows. Some TV, too: I watched the first "Mad Men" episode when it came out, and have been with it ever since.
I just got a temporary job doing data entry. It's my first real job of any kind in a very long time, and being temporary, of course, it's not completely real, or going to be a permanent staple of the POF profile. I wasn't working because of a combination of: 1) not being under financial pressure; 2) wanting to pursue my own interests; 3) not thinking I could get any kind of a decent job as my resume became less and less competitive. When I seemed to have a reasonably bright future, my experience was in Applied Statistics, and then Psychology.
I haven't lived in New Jersey for long, and I still spend a lot of time in Manhattan, where I have family.