Some fit, smart, lucky young lady out there is going to be my new (and I sincerely hope, forever) girlfriend!
What's in it for her? She gets a man who is approachable, honest, thoughtful, kind, considerate and almost freakishly empathic. It's important to me that those around me feel welcome, and included. I believe in protecting all living things. I'm a vegan, and though I'm a fairly amazing cook, I eat a mostly raw diet. (Still getting the hang of that, though.) I've always been healthy & fit. I'm not on any medications, and have the vital signs of a fit twenty year old. I would say I drink socially, though I could probably go the rest of my life without alcohol, and not notice. All my habits are carefully chosen. I'm in Mensa, which means I'm accustomed to being the smartest person in the room, though I try not to be a tool about it.
I like to sing, and dance, and have been known to do a little stage and screen acting. While I try to be a pacifist, mild tempered, and a gentle spirit, I'm also a military veteran with a concealed carry permit, who is not just handy with a gun, but also fairly deadly with a throwing knife, tomahawk, etc. I'm not saying I've knocked a lot of guys out, back in the day, but I can think of two occasions when I've had to knock a guy out while I was only wearing a bath towel. It sounds pompous as hell to say I'm an alpha male, but there it is. I've been trained in survival in any environment, including nuclear, biological & chemical warfare; have taught swimming, scuba, cpr & first aid, to name a few, and am seriously into self-sufficiency. Obviously, I can also build, make or fix almost anything. You'll never have to face a problem alone again, and I can't imagine anyone better to have in your corner, as partner, lover, confidant, confessor, agent, manager, muse, and soulmate. You'll always feel safe with me, because you'll always be safe with me.
You'll also feel spoiled. I'm an old fashioned gentleman, with flawless grammar, flawless manners, and an exhaustive knowledge of the manly arts. I always carry a handkerchief, open doors, hold-chairs, know which fork to use, proper etiquette for virtually any situation, and am the kind of man every young person should have as a mentor. I'm fairly expert on men's fashion, and know a million tiny details, like the difference between plaquette, fly, and French, or whether Egyptian is better than pima, and why staple length matters as much as thread count. I'm a blast to shop with. Even though I'm a bit of a clothes horse, I'm perfectly at home at a clothing optional beach, party, retreat, etc. Indeed, my ex-wife and I were both naked when we met. Though everyone has their quiet moods, I'm generally quite gregarious, can strike up a conversation and get along with virtually anyone and am never at a loss for something to say.
I feel like I want a partner whose kids are grown & on their own, so we can do whatever, whenever, though I did date a woman with five kids, aged 4 to 16 when we met, and I truly did love that. Those kids badly needed a mentor, and I need to be needed, so it worked out for everyone. She said I could make the most ordinary day a fun adventure, and we never did seem to stop laughing.
I'm looking for a woman who appreciates how special I am - - because she's the same way. I try to give more than I take, and I want that same trait in my mate. I want a woman who loves to hold hands, walk arm-in-arm, and pretty much carry on like teenagers. She should occasionally say, "race ya!" (There will be piggyback rides. J/s) I especially love it when my girl peels off my glove, while we're driving, so she can hold my hand skin-to-skin. I would love it if she had things she could teach me about.
This summer, among other things, we're going to watch some movies at the drive-in; going star-gazing while we're camped on the beach on Lake Michigan; going canoeing, and kayaking or taking out my little sailboat; playing in the garden; driving the motorcycle all over the place; going dancing; spending a weekend or two doing Chicago; going scuba diving; and spending a lot of time cuddled up together in bed while I finish writing this damned book; and we'll probably take up kiteboarding, or get our pilot's licenses or something fun. My relationship role models are Gomez & Morticia Addams but, somehow, I never found my Carolyn Jones...
So, what traits appeal to me in a woman?
Intelligence: Item 1. Gotta have it. Don't care about your grades, schooling, or degrees. (I've met countless imbeciles with graduate degrees - and Mensans who were high school dropouts!) I do care about finding someone who is curious about the world around her. Asks good questions, and likes to continually learn new things, share and talk about ideas and ideals.
Body type: This one isn't highly specific. I'm not attracted to bony girls, or the supermodel type. I like a sturdy girl with shapely, muscled limbs who looks like she's spent her life actually using her body, not just holding down a chair. Her waist has to be smaller than what's above & below it and, ideally, smaller than mine (29"). I prefer girls under 150 or so, unless she's taller than I am. I am not into body hair, at all. The smoother the better. There's another trait that's a little more private, but you can ask me about it directly. If you possess it, you get an instant 1,000 points! ;) I'm open to any race or nationality.
When we met, my last gf told me she was 31 and - after spending three months persuading me that she wasn't too young for me - eventually turned out to have been 24. I'm enforcing a new minimum age limit of 35, and checking ID's these days. I prefer a woman in her forties or possibly fifties, who has had as many kids as she's going to, and hasn't let herself go, but has made a lifestyle of staying healthy, fit, and attractive. Vegetarians automatically get another 1,000 points, Vegans, 2,000, Raw Vegans, 10,000!!! ;)
"Didn't you know? Todd's a vegan."
De-veganizing: "No vegan diet - No vegan powers!!!"
Meeting a stranger, who has caught your interest online, isn't really "a date."
A date is what you have after you decide that you don't want that person to remain a stranger.
A good first date includes a bit of mystery, some suspense, pleasant surprise, a lot of laughter, and feeling like you've made a meaningful connection.
I'm looking forward to us finding each other and, going out on that joyous, mesmerizing adventure that lasts all the rest of our lives!
What's the very best way to f*ck up a first date with me? Have pix posted of you as a size two, and show up as a size twelve. (My pix are recent, clear and accurate. There are multiple close-ups, and full-lengths. Please return the favor.) I've had this happen too many times to count, and I'm completely done with it. If you don't want to post pix you're on the wrong site - - use Craigslist.org, and if you're Khristian-Krispy, try Christianmingle.com. It's hard enough to find the perfect match without everyone playing games, being deceitful, and jerking each other around. And I'm not actually 45 - I just entered a random birthdate because I'm not that into identity theft. I don't alter my pix or appearance. You'll have to figure out how old I am for yourself, or ask me, just like everyone else you meet in real life.
You can't win if you don't play but, please, come correct, as the saying goes. Have pix that show what you look like. Then look like your pix. I've found lots of size eights attractive and, if their pix showed them as the same size eight I meet, we're golden. But if I go out expecting to meet the size zero from the pix, and a size eight gets out of the car, I'm being jerked around, and don't appreciate it. Passive aggression isn't a trait I seek in my mate.
Summer is almost here! Quit screwing around and show yourself!!! Let's set it off, baby!!!