Hello and thanks for stopping by; I truly appreciate your interest and hope you will like reading my profile; I would just like to say up front that unlike some other profiles you may have already seen here on this site, I prefer to be candid, honest, and realistic with no fluff or b.s. so you can have a better idea of what to expect going forward... so this is me!
Ready to embark on the next phase of my journey and looking for a fresh new start in the next chapter of my life and I would like to find someone special to join me for the ride; so here are a few basics that you will need to know about me for those who may possibly be interested; I'm gainfully employed with a full time job as a supervisor monday-thru-friday 8 to 10 hours a day and I'm a part time musician and songwriter in my spare time; I'm a keyboard player, bass player, drummer and vocalist. I write and produce my own original music and I also play keyboards in a local band. I also do the occasional DJ service for wedfings and parties, etc. and I am a live sound and studio engineer for recordings. I'm a very devoted and dedicated dad to my kids and my grandchild and I'm just looking for someone to be my best friend, my lover, my companion, my biggest supporter, someone to share good times and have great conversations with and hopefully make a great connection and just see where things will go from there; ultimately I would like to find someone that is family oriented and who is looking towards the future (very long-term, possibly even marriage) but of course we all need to start somewhere and keep things simple and easy at first which is why we are here; I'm the kind of guy that really doesn't care where we go or what we do whether its our 1st date or our 100th date as long as we are spending quality time together that's all that matters to me; I am also a strong believer in having good moral values and always being a true gentleman and living by the code of chivalry handed down from the old fashioned rules of treating a woman right; I have manners, morals, and a wicked sense of humor (although I can be quite cynical, but I'm realistic at the same time) and I do like to joke around and poke fun at everyday life (cuz let's face it we can't always take this crazy world so darn seriously all the time) but I am also a very responsible person and I know when to drop the fun and games and cut the crap and get serious; I don't have six pack abs and I'm not going to be on the cover of GQ magazine anytime soon so what you see is what you get and I'm currently working on getting healthier and making better choices and taking better care of myself; I don't care for the superficial types that judge people by their appearance in pictures or by the natural way that they look; exterior appearances are great and physical attraction is important in any relationship but true beauty and attractiveness comes from within; you don't need to be "eye candy" to be with me, just have a beautiful soul and a warm friendly personality and strong ethics, and a loving caring heart and that is enough for me; and something truly different about me than the other guys; I'm not into sports, and not a sports fan of any kind so you won't find me sitting on the couch glued to the TV watching ESPN all day long - ever! As a musician I'm into a lot of different and diverse types of music (except for country; sorry but I just can't hang with the twang-thang) and as I mentioned before, I am currently a member of a local band and we play live shows fairly often, I also like occasionally going out to see live concerts, dining out every once in a while or spending nice evenings out on the town, attending special events, and maybe even taking the occasional weekend getaway, or just being a homebody and having quiet evenings relaxing and watching movies, taking it easy, catching up on some rest, giving myself a nice relaxing break from the weekly grind; and it would be so much better and more enjoyable if I had someone special to share it all with!
A few non-negotiable things and possible deal breakers that may apply; I'm brutally honest and very blunt and I typically tell it like it is, so I don't sugar coat things and I get straight to the point; I absolutely hate drama and I try to avoid it as much as possible; I am non-religious (atheist) and I don't have any plans to change that anytime soon; I'm a left-leaning progressive liberal democrat and quite proud of it; I'm deathly allergic to pet dander so my future partner cannot own a dog or a cat, sorry it wouldn't work out between us (unless you have hypo-allergenic animals or they are strictly outdoor animals) my family is very close and important to me and I have 7 kids and 1 grandchild that are a big part of my everyday life so we are a package deal; and no those numbers are not a typo so please before you panic and hit the delete key and then click on the next guy's profile; 5 of them are grown adults and living on their own and the younger 2 live with their mother and I have regular scheduled visitations. And I get to see my grandchild at least once a month. So if you like kids then we will get along great, and if you have your own kids that's even better! Music is a lifelong passion and a daily staple in my life so I need someone who is open minded and understanding and willing to accept my musical lifestyle. I work in a particular field that is closely related to the music industry and I am a seasoned musician, composer, producer, and audio engineer so my life constantly revolves around musically oriented things 24/7 so it is a mainstay driving force in my life; and please note that I'm not rich and I don't have deep pockets of cash to throw around, so I live as comfortably as possible within my means; I'm in a tough situation at the moment due to some unfortunate and unforeseen circumstances, and I have a unique living arrangement so I would need to find someone who will be totally understanding and non-judgmental. And I would prefer to meet someone within my local area (north San Diego county) that lives close by to me as I've tried doing the long distance relationship thing in the past and they simply just don't work. Other than that, I'm a pretty laid back and sensible guy that just needs to find the right woman to complete the search...
So I'm really hoping to find that needle in the haystack, that diamond in the rough, that one special person that I will hopefully fall in love with and maybe even marry and grow old with someday... I'm not looking to endlessly date for the rest of my life, and it would be great if I could find the one woman that I will eventually call my wife :-)
However with that being said for those of you who are not interested in marriage I would also be quite happy just finding a seriously committed monogamous life partner :-)
If there is anything else that you would like to know about me, please feel free to send
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Meet up for a coffee or a drink? Maybe a nice lunch or dinner? Perhaps go for a nice walk in the park, or on the beach? I'm always open to suggestions and it really doesn't matter to me as I'm up for just about anything that will allow us to have a nice first meeting and just talk and connect and get to know each other better; so whatever makes you feel the most comfortable is perfectly fine with me, and we can see if there is a good connection and if there is any chemistry between us and just go from there; and of course there would be no pressure, and no specific expectations :-)
And if the chemistry or feeling just isn't right between us for dating then at least we have each made a new friend... :-)
Looking forward to meeting you real soon!
If not then happy fishing! :-)