First off, just call me Alex. If I have to describe myself in four adjectives- adventurous, witty,honest, shy.
Disclaimer; I am here seeking someone for a match of wits (intelligence), with a sense of humor (to trade jokes and also showing understanding) , and to start as a friend. And I know I need to do a lot more learning and understanding but that is what life is for. But either way, the other 'half' really, really needs a sense of humor. I mean I am never evil (by any sense of the word) but I simply can not express myself in 20 words or less. If i try, it comes out totally the opposite of what I meant to say-ask around, yeah that bad.... Let us begin or should I say let me end it. Another funny little story that stuck with me; When I was 13 I had a crush on my English teacher. I send her a note and she returned it, graded. My sense of humor was strong even then (although hidden) My sense of humor makes it impossible to hate anyone but, I took her grade very seriously (B- High 70's low 80s) mostly because I was afraid to fail her class but also that I swore to know the english language better than anyone. So the primary reasons for the grade was that I did not use an adjective for the word nice- excluding the- to be expected grammar mistakes. And you know what- it is still a good idea to never use the word nice- go out of the way and use an adjective. Which explains the disclaimer- I try to speak with you as a friend and a good friend will try to explain their ideas/opinions no matter what. After all, 'one can not please all the people all the time'; and once that is understood- then being yourself is the only logical path. If I said anything to annoy, my apologies but if you want to 'bite my head off' then be careful in choosing; one gets respect, the other will get me angry ( I am not saying which is which). Also can you answer one question of mine's...What is going on with the 'meet me feature' because if that is true then you can write one sentence to say hi. I use the meet me feature only if there is no profile to go by or I am in a hurry and did not read your profile aka not using it anymore.
I am comfortable in any kind of surroundings (including as a stand up comedian). I am here because I am a hopeless romantic that is very shy. Life taught me to laugh, and not to judge, and just take it easy. If you think I am leaving out my tastes in music or the movies out on propose then you are correct (too much to list). When I was growing up, I was taught that education came first and that everything else was temporary- so I was a bit of the loner even then, but I developed a strong love of movies and music. I seen all of the movies from the 1970- the present, before the 1970s I was selective but probably around 50%. In music, I love it all (except rap), maybe you can catch me off guard with a group I did not hear about, but I am more than willing to listen.
Debating if I should add this; but my wit is quick and outspoken. And today I will try to demonstrate... I saw on a few profiles (I do read what you write) that the common theme is "looking for a man's man" ( and along those lines) . So you can start with your definition of a man's man. Because the way I see it; Casanova went down in history as a man's man. He was born in a Bordello and not in a gym. So Mr. Universe he was not. He simply knew what women wanted. But Arnold would have described him as a "girlie man". And most of you want someone that is taller than you ( I am of average height-5' 7") which is fine I guess, but according to the women I grew up with-you all also have a fondness of high heals. So all I can say to that, is do not slap me but I am truly trying to look you in the eyes. And women in general love to talk and gossip. Which is fine with me. Because I like to listen, which is fine but I answer every now and then, which is a toss up. But half of you are looking for an intelligent man. Intelligent, really ?...I mean, are we here to find a cure for cancer or are we here to find a friend, soul mate, etc someone that we can have a meaningful conversation with ? But the last time I looked meaningful conversations implies having a heart not a PhD. Also another common theme is the love of the outdoors. Which I also love. To the extent that on viewbug (at least for now) where I show my photography my username is wideopenspaces (in other words copy/paste the following: http://www.viewbug.com/member/wideopenspaces). Thank god for my passion of the outdoors, because I was sent out A Lot (sometimes to get milk, sometimes to walk the dog, and sometimes I go before anyone says anything they might regret later). But the thing I like the most on one hand, you all say 'that he needs to carry a conversation'. And yet either your profiles are non-existent or your replies are." Hello, How are you ?" (got four of those) is not a reply. It is not a conversation- I really can not do anything with it. There was one profile- that stated "can not stand long profiles" and you guessed it - the profile was almost nonexistent- and what existed did not tell half the story. So I may generally agree with the profile- in this case- I disagree- are we not here to know another person ?-how else but through a profile- long or short as long as the idea is carried out. Although in other cases, I absolutely agree with Dragnet- an old detective TV series- "Just the facts m-am".
The ultimate short version of this lengthy profile is this; say hi if you want to. Ask any questions that you want an answer to. And have a great sense of humor (i do have a tendency to put my foot in my mouth, which I think I did in spades). I generally do not ask questions (the exceptions are some or rare depending on the circumstance). No need for that, actions speak louder than words.
Now if you really want to know me or just like to read, I can add the following. In regards to my username here; it was a combination of the first thing that came to mind ( I usually like to joke around) and that I am honest to a fault (thus, foot in mouth syndrome).
How to describe myself...Never knew how to answer that. So then I thought of- 'your passions show who you truly are'. So I started looking at my photos. I like the city ( having grown up in NYC) but I prefer the country and nature. I never could breach the first steps of dating ( that of starting a conversation- shown by my less than perfect portraits- it seems that initially i keep every one at bay, so I do not grasp the whole person, INITIALLY- do Not expect that I will never get to know you. But I am sensitive ( shown by my city life and still live photos) to the point of being romantic. Did I leave anything out ? If I did, then I guess you have your starting sentence to me.
Anything really, I'm pretty easy-going, I like being outside when it's warm. To me, movies are really only good after we do something else first, where we get to know each other a little(at a coffee shop for a cup of coffee and a good conversation).
Or;Mondays to Thursdays; let us meet for coffee and a good conversation. Maybe brunch or at a park. Fridays & Saturdays; same as M-Th but also add a comedy club, dancing, or whatever sounds interesting. Sundays-Your choice; I am flexible and I have the whole day.
I may sound boring, but this section is a little like- well to put it differently- being asked what you will do on vacation. We all know what we like to do on vacation. But once you get to your destination, you discover that you arrived during the rainy season, there are renovations going on at the place you will be staying and some of the places that you want to visit are/will be overcrowded (been there, done that- it was Cacun, Mexico). So I can honestly say there are two possibilities 1) you pack your things and go someplace else or 2) you deal with it. I am more with the latter possibility- I learned to deal with it, to change according to my surroundings. I may know what I like, what will be fun doing and what is the best for a first date, but I can adopt according to what the other says. After all, the most important aspect of any relationship is the ability of communication. Does that make me un-original or not spontaneous just because I like a simple place where we can talk and get to know one another (such as a coffee on a park bench, a day at the beach, walking on the Conley Island boardwalk , or strolling in Central Park ). Dinner/restaurant for a first date, probably not- as a movie once stated " If it is not going well, first you have to wait for the courses to be eaten and taken away and then you have to wait for the waiter ) to pay the bill. " In some cases time does not make the situation easier. Also, true the other can leave so I will be stuck at the table by my lonesome.