I am comfortable in any kind of surroundings (including as a stand up comedian). I am here because I am a hopeless romantic that is very shy (do not get me wrong I can talk to anybody it is just that asking someone out is what I am referring to-weird I know). So as a comedian might continue;
"Debating if I should add this; but my wit is quick and outspoken. And today I will try to demonstrate... I saw on a few profiles (I do read what you write) that the common theme is "looking for a man's man" ( and along those lines) . So you can start with your definition of a man's man. Because the way I see it; Casanova went down in history as a man's man. He was born in a Bordello and not in a gym. So Mr. Universe he was not. He simply knew what women wanted. But Arnold would have described him as a "girlie man". And most of you want someone that is taller than you ( I am of average height-5' 7") which is fine I guess, but according to the women I grew up with-you all also have a fondness of high heals. So all I can say to that, is do not slap me but I am truly trying to look you in the eyes.But half of you are looking for an intelligent man.Define intelligent. Intelligent, really ?...I mean, are we here to find a cure for cancer or are we here to find a friend, soul mate, etc someone that we can have a meaningful conversation with ? But the last time I looked meaningful conversations implies having a heart not a PhD. But I am not worried, I have both a heart and a PhD. "
To change pace; The serious version of the above:Someone once said that life is a illusion. We have our sights misdirected, we are taught what to think, and some will try to show us what to feel (using the other two methods-politicians,advertisements for example). But our emotions are the true constants (dogs are so far ahead of people in this regards). Learned at the beginning, from the streets and school. Then I concentrated my learning on books and college. Now, my areas of strength are reading people and places. But still, I have a way to go. A while ago, at work I met someone. I thought she just liked to talk and had a sense of humor. My colleagues ( a couple of therapists) said that she was flirting with me. Who knew ? Not I, did not pursue. I guess, what I am saying is; I may see when it does not have anything to do with me. But I am legally blind and stupid when it has something to do with me. So please, if you have something to say- spell it out for me, Also,how come a sense of humor and confidence are well developed in people that either do not care or care too much that it is used as a defense mechanism. So I guess, all I am saying is what I am looking for; is someone with a quiet dignity and a sense of humor.
How to describe myself...Never knew how to answer that. So then I thought of- 'your passions show who you truly are'. So I started looking at my photos. I like the city ( having grown up in NYC) but I prefer the country and nature. I never could breach the first steps of dating ( that of starting a conversation- shown by my less than perfect portraits). But I am sensitive, maybe because, I am sometimes blind or a dreamer ( shown by my city life and still live photos). Love animals, sometimes more than people.
I guess, all I am saying is; I have matured, and looking for the same. Not looking for games and hopefully it is returned. Looking for at least a friend to escape a dreary day with. I have felt chemistry and falling in love and know how it feels. So I will know if there is something there when meeting someone new. But I also just enjoy meeting new people.
The ultimate short version of this lengthy profile is this; say hi if you want to. Ask any questions that you want an answer to. And have a great sense of humor (i do have a tendency to put my foot in my mouth, which I think I did in spades). I generally do not ask questions (the exceptions are some or rare depending on the circumstance). No need for that, actions speak louder than words.
Anything really, I'm pretty easy-going, I like being outside when it's warm. To me, movies are really only good after we do something else first, where we get to know each other a little(at a coffee shop for a cup of coffee and a good conversation).
Or;Mondays to Thursdays; let us meet for coffee and a good conversation. Maybe brunch or at a park. Fridays & Saturdays; same as M-Th but also add a comedy club, dancing, or whatever sounds interesting. Sundays-Your choice; I am flexible and I have the whole day.
I may sound boring, but this section is a little like- well to put it differently- being asked what you will do on vacation. We all know what we like to do on vacation. But once you get to your destination, you discover that you arrived during the rainy season, there are renovations going on at the place you will be staying and some of the places that you want to visit are/will be overcrowded (been there, done that- it was Cacun, Mexico). So I can honestly say there are two possibilities 1) you pack your things and go someplace else or 2) you deal with it. I am more with the latter possibility- I learned to deal with it, to change according to my surroundings. I may know what I like, what will be fun doing and what is the best for a first date, but I can adopt according to what the other says. After all, the most important aspect of any relationship is the ability of communication. Does that make me un-original or not spontaneous just because I like a simple place where we can talk and get to know one another (such as a coffee on a park bench, a day at the beach, walking on the Conley Island boardwalk , or strolling in Central Park ). Dinner/restaurant for a first date, probably not- as a movie once stated " If it is not going well, first you have to wait for the courses to be eaten and taken away and then you have to wait for the waiter ) to pay the bill. " In some cases time does not make the situation easier. Also, true the other can leave so I will be stuck at the table by my lonesome.