I am comfortable in any kind of surroundings (including as a stand up comedian). I am here because I am a hopeless romantic that is very afraid of rejection (for years I thought I was shy but considering that I can talk with anybody and I am talking with anybody) So as a comedian might continue;
"Who writes some of these profiles; I saw on a few profiles (I do read what you write) that the common theme is "looking for a man's man" ( and along those lines) . So you can start with your definition of a man's man. Because the way I see it; Casanova went down in history as a man's man. He was born in a Bordello and not in a gym. So Mr. Universe he was not. He simply knew what women wanted. But Arnold would have described him as a "girlie man". And most of you want someone that is taller than you ( I am of average height-5' 7") which is fine I guess, but according to the women I grew up with-you all also have a fondness of high heals. So all I can say to that, is do not slap me but I am truly trying to look you in the eyes.But half of you are looking for an intelligent man.Define intelligent. Intelligent, really ?...I mean, are we here to find a cure for cancer or are we here to find a friend, soul mate, etc someone that we can have a meaningful conversation with ? But the last time I looked meaningful conversations implies having a heart not a PhD. But I am not worried, I have both a heart and a PhD. It is just that I use my heart and not my PhD. Do not even get me started about eyes- I mean there is a saying " You have eyes and yet you do not see" which means that sometimes the love of our lives is already next to you in your best friend. Since everybody is smarter than me; they left NYC so I truly have no best friends in NYC. Thus I am here. "
To change pace; The serious version of the above:Someone once said that life is a illusion. We have our sights misdirected, we are taught what to think, and some will try to show us what to feel (using the other two methods-politicians,advertisements for example). But our emotions are the true constants (dogs are so far ahead of people in this regards). Learned at the beginning, from the streets and school. Then I concentrated my learning on books and college. Now, my areas of strength are reading people and places. But still, I have a way to go.I guess, what I am saying is; I may 'see' when it does not have anything to do with me. But I am legally blind and stupid when it has something to do with me. So please, if you have something to say- spell it out for me, Also,how come a sense of humor and confidence are well developed in people that either do not care or care too much that it is used as a defense mechanism. So I guess, all I am saying is what I am looking for; is someone with a quiet dignity and a sense of humor.
How to describe myself...Never knew how to answer that. So then I thought of- 'your passions show who you truly are'. So I started looking at my photos. I like the city ( having grown up in NYC) but I prefer the country and nature. I never could breach the first steps of dating (shown by my less than perfect portraits). But I am sensitive, maybe because, I am sometimes blind or a dreamer ( shown by my city life and still live photos). Love animals, sometimes more than people.
I guess, all I am saying is; I have matured, and looking for the same. Not looking for games and hopefully it is returned. Looking for at least a friend to escape a dreary day with. I have felt chemistry and falling in love and know how it feels. So I will know if there is something there when meeting someone new. But I also just enjoy meeting new people. Although, here I am sorry but I stopped making the first move. I wrote (either in a humorous style or in a serious style) and I never got a return reply. So If you want to talk with me; it is all up to you. My hobbies complete me for now, that of reading, writing and photography. I can show my emotional side without the fear of rejection.
The ultimate short version of this lengthy profile is this; say hi if you want to. Ask any questions that you want an answer to. And have a great sense of humor (i do have a tendency to put my foot in my mouth). I generally do not ask questions (the exceptions are rare or depending on the circumstance). No need for that, actions speak louder than words. And keep in mind; love does have the tendency to round out the rough edges.
I do not know what a great first date is . I am accepting requests. But for me, it is..... .Anything really, I'm pretty easy-going, I like being outside when it's warm. To me, movies are really only good after we do something else first, where we get to know each other a little(at a coffee shop for a cup of coffee and a good conversation).
Or;Mondays to Thursdays; let us meet for coffee and a good conversation. Maybe brunch or at a park. Fridays & Saturdays; same as M-Th but also add a comedy club, dancing, or whatever sounds interesting. Sundays-Your choice; I am flexible and I have the whole day.
I may sound boring, but this section is a little like- well to put it differently- being asked what you will do on vacation. We all know what we like to do on vacation. But once you get to your destination, you discover that you arrived during the rainy season, there are renovations going on at the place you will be staying and some of the places that you want to visit are/will be overcrowded (been there, done that- it was Cacun, Mexico). So I can honestly say there are two possibilities 1) you pack your things and go someplace else or 2) you deal with it. I am more with the latter possibility- I learned to deal with it, to change according to my surroundings. I may know what I like, what will be fun doing and what is the best for a first date, but I can adopt according to what the other says. After all, the most important aspect of any relationship is the ability of communication. Does that make me un-original or not spontaneous just because I like a simple place where we can talk and get to know one another (such as a coffee on a park bench, a day at the beach, walking on the Conley Island boardwalk , or strolling in Central Park ). Dinner/restaurant for a first date, probably not.