First off, just call me Alex. If I have to describe myself in four adjectives- adventurous, witty,honest, shy.
OK, I see that my sense of humor was too much so I deleted part of this profile (no worries I did copy it into a word document- it was just too good to be deleted), or was it just too long. But just so you know- there are a lot of personality flaws that makes life almost impossible (being needy, egotistical/narcissistic, low self esteem). The best way to understand what I am saying is that no one is that great. We are all average (having the same experiences, thoughts and desires) so eliminate those personality flaws someone will come along , it is up to us to realize it when that person arrives. When I was younger I was either blind or looking the other way ( either at my studying or at a book) Anyway, having a sense of humor is not one of them, It actually helps with living life ( I know, the more problems I had; the stronger my sense of humor became). In other words, even if I know the other is making fun of me, I can still laugh ( as with an Asian saying "Always smile so the other does not know how you feel" then there is the Beatles song along the same lines). So loosen up- I saw what others were saying and how they were saying it. I was just trying to be a little more original. Because of a lack of responses- I am toning it down to the point of well in my opinion -'boring'. So I know I am leaving a lot out, so just ask me.
Disclaimer; I am here seeking someone for a match of wits (intelligence), with a sense of humor (to trade jokes and also showing understanding) , and to start as a friend. And I know I can start off as being crude in certain situations so I need to learn more understanding but that is what life is for. I try to speak with you as a friend and a good friend will try to explain their ideas/opinions no matter what. After all, 'one can not please all the people all the time'; and once that is understood- then being yourself is the only logical path. Or let me put it differently; I am looking for someone that after all is said and done, there will be no further use for words and just her company is enough.
Now some friendly advice: I read three profiles that read how the lady likes to be treated as a princess and what that meant and how to go about it. When a man truly loves a woman, the woman Will be Treated As A Princess. It is automatic. If that is not so- then the man either does not love you or does not know how (one exception: immediate=loan/ gradual=permanent). By you writing how you want to be treated as a princess- it comes out as a 'gold digger' or you being superficial. Because my best friends were women I thought to try to clarify a common short coming of men.
I am comfortable in any kind of surroundings . I am here because I am a hopeless romantic that is very shy (do not get me wrong I can talk to anybody it is just that asking someone out is what I am referring to-weird I know). Life taught me to laugh, and not to judge, and just take it easy. If you think I am leaving out my tastes in music or the movies out on propose then you are correct (too much to list). When I was growing up, I was taught that education came first and in the lack of true friendships developed a strong love of movies and music (taking film criticism just added to the fact). In music, I love it all (except rap), maybe you can catch me off guard with a group I did not hear about, but I am more than willing to listen. In these regards I may come out as a geek (also with comics and coin collecting).
The ultimate short version of this lengthy profile is this; say hi if you want to. Ask any questions that you want an answer to. And have a great sense of humor (i do have a tendency to put my foot in my mouth, which I think I did in spades). I generally do not ask questions (the exceptions are some or rare depending on the circumstance). No need for that, actions speak louder than words. But there is one question to be asked; " Has all the laughter and beauty gone out from this world " ? I feel that it is so, everyone is just so preoccupied with expectations. material aspects, preconceived notions of what others may think; even though the 'others' are very rarely listened to.
Anything really, I'm pretty easy-going, I like being outside when it's warm. To me, movies are really only good after we do something else first, where we get to know each other a little(at a coffee shop for a cup of coffee and a good conversation).
Or;Mondays to Thursdays; let us meet for coffee and a good conversation. Maybe brunch or at a park. Fridays & Saturdays; same as M-Th but also add a comedy club, dancing, or whatever sounds interesting. Sundays-Your choice; I am flexible and I have the whole day.
I may sound boring, but this section is a little like- well to put it differently- being asked what you will do on vacation. We all know what we like to do on vacation. But once you get to your destination, you discover that you arrived during the rainy season, there are renovations going on at the place you will be staying and some of the places that you want to visit are/will be overcrowded (been there, done that- it was Cacun, Mexico). So I can honestly say there are two possibilities 1) you pack your things and go someplace else or 2) you deal with it. I am more with the latter possibility- I learned to deal with it, to change according to my surroundings. I may know what I like, what will be fun doing and what is the best for a first date, but I can adopt according to what the other says. After all, the most important aspect of any relationship is the ability of communication. Does that make me un-original or not spontaneous just because I like a simple place where we can talk and get to know one another (such as a coffee on a park bench, a day at the beach, walking on the Conley Island boardwalk , or strolling in Central Park ). Dinner/restaurant for a first date, probably not- as a movie once stated " If it is not going well, first you have to wait for the courses to be eaten and taken away and then you have to wait for the waiter ) to pay the bill. " In some cases time does not make the situation easier. Also, true the other can leave so I will be stuck at the table by my lonesome.